NuevaVida
Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: WyldHrt
quote:
If You truly have given your power and will over to your owner, and a decision is made, then the decision is made. If you didn't trust his/her judgement, would you be there for the long haul in the first place?
Sometimes I feel that too many people here are playing at power exchange, and don't have the balls to live it.
This surprised me, coming from you. First off, the question was asked of both subs and slaves, inviting a variety of responses from people in various dynamics. The above smacks unpleasantly of 'one twue way' to me, suggesting that power exchange is either 'no limits' TPE or nothing. That is not the case. There are nearly as many dynamics out there as there are people living WIIWD, as there is no one way that is better than another. There is only what works for a given couple, partnership, or household.
It surprised me, too. 
We have all walked whatever roads our lives have taken us, and we're affected by them. As someone who was in a long term relationship (if one considers several years long term) and had a tattoo of his creation inked on me, and who was later dropped by said owner, I have huge reservations about ever doing that again. This has nothing to do with balls or playing vs. "truly" giving my power over. Sometimes things just don't feel right for people - maybe it's a tattoo, maybe it's loading the fucking dishwasher - sometimes people have had trauma that they are still working through. (I mention dishwasher because it took me about 5 years to recover from the dishwasher trauma that occurred in my marriage)
quote:
I find it hilarious that on the one hand, s-types are told that they are always ultimately responsible for their own well-being; while on the other hand, they are told that not giving themselves totally to their Dom in all ways means that they are 'playing' at being submissive. No wonder so many new folks are confused!
I don't find it hilarious, but I do find it disappointing.
As for the OP's question, I'm not in the kind of relationship where such decisions are made at whim without discussion as to how it might affect me - physically, mentally and emotionally. My well being is more important to him than what he might want of my body.
Weight Loss? I began a weight loss program before we met, and have successfully continued. Yes, he wanted the weight to come off, too, but trusted that I had a healthy handle on it, so his only input has been to encourage me along the way. I didn't need to be ordered to lose weight, and he didn't put me on a specific diet. I think the problem with weight loss orders is that many dominants do not know/understand a healthy diet to begin with, so their instructions are often unsuccessful, leaving the submissive/slave to feel like a failure. My last owner felt that calling me a fat pig and having me root around the floor and snort for him would humiliate me enough to lose weight. I gained 30 pounds while with him. I'd call his methods counter-productive. 
Surgery? It would be talked about. I think the question in the OP can really only be answered with this. I doubt anyone who has gone through modification woke up one morning to their masters saying "You know, I think I want you to have breast augmentation" and the slave simply saying "Absolutely, Master!". As for me, I've talked about having mine reduced when I'm done losing weight, and he says "We'll talk about it when the time comes."
Tattoos? He doesn't like tattoos, but after my last experience, he is sensitive to this subject. We spoke of having mine removed but it is very costly and painful. Just last weekend we spoke of having it converted to something else, and that's what he agreed on. So now - together - we will choose something fitting for me.
But that's the thing with us - we talk about things and he considers my input. We are in this together. While he makes the ultimate decision, I am part of the process. So I can't honestly say "No I'd never do that" because maybe after talking things through, I'd feel differently. Then again, maybe after talking things through he'd feel differently. But we don't know until we talk.
So after all that, my short answer would be "It depends." 
_____________________________
Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.
|
RE: How far would you go to ensure your Master is Happy... - 
Profile
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread