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RE: When is it time - 8/25/2010 10:59:42 AM

afkarr

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I've found that it's pretty much a process of self elimination; eventually the ones who are not compatible weed themselves out, there are many I've met in person where we just didn't "clcik", yet I've stayed friends wth some of those. As far as who to play with exclusively, it seems like once your narrow down the choices to those who are compatible not only kink wise, but vanilla wise, thse who are reasonable close, and those who don't work the opposite shift, the choice is usually fairly limited.

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RE: When is it time - 8/25/2010 8:22:08 PM

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When I was searching, I would be very honest with each One about corresponding with/meeting Others also. Then, when I had decided I wanted to be exclusive w/ Someone and submit to Him, I would converse with that Someone about it. If we were agreeable to it, I would stop seeing/corresponding with the Others. If He wasn't agreeable, I, of course, had to keep on looking.

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RE: When is it time - 8/26/2010 5:18:15 AM

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I don't actually correspond with anyone at all unless I feel a pretty strong connection with them relatively fast, and since that happens very rarely, I don't talk to more than one person at a time. However, the first five or six emails are casual, in my mind, and it's only once we've agreed to meet or have had an extremely intoxicating phone call that I forget about being open to anyone else.

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RE: When is it time - 8/26/2010 5:48:00 AM

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Jujubee - I think you understand what I was trying to say originally. The first five or so emails are causal and if one focuses like a beam after the first or second email chances are a lot of energy and time will be wasted with someone because it was just too soon. I totally agree that some type of phone call is needed one it verifies for both that each are at least real and of the gender they claimed to be. Over the past week I had some ups and down on this site, I got to see both sides of this discussion and I do understand most everyone's position on this. Going forward thou, I think I will take the line that I want to get to know the Dominant a little, to see if there is something there or is it just friendship or a waste of time, if they are real and of the gender they claim to be, if they are looking for the same type of D/s relationship that I am, before I abandon ship and jump blindly into the ocean to swim towards them hoping for the best.

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