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WhipsAndGiggles -> Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 9:47:33 PM)

Ladies!

I'd love to get your opinions, thoughts, and experiences on the following:

Recently I met a slave-oriented middle-aged man.... He is fairly experienced in BDSM based relationships. Recently he revealed to me that no Dominant partner had ever kissed him. Now I'm curious about how common this is for Female Dominants.

Do you kiss your sub? What if they're a slave? Why do you kiss them?
Have you ever not kissed someone you owned? Why not?
If you do typically kiss the person(s) you own:
Is it common?
Are there special contexts?
Are there times you specifically refrain?
If you do not kiss your sub/slave, would you also not kiss in a vanilla relationship?
Have you heard of other women NOT kissing their sub/slave? If so, do you feel it's common?
And.... do you identify as a sadist (to whatever degree)?


As for me... I do kiss my property and it never occurred to me to refrain. But, I do like to kiss (in an intimate relationship) so that could be influencing me and biasing me in this matter. I kiss my partners at will and only refrain in times of emotional distance/duress, but I don't just refrain from kissing during those times. All physical intimacy would be curbed.

I'm very interested in learning about other peoples experiences and insights!!



WhipsAndGiggles -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 9:51:49 PM)

Also... to add... if there are any subs or slaves reading this and have any relevant experience: I'd like to hear about your side of things too.

Thanks!



SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 9:54:30 PM)

I dont prefer kissing in a relationship unless its long term and under the right circumstances.... a kiss now and again, is okay but make out sessions have always been something that just "wasnt" done. Ive only found one person who I really enjoyed kissing and had a power exchange,



Jasmineinbloom -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 9:58:23 PM)

I am emotionally distant for a myriad of reasons. I am affectionate if I care for someone and will kiss a beloved on  the face or head. Never the mouth. I am sadistic, but to me, that's just another expression of affection. If I didn't like them, I wouldn't hurt them.



WhipsAndGiggles -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 9:59:09 PM)

SpiritedRadiance:

Any clue why you did like kissing the one person, but not the others?


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Jasmineinbloom:

So you're saying the not kissing is purposefully to retain an element of emotional distance?... But you are choosing to show affection in other, specific ways? If you'd feel comfortable enough to go into the myriad of reasons you wish to be emotionally distant, I'd love to learn them. :)



SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 10:09:34 PM)

Facial hair, bad breath, weird when kissing.

The one person I enjoy isnt scratchy and it just feels right, its not to wet not to dry not too much tongue or to little, not heres my tongue half way down your throat.

I can explain some of it as bad kissing, some of it as wanting to remain distant because i knew that person and i weren't going to last. My first two partners had a rule of no kissing ever no matter what because they couldnt hurt me if we did.



WhipsAndGiggles -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 10:17:13 PM)

SpiritedRadiance:

I can identify with all of those points. For me, personally.. I like to groom my property and so the external issues are always fixed (facial hair adjusted, clean mouth, lessons on my preferred kissing technique).

For a long time I didn't kiss as a way to keep my emotional distance (this was more in my vanilla years of dating). However I found that sans-kissing didn't equate real emotional distance (for me). Then, years later I shifted my focus toward cultivating deep and emotional bonds (including with my property) and kissing became more common and appealing.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 10:18:25 PM)

If I didn't kiss him, I'd be depriving BOTH of us of something positively, luxuriously beautiful. I LOVE kissing him! We do lots of it.

Kissing my slaveboy is HEAVEN.  [:)]



Jasmineinbloom -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 10:32:01 PM)

I don't purposefully attempt to be emotionally distant. It's a part of who I am. In a nutshell, I grew up in an enviornment where nurturing was non existent and learned from an early age that emotions were detrimental to my well being. 



Ambyant -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/24/2010 11:45:58 PM)

quote:


Do you kiss your sub?
no.

Have you ever not kissed someone you owned?
yess, the british pet was just a 'thing', and I never even felt like kissing him. the part time sub.. same.
Possibly if I truly Owned them I might become fond and give then kisses as gifts
And.... do you identify as a sadist (to whatever degree)?
Nope.




Politesub53 -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 2:35:24 AM)

A very interesting question. I think there are several types of kissing. The peck or greeting kiss, which shows there is some sort of bond, family or friend ect. Then the sexual kiss with no deep meaning, ie the quick snog at the works party, or with a stranger in a bar ect. Finally the intimate kiss, deep as in intimate and emotional.

If I was in any kind of long term vanilla relationship I would expect, even insist on the later. Since intimacy ( and I`m not just talking sex ) is essential for building that special bond. The way I see it is as follows, If I expect intimacy or bond building in a vanilla relationship, why not in a D/s one. That said, I agree that bdsm can build a deep level of trust.

Now, would I initiate a kiss with A Mistress ?........ Yes, In a heartbeat !



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 2:45:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

.....Now, would I initiate a kiss with A Mistress ?........ Yes, In a heartbeat !


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Politesub53 -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 2:49:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

.....Now, would I initiate a kiss with A Mistress ?........ Yes, In a heartbeat !


[sm=insane.gif]


Indeed, I can do submissive but forget to drop the flirtatious. [8D]



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 3:18:37 AM)

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Politesub53 -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 3:22:53 AM)

Thank you. [:)]



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 3:32:09 AM)

Lets get a room. [:D]


Getting back to the topic at hand: I find it strange that anyone wouldn't want to kiss their slave. Again, if I were to avoid it, I would be depriving BOTH of us. Where's the fulfillment in that?

Kissing is a major desire/need, for me. I mean it is BIG on my list. I can't imagine not kissing my slaveboy early and often. And sharing all the emotional intimacy, and the physical intertwining of it.... MMMmmm....


YUM. [:)]



BlackTigerDragon -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 4:18:48 AM)

My cat kisses me. And he uses tongue.



PeonForHer -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 4:28:32 AM)

Gawd.  I don't know how I'd manage without kissing her.  Anywhere and everywhere on her body.



bellesoumise -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 5:59:09 AM)

I'm not big on kissing. Whenever someone tries to kiss me I can't help but wonder where their mouth has been.



SweetDommes -> RE: Do you kiss your property? (8/25/2010 6:36:19 AM)

I'm very physically affectionate - while I understand why others may not want to kiss, I'm with Dreamer on this one ... I would not deprive myself of that just because I'm dominant.



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