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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Would you introduce your 18-year-old daughter to the lifestyle? (8/15/2010 1:18:06 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom
If she was asking me about it and was into it, yes I'd direct my (hypothetical, since I don't have children) Adult child to this.
Now I wouldn't play with her, or arrange people for her to play with or nothing, but I would teach her about toys and how to use them safely, and point out books to her on the subject she might like, and how to play safely and she should always have her own toy bag for insertables and things that could spread diseases, but not only that because she'd have a few basics she knew SHE liked, and that would sometimes make play easier to do, and what to do if play should go wrong, and safety gear to keep in her toy bag, like good sizzers for cutting rope, and how to find munches, and play parties and events that she could go to and have fun at and be safe.
It'd be just like anything else in her life I taught him or her to do safely.
My kid knew *vaguely* that I was into this, even before he was 18. By 18, definitely. Yes, I knew that he leans toward this, I learned by watching tv with him, how he reacts...nakedness doesn't push his buttons, but D/s behavior does. He felt abnormal about this, wanting the women to have more clothes on, lol, more mystery about them than the bikini allowed. We watched Etrapment together and he almost caught on fire. The blindfolded scene, where the girl had to learn to "dance" through some ropes that represented the pattern of red beams that would sound an alarm if one of them were interrupted. Connery "training" the girl like this blew my kid away, lol.
Yes, I was suprised.
My cousin was also surprised when her son went into D/s. She isn't, but knew that I was. [:D] They live in Ohio and I had nothing to do with "corrupting" him, he found everything he needed on the internet.
I would mentor my son the same way I mentor others...it's non sexual, no rituals, no roleplay. I guide them into reading and then we discuss it. I am here to answer any question they throw at me to the best of my ability. I am their anchor as they start exploring with other people, and I make myself available to them 24/7 if they need help during subdrop or with having a safe caller.
Everything Toppingfrmbottom mentioned, I cover. Yes, if he ever gets unbashful enough, I will take him to buy toys even for masturbation and tell him how to take care of them and be safe. (I have had to intervene on several unsafe things already.) I will show him how to make floggers, etc.
He's an adult in this state at 18, but cannot go into a bar until he is 21. He is almost 21 now, and whenever he is old enough, I will encourage him to go to munches with me.
If/when he ever wants to scene, he will have read several books and know most everything in advance so all he will have to deal with is the initial awkwardness and...feelings. All of us have to gain our own experience over time, but I will be there for him.
When my sister's daughter learned how to drive a car...in Texas it was required that a teenaged driver have a licensed adult driver in the car with them for the first year. One time the roads were icy, and mom (living in WV) told my sister to take my niece out. Go to a big empty parking lot and then have her drive. Get her used to what to expect when the road is iced up. I feel the same way about D/s. I am not just going to hand my son the keys and walk away, leaving him to sink or swim.
Some people would use mentoring as an excuse for taking advantage of someone else. I am totally against that.
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