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sexyred1 -> RE: RAGE..the Good, the Bad and the Ugly (8/8/2010 2:52:18 PM)
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I used to have a very bad temper. I have learned that all the things that enraged me were better handled by NOT being so angry.
Rage is anger based in intense fear, fear of loss, fear the unknown, intense frustration.
Some of the things that used to enrage me are just stupid now...once someone has actually experienced real trauma in their lives, the silly things just don't push your buttons anymore.
Maturity is realizing, as many have said here, that you know the limits to what you have control over and what you can effect change with.
Rage is just an immature response and it really is ego run amok.
The only time I imagine I would feel rage again is if someone attempted to hurt my family in any way; but even then, I would have better ways of addressing it.
As for coping mechanisms, tried them all and now the best one is to remain calm, and remove yourself from whatever situation or person that inspires the rage.
Also, after being with someone who expressed rage easily, I recognize how unacceptable and unattractive people are who show rage. They try to call it being dramatic, but it really is just self centered and childish to display rage.
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