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What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 4:05:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		What makes a submissive feel controlled? I mean in a good way lol. What makes you really feel your submission?
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 4:07:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's not just about sex. If Master is on the sofa and i am laying at His feet as we watch TV and He places His feet on my back. i feel His control. i feel safe, loved, controlled.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 5:55:47 AM   
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What makes a submissive feel controlled? I mean in a good way lol. What makes you really feel your submission?


With me it has always been in the sound of His voice.  It can be something as simply put as 'come here' to something He whispers in the middle of a sexual scene.  It is the most beautiful thing i have ever felt.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 6:33:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for qualifying with "the good way." :)

Feeling controlled is a very different thing from feeling submission.

Which question are you asking?

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 6:36:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		for me its when i do something that i dont really want to be doing, that when i feel the most controled. but for me thats good because i dont always do what i should.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 7:31:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with the above, the most control that I feel is when I'm expected to do something that I find difficult.  That is when I have to process and look at my feelings.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 8:42:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		when this one trusts her Owners and feels safe in their hands ...she is then able to let go and give up her own control ............she takes baby steps towards this goal daily....as they work with her and nurture her.....for when this one begs collar......she will no longer have any control left...all is in her Owners hands

trust + safe=letting go  >  100%Owners control

not all are able to keep this one on her knees and in her place,(97% are not capable)......... but shes been there briefly a time or two.................but as trust issues came into play this one could not let go of her control

it doesnt always to do with yanking a girls hair back

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 9:02:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well with me it's when W/we are out, say shopping or anywhere vanilla, and i have been bratty... all Master has to do is give a look, and i am straight back where i should be.  That's control for me anyway and i just melt when He does that.
 
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 9:05:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to agree that it's when I am doing something I don't really want to do...and then find that I have "enjoyed" it because I did it just to please him.  Of course, he knows that also...so the controlled feeling is doubled.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 12:37:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Interesting question. In our relationship, I equate his control with his care and concern, so in a lot of ways, its the same thing for me. Its the tone of voice, and the look in his eyes. Its the playful and not so playful slaps that I get just cuz he chooses to do that. Its the way I now put the toilet paper on the wall, and the way the table gets set. It's the way I fold his laundry, and the way I prepare his food. All of those things, and so many more have been areas in which he has taken the time to teach me, to train me, to change how I think to serve him more fully to his pleasure. And each time I do those things, I feel his control as well as his love.
 
Also in the 'good' category is when I'm not at my best. And I get the other tones of voice and the other looks...because I know he will only allow me to go so far before he brings me back to where I need to be. He corrects me because he cares, he lectures because he wants me to be at my best. All of that makes me feel controlled, and brings about my submission.
 
 

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 2:25:33 PM   
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What makes a submissive feel controlled? I mean in a good way lol. 


When he says cum for me baby   ;)

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 4:10:43 PM   
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Thank you for qualifying with "the good way." :)

Feeling controlled is a very different thing from feeling submission.

Which question are you asking?


Both lol..... I started to (and perhaps should have) did two threads, but I figured cram it all in one. So answer both or one or the other as you see fit, LA.
 
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 4:12:23 PM   
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when this one trusts her Owners and feels safe in their hands ...she is then able to let go and give up her own control ............she takes baby steps towards this goal daily....as they work with her and nurture her.....for when this one begs collar......she will no longer have any control left...all is in her Owners hands

trust + safe=letting go  >  100%Owners control

not all are able to keep this one on her knees and in her place,(97% are not capable)......... but shes been there briefly a time or two.................but as trust issues came into play this one could not let go of her control

it doesnt always to do with yanking a girls hair back


fyre, I loved your answer.
 
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 6:26:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Thank you for qualifying with "the good way." :)

Feeling controlled is a very different thing from feeling submission.

Which question are you asking?


Both lol..... I started to (and perhaps should have) did two threads, but I figured cram it all in one. So answer both or one or the other as you see fit, LA.
 
And you're welcome
 
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Feeling controlled: being reluctant to do something I know I should do, yet doing it anyway because he knows it's for my own good and doing it would please him.  He has a pretty good idea of where I draw my limits; words or even a look from him will give me that nudge I need to do what I need to.

Feeling submissive: being happy knowing I've managed to make him happy, even if just for a while.


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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 7:21:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it is when I know that I cannot in any way shape or form run rings about him.That he is too savvy and aware of exactly what I am doing and puts a stop to it...Tempting

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/20/2006 9:35:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		The physical part is a no-brainer in the minds of most of us. I love to be physically grabbed by the hair - have mentioned this one frequently in response to similar questions.

How about orgasm control? That's way fun too!



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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/21/2006 5:07:22 AM   
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/21/2006 6:24:52 AM   
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What makes a submissive feel controlled?

I feel most controlled when I am in hard bondage- chains, cages, manacles- things I know I can't break out of or twist or untie.
 
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What makes you really feel your submission?

I feel most submissive when my service is flawless and invisible.

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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/21/2006 6:28:53 AM   
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RE: What makes a submissive feel controlled? - 4/21/2006 11:19:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would have to say I feel the most controlled when I get that "look" that tells me he is amused by my rationalizations, but not fooled at all into letting me get away with whatever I may be trying, (even subconciously), to get away with.

I have to really know I can't think circles around my dominant.

(Having a fist in my hair, and deep voice whispering "Mine!" in my ear really works too. )

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