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Glasgow -> Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:25:51 PM)
I was just talking to someone on Yahoo, who told me a frank goodbye because he believed I wasn't acting submissive enough to be 'real'. I never thought that acting like a normal person meant I was a fakey McFake-Fake :/

juliaoceania -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:28:34 PM)
I would ask, why do you care what someone on yahoo thinks. It is the same as wondering what the teller at your bank thinks... Seriously

Glasgow -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:29:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I would ask, why do you care what someone on yahoo thinks. It is the same as wondering what the teller at your bank thinks... Seriously I don't care what he thinks, but I'm just curious as to whether or not this is usual.

laurell3 -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:31:59 PM)
lol....ask him if when his boss goes off on him he tells the boss to get on his knees. No one acts ANYTHING all the time. Some people do prefer 24/7 as far dynamics go. Some don't. Dynamics generally don't start in first conversations though. Being submissive all the time is alot of work for the dominant. I have found many say things like that, but don't really mean it. My preference is for relationships that allow both parties to be what they are outside of the bedroom and occasional agreed upon orders. Idiots that expect you to "be submissive" in the first conversation, aren't worth worrying about in my opinion.

juliaoceania -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:32:28 PM)
Unfortunately it is usual. I have had unsolicited advice about my profile, telling me I was not submissive, etc... who cares, most of those people have never dominated a dog, much less a human being

peppermint -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:35:48 PM)
Being submissive is not like accepting an acting role. Every submissive has his/her own unique personality. Apparently you and this online Dom are not compatible. He doesn't realize that a submissive is not made in a cookie cutter process. I don't let people who tell me how I am supposed to behave bother me. I don't act submissive because it's not a role. Perhaps this online Dom you were chatting with feels the need to role play and expects the women he chats with to role play also.

NuevaVida -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:40:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow I was just talking to someone on Yahoo, who told me a frank goodbye because he believed I wasn't acting submissive enough to be 'real'. I never thought that acting like a normal person meant I was a fakey McFake-Fake :/ I'm always submissive to my owner, but then he's my owner. I did not begin to behave in a submissive manner to him until we had been talking a couple of months. Why would I submit to someone I don't even know? I'm sure a lot of "D-Types" may attempt this, however, and they probably succeed.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:51:41 PM)
My sub towards Me? Absolutely. How he interacts with others depends on the situation.

Lockit -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:55:36 PM)
Don't mention any nicks... But it is funny how one thing in a journal can be brought round to a possible connection to a thread. Darlin, the drama can stop with you. Maybe you don't need to shout from the rooftops, everything that happens with you. When are you going to get that? And if it is who I think it might be... he isn't too impressive himself. lol But what happens when he finds this thread? Drama, drama, drama.... Pretty soon, even the kinder people around here will give up on you. Pay attention, get off the computer or grow up.

bestheadyet -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 10:55:55 PM)
well said my fwend:)

Zevar -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/2/2010 11:07:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow I was just talking to someone on Yahoo, who told me a frank goodbye because he believed I wasn't acting submissive enough to be 'real'. I never thought that acting like a normal person meant I was a fakey McFake-Fake :/ Greetings Glasgow: Not acting submissive enough, aye? [;)] Never mind that someone who you spoke with on Yahoo judged you unfairly. If he is quick to judge and signs offline then this conduct says much of his inability to control his self centeredness. Regarding talking via YAHOO, it takes time to know people even in person let alone typing in a little box to a stranger. I know I am reserved at first when I speak with someone regardless of the venue. This venue of talking does leave much to be determined without all of the in person nuances naturally being present. Body language is missing and plays a BIG role with online communication among other gestures and facial expressions. Some of us are slower in getting to know others while some seem to be quicker. If you did not care to express your submissive ways to this man then that was your choice. Honor it. I am sorry he chose to dishonor you needing to go at your own pace. I say, if someone demands too much too quick then it is best to gracefully bid them well. I will NOT give my cell# to someone after speaking once. Trust needs to transpire prior to my deciding to allow someone to speak with me and above all be allowed access to my private and personal cell#. Keep in mind though I am prone to court a lady. The fast and quick approach drives this gentleman miles to the other direction. We all have our ways. I trust you will accept that your ways are worthy to be respected! Is this unusual? On the Internet nothing surprises me nor do I waste my time wondering if this or that is usual or not. I accept that it is more along the lines of …Live and Learn! If you know yourself to be real then dismiss the other nonsense. Just like water off the back of a duck. His loss I would suspect, aye? Take care of you!

