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RE: at the end of an M/s relationship and i feel so lost - 8/29/2010 1:52:06 PM

peacefulplace

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I am sorry for what you are going through. It is hard. Nothing will make it easy, either.

There is nothing wrong with treating yourself right now. If you like ice cream, have some Ben & Jerry's. If you like movies, go see two in a row or enjoy a film fest from your sofa. If you like to read, pick up a book that doesn't remind you of anything but the pleasure of reading. If you like animals, maybe now is a good time to adopt a pet from the shelter.

To echo many others, do not rush into another relationship. When my first D/s relationship ended, I was completely crushed. I thought I could never have such a wonderful thing in my life ever again. So I wound up in one bad "relationship" that lasted a month, then another that lasted a bit longer. It wasn't until I decided to stop looking that I actually found The One--and that took 2 years.

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RE: at the end of an M/s relationship and i feel so lost - 8/29/2010 8:28:42 PM

Nineveh

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think rather than 'sulking', the term 'grieve' may be more appropriate.

OP, what you are experiencing is something that is common to many of us who our first M/s dynamic didn't remain in tact until the end of our days. Kind of the same thing as those of us who didn't marry our high school sweetheart, the first person that we had sex with, and stay married for fifty years. A whole new world opened up and then it ended.

If you're experiencing emotional hurt over the dynamic ending, I'm not going to say that your solution is orgasms. Time is the solution. Not especially jumping into an arrangement with someone else. Use the information that you now have about what works for you and what doesn't to improve your search for someone more compatible for you.

Orgasms always help. It's just sometimes best if they are self inflicted.

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