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How does it work - 8/14/2010 1:51:47 PM

Kadu12

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and can anyone answer but myself???

I'm a free spirit, a traveller. My home is really where I lay my hat, my prefered sexual tastes have led me here.

I'm a submissive female with a very independant nature... in my real life and online in more vanilla surroundings I attract submissive males, it seems to be the way my life.

Online I struggle with some of the attitude of the 'Doms' that contact me - I'm hoping not to offend anyone here, not sure I'll manage that!!!

In lots of litrature I read they say 'if your into the Dom/sub lifestyle,turn off your computer now'...but where do I go??

Confused.com

xx

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RE: How does it work - 8/14/2010 2:23:03 PM

Focus50

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It "works" by you using your own common sense and *listening* to your instincts. The Net allows anonymity for all manner of wannabes and arsewipes to behave in a manner they'd never dare in front of a r/l female. It also allows married types to cheat without actually cheating in r/l, so expect to get led on by horn-dogs who will always have an excuse to avoid actually meeting.

You're female AND submissive, plus you're "new meat" onsite; your inbox will get flooded by timewasters, horndogs and net geeks. Even worse for you if you tend to attract submissive males, as well.... But mostly it'll be "doms" hoping you're naive enough to be guilted by your own submissive label and stroke their obnoxious ego's in anyway they demand of you. Hence the warning about serious peoples turning off their computer....

But smart people can negotiate the malaise - just stick to your principles and treat the obnoxious (or anyone, really) as they treat you. Just don't ever think you're gonna make everyone happy or that it's actually possible to answer all the mail you get. Reply to the sincere (less than 10%) and ignore and even block the rest.

And welcome... :)

Focus.

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RE: How does it work - 8/14/2010 3:21:11 PM

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Well said Focus50, and it relay is a bit sad to think that less than 10% are sincere but its true :(

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RE: How does it work - 8/14/2010 5:03:40 PM

kiwisub12

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Where do you come up with 10%?

I ask because everyone that i have contacted has acted authentically, and the ones i've met from cm are DEFINITELY authentic. The majority of cmails i get are regular cmails - nothing fake or poser there.
I think 10% is grossly underestimated.

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RE: How does it work - 8/14/2010 11:02:06 PM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Where do you come up with 10%?

Just a best guess approximation from the mailboxes I've seen of r/l fem/subs I've known personally.

And for that matter, thanks to the amount of form-mail I get from 50lb African subs (replete with their lily white Caucasian pics), my own mail ranks less than 10% sincere, too....

Your mileage is obviously different - but you're not brand new fem meat round here, either. ;)

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 3:20:30 AM

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Hi Kadu - welcome to cm!

You will find there are a fair few 'internet warriors' who demand you follow their instructions and immediately bow down to their domly pixels. Not saying these are ALL bad guys - they're just not the sort of guy I'm looking for - and I guess you're the same. My response is to interact politely, tell them nicely that you don't think it's appropriate that they call you 'girl', or make demands. If they choose to be offended, then so be it. They're not the one for you. Ignore and move on.

Those who send offensive 'on your knees bitch' type messages - just report the message, block and move on. Don't respond to them and feed their sad, fragile, lonely little egos.

You will find good guys on here. I have personally met several wonderful guys - even had relationships with one or two! Just keep ploughing through the crap and every now and then someone who meets your standards/needs/criteria/whatever will appear.

Stay positive!

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 4:02:29 AM

IronBear

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Simple answer to the male wanna be master time wasters kadu, take a large carving knife and cleave their genitals off (metaphorically or pixially) and then block and delete. I'm rteasonably sute you will enjoy your time here and meet some excellent people who are real and live what they preach.

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 6:13:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Where do you come up with 10%?

Just a best guess approximation from the mailboxes I've seen of r/l fem/subs I've known personally.

And for that matter, thanks to the amount of form-mail I get from 50lb African subs (replete with their lily white Caucasian pics), my own mail ranks less than 10% sincere, too....

Your mileage is obviously different - but you're not brand new fem meat round here, either. ;)

Focus.

Then your claim is that less than 10% of incoming emails are from people who are real. If the scammers send more emails than the real folks, it is NOT equivalent to less than 10% of the people being real.

DarkSteven the statistician

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 8:51:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kadu12

and can anyone answer but myself???

I'm a free spirit, a traveller. My home is really where I lay my hat, my prefered sexual tastes have led me here.

I'm a submissive female with a very independant nature... in my real life and online in more vanilla surroundings I attract submissive males, it seems to be the way my life.

Online I struggle with some of the attitude of the 'Doms' that contact me - I'm hoping not to offend anyone here, not sure I'll manage that!!!

In lots of litrature I read they say 'if your into the Dom/sub lifestyle,turn off your computer now'...but where do I go??

Confused.com

xx

It's real simple. You use the computer as the tool it was meant to be, find the munch that is closest to you, and then you attend at the date/time specified. If you don't want to deal with the crap that is on the internet, it's not really a requirement. People were doing this thing long before it became electronic. It can still work that way.

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 10:09:01 AM

Kadu12

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Thanks to everyone who's answered my question...I'm new to this as you can probably guess!!!

Can anyone let me know the easiest way to find a local Munch, I've tried google

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 10:16:37 AM

myotherself

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best way is to get yourself a profile on informedconsent dot co dot uk. There is a section in there which lists all the local munches throughout the UK. You don't give your general location, so I can't help further.