HeavansKeeper -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 1:15:16 AM)
I don't like my submissive being obedient and awaiting orders 24/7, but should an order come, I desire the power exchange to quickly be remembered. I like a clingy partner, always holding onto my hand or my shirt (if my hands are busy) and always there with kisses on the cheek and ears... It's silly stuff, but I like it. I would grow bored of always having a robot at my side. As a piece of rhetoric, how does one define "acting submissive"? Does it mean remembering one's place or does it mean kneeling in silence awaiting orders? I like the former, and dislike the latter.

allthatjaz -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 2:01:14 AM)
What is acting submissive ? Does he mean you don't say 'Sir' before and after every sentence? does it mean you have to agree with everything he says? does it mean you have to behave meekly all the time? Does it mean your not staying in role? If so then what silly nonsense! The most wonderful submissives I know (mainly maisy-jayne) are happy, gregarious, intelligent, have firm opinions on things and most certainly don't have to spend their whole life licking ass. They are themselves within their submissive personality. Its never switched on and its never switched off. It can be so beautifully subtle or it can be breathtakingly full on depending on every given moment.

phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 3:16:19 AM)
for me i am submissive its who i am i am not on my knees waiting for orders i get on with life and love but how i talk and act are who i am its part of me . i only am submissive to my master others can see it especially if they know the lifestyle but i wouldn't just submit to anyone will i am my masters only. so no i dont act sub i am a sub and yes i am 24/7

BentUnit -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 3:41:22 AM)
Even the most dedicated sub needs room and time to themselves where there is no expectations and pressure. Not a sub 24/7.....the man is a idiot.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 3:41:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow I was just talking to someone on Yahoo, who told me a frank goodbye because he believed I wasn't acting submissive enough to be 'real'. I never thought that acting like a normal person meant I was a fakey McFake-Fake :/ Make sure mommy and daddy don't find out...

DarkSteven -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 3:57:04 AM)
WTF? Glasgow, you are in service to a Master. You are required to be submissive to that man, but you are required to submit to nobody else unless he specifically orders it. Not only is a sub not required to be sub 24/7, they also are not required to be sub to anyone that they do not serve. You currently have a Master who you cannot see for a year, you (from another thread) are talking to an ex who wants you to teach him to be a Dom, and you're speaking online to Dom wannabees. Cool your heels, woman, and devote yourself to your master. If that's not possible, ask yourself why you're submitting to him at all.

lally2 -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 4:09:09 AM)
if someone cant take into account that youre 18 and full of youreself then you should really avoid them. i dont think you should be looking for a Dominant to teach you or tell you '(how) to be submissive' - if thats in you to be then fine, but it has to come from within you as something you want to give, not something that you want to have taken. all horny an all i know, but nuts and bolts of this is - you will respond submissively when that energy develops toward someone who inspires you to really want to please them and i do mean, really want. until then, my suggestion would be to have fun, avoid twats like that and take youre sweet time.

BitaTruble -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 7:26:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow I was just talking to someone on Yahoo, who told me a frank goodbye because he believed I wasn't acting submissive enough to be 'real'. I never thought that acting like a normal person meant I was a fakey McFake-Fake :/ Are you behaving the way your Master wants? That's all that matters.

NuevaVida -> RE: Do you expect subs to act submissive 24/7? (8/3/2010 7:48:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper As a piece of rhetoric, how does one define "acting submissive"? Does it mean remembering one's place or does it mean kneeling in silence awaiting orders? I like the former, and dislike the latter. Well this is a question worth grinning at. :) From my own perspective, I'm just my own charming little personality, whether in the bedroom or out, whether he's telling me to do something or not. Since his authority over me is 24/7, it would seem only logical to me that my submission to that authority is also 24/7. As for the OP. I had no idea you already have a master. He is the one who should be advising you on this.

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