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ORIGINAL: Lockit

One of my motto’s in life has always been to live true to yourself. Living true to myself hasn’t always been easy because there is sometimes a cost in it all. Living true to who I am means I first must know who I am and then make sure that the things in life I can control, align with who and what I am. The choices I make in living true to myself can be tough at times, but I am comfortable with the results because I am being true to what I believe and want.

I have heard it more times than I wanted to… that people should accept less because they somehow think they are less and find someone acceptable rather than a true fit, just so that they are not alone. I see this as a fear of being alone and a way to cheat yourself and another person of what could really be good rather than simply acceptable.

I read a journal entry today that was saying to those who are older, to basically consider they are older and it is harder to find someone simply because they are older and not the young one everyone wants and to consider that so that they don’t end up alone. Stop being so picky. I cannot agree that this is the answer for me as long as I'm being reasonable and realistic.

Being reasonable… knowing at almost fifty three years old, the likelihood of a man young enough to be my son would wish to be with me for the rest of my life is nil and knowing I am not the hot body I was… means I make good choices and not fool myself, but really… is it wise to compromise yourself because you aren’t on the list of hot people seeking?

I would rather be alone than to be with someone that wasn’t right for me and how I wish to live my life. I feel that if I accepted less, I would not only cheat myself, but them of what could happen if they found someone who could love them and fit them in a way I never could.

What do you all think? Would you accept less because you are somehow less in your own mind or in the mind of someone else? Are you afraid to be alone and because you are, would you be with someone you knew you couldn’t have it all with, just to prevent being alone? Do you think accepting less would be fair to you or your partner? I know I am not covering every aspect of this, so feel free to add to it or show me a thing or two! lol

I have strong opinions on this and I am not hiding them at all here! lol I would not really judge someone who did compromise as it might sound as if I would. I do understand and I would and do seek to understand better what someone else would think or feel. But for myself, I see it certain ways and couldn't... at least not at this point in life. lol Who knows... I could view it quite differently somewhere down the road!

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

FR....

It is better to be alone than to wish you were......

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

One of my motto’s in life has always been to live true to yourself. Living true to myself hasn’t always been easy because there is sometimes a cost in it all. Living true to who I am means I first must know who I am and then make sure that the things in life I can control, align with who and what I am. The choices I make in living true to myself can be tough at times, but I am comfortable with the results because I am being true to what I believe and want.

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I have heard it more times than I wanted to… that people should accept less because they somehow think they are less and find someone acceptable rather than a true fit, just so that they are not alone. I see this as a fear of being alone and a way to cheat yourself and another person of what could really be good rather than simply acceptable.

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is it wise to compromise yourself because you aren’t on the list of hot people seeking?

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What do you all think? Would you accept less because you are somehow less in your own mind or in the mind of someone else? Are you afraid to be alone and because you are, would you be with someone you knew you couldn’t have it all with, just to prevent being alone? Do you think accepting less would be fair to you or your partner?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Truthfully, when folks bring those kinds of statements up, they are hoping people will settle for less than what they want.  The reasons for the remarks in the first place is that they know that there isn't anyone who is willing to settle for them.  They know they aren't able to get someone in their life as they are.  Rather than making some self improvements to be a more compatible partner (the things they can control), the line of thinking is that the standards of others is too high.  When it comes down to it, there are a lot of things that are out of our control (age being a good example) but there are always areas where we can improve.  When people talk about they want others to settle, I'm usually hearing the underlying message of that person isn't really doing much in the self improvement department.

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I don't expect any one person on this planet to meet every possible preference that I might have, but if it's less than 85-90% of what I want, it's not going to happen.

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

I was anxious about being alone at one time. Since then though I've gotten comfortable enough with being on my own that anyone coming in would be a major imposition, cramping my style - so they'd better be everything I want with no negatives whatsoever 'cause there aint gonna be any compromise here!

All in all I'm finding it works for me being alone, doing as I want when I want, no one to accomodate or fret over (except cats). And if I do want company well its easy enough to obtain with the advantage of being able to throw them out when I want or need to.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

He can't have sex with you.. and that is a very important difference