If you get stuck, or need a little pointing in the right direction, drop me a PM (private mail - the icon is under my avatar) and I'll give you a hand

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 10:58:08 AM

Musicmystery

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quote:

I struggle with some of the attitude

People continually seem to think all this should be easy.

It's no different than vanilla dating. Meet a lot of people, get to know them, spend time with those with "keepers" potential.

And when it doesn't work out, just move on without bitterness. It's the point of dating, to try people on, see how they fit.

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 1:55:38 PM

Kadu12

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

quote:

I struggle with some of the attitude

People continually seem to think all this should be easy.

It's no different than vanilla dating. Meet a lot of people, get to know them, spend time with those with "keepers" potential.

And when it doesn't work out, just move on without bitterness. It's the point of dating, to try people on, see how they fit.

Not quite...in vanilla dating, guys don't want to inflict pain just to get their rocks off

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 1:56:57 PM

Kadu12

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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

best way is to get yourself a profile on informedconsent dot co dot uk. There is a section in there which lists all the local munches throughout the UK. You don't give your general location, so I can't help further.

If you get stuck, or need a little pointing in the right direction, drop me a PM (private mail - the icon is under my avatar) and I'll give you a hand

Thanks for that, I'll try what you've suggested xx

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RE: How does it work - 8/15/2010 11:53:47 PM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Where do you come up with 10%?

Just a best guess approximation from the mailboxes I've seen of r/l fem/subs I've known personally.

And for that matter, thanks to the amount of form-mail I get from 50lb African subs (replete with their lily white Caucasian pics), my own mail ranks less than 10% sincere, too....

Your mileage is obviously different - but you're not brand new fem meat round here, either. ;)

Focus.

Then your claim is that less than 10% of incoming emails are from people who are real. If the scammers send more emails than the real folks, it is NOT equivalent to less than 10% of the people being real.

DarkSteven the statistician

People?

Note I said "my own *mail* ranks less than 10% sincere". No reference to individual senders....

If "DarkSteven the statistician" really must nit-pick over semantics, do take the time to absorb that which you read BEFORE making with the corrective lecture.

Hell, you could even address the topic while you're in here.... *wink*

Focus.

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RE: How does it work - 8/16/2010 1:11:55 AM

IronBear

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Using my own mail here and after checking with Neets, our combined mail is roughly spam,wankers, and our friends who have problems with the eritten word in Ghana. The rest, (50%), appear to me genuine with half of those are people here in CM who I have had the pleasure of enjoying their company here on the boards. Some have even become firm friends or at least good acquaintences in the real world too. Yet I do know some whose mail comprises of roughly people showing real interest (2% to 20%) and the bulk are agreesive, rude wannabes, spams artists, scams arttists and our folk from Ghana.

I would then postulate that both the "newness", gender and content of the profile, not to mention the addition of enticing photos if posted, attracts the ratbags but probably doesn't drive away the good people.. Some like me prefer to size someone up on the boards first for a while prior to making some form of contact.

< Message edited by IronBear -- 8/16/2010 1:16:50 AM >

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RE: How does it work - 8/16/2010 8:16:28 AM

Kadu12

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

Using my own mail here and after checking with Neets, our combined mail is roughly spam,wankers, and our friends who have problems with the eritten word in Ghana. The rest, (50%), appear to me genuine with half of those are people here in CM who I have had the pleasure of enjoying their company here on the boards. Some have even become firm friends or at least good acquaintences in the real world too. Yet I do know some whose mail comprises of roughly people showing real interest (2% to 20%) and the bulk are agreesive, rude wannabes, spams artists, scams arttists and our folk from Ghana.

I would then postulate that both the "newness", gender and content of the profile, not to mention the addition of enticing photos if posted, attracts the ratbags but probably doesn't drive away the good people.. Some like me prefer to size someone up on the boards first for a while prior to making some form of contact.

Oooooh I do believe I've just been spanked for my photo

Anyway, I did as suggested regards Informedconsent....there's a munch on Tuesday very close to me, all I need to do now is take a deep breath, put on my bravest head and attend!!

xx

< Message edited by Kadu12 -- 8/16/2010 8:18:16 AM >

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RE: How does it work - 8/16/2010 9:13:18 AM

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I don't understand how so few people say that there are so many fakers and pretenders or idiots on this site cm, and make so much noise about it. What I think it is that these people who complain are the Master/bottoms who are not accepted by who ever they reply to their profiles or do not hear from them again after the first response they send to them. Just because you are not accepted by someone DOES NOT MAKE THEM FAKERS OR INSINCERE it is because they are not interested in YOU, period.

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RE: How does it work - 8/16/2010 9:22:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: nastytop76

I don't understand how so few people say that there are so many fakers and pretenders or idiots on this site cm, and make so much noise about it. What I think it is that these people who complain are the Master/bottoms who are not accepted by who ever they reply to their profiles or do not hear from them again after the first response they send to them. Just because you are not accepted by someone DOES NOT MAKE THEM FAKERS OR INSINCERE it is because they are not interested in YOU, period.

Thank you. Someone else who actually GETS it. Kudos.

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RE: How does it work - 8/16/2010 10:45:38 AM

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Think I may start a new thread....

'Frauds and scammers' you guys can argue to your hearts content on there???

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