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SylvereApLeanan -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 11:52:36 AM)
sigh I strongly advise you to discuss your kink with your wife. Pick up a copy of the book When Someone You Love Is Kinky and read it together. Very few of the people in the local groups will look kindly on a man who is cheating on his wife. I would be happy to talk to your wife over coffee if she has any questions about how to satisfy your kinks in a way that is comfortable for her and fulfilling to you. However, I will not help you cheat on her.

janieMO -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 12:04:13 PM)
i serve her as best i can, for instance, i just mopped the kitchen floor, but she has no interest in sex at all, and is not dominant. i think its kinder to her, to find my interests without upsetting her, or leaving her after many years of marriage. its not completely honest, but i have her feeling to consider, and the only other choice is for me to abandon my feeling and desires.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 12:10:53 PM)
Sir, that is the oldest cop out in the book. If you genuinely think cheating on your wife is kinder to her than leaving her, assuming you can't manage to reach an accord, then please, for the love of all things holy, leave her. I promise that will be the greatest kindness you can do her.

OttersSwim -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 12:11:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: janieMO i serve her as best i can, for instance, i just mopped the kitchen floor, but she has no interest in sex at all, and is not dominant. i think its kinder to her, to find my interests without upsetting her, or leaving her after many years of marriage. its not completely honest, but i have her feeling to consider, and the only other choice is for me to abandon my feeling and desires. How do you think betrayal feels? If you are caught in a marriage without sexual interaction, then there is more wrong there than just you feeling kinky. Your post is a complete pack of BS justification and rationalization for acts against another person that you know to be wrong. ...good luck with that. [8\|]

LadyPact -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 12:15:24 PM)
Yes, I'm sure her feelings are spared that you are sending a hundred dollars a month on a pay site. It couldn't possibly be in her best interest to have a husband that is honest with her and wanted the kind of life that she seems to think that she has. I don't see that as saving her. You are saving yourself in not being man enough to either fulfill the promise that you made to her or allowing both of you to pursue the life that each of you wants. Submission is not based on selfishness. Dominance isn't either, for that matter. Instead of pissing away that hundred bucks a month, why not try investing it in rekindling the romance in your marriage? Buy the book that was suggested to you and see if it can be incorporated between your wife and yourself. If not, start saving the money to file the divorce papers so that the two of you can separately pursue what you want in life and have the kind of partner that each of you deserve.

janieMO -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 12:22:03 PM)
thank you very much for advice.

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: submissive male (8/29/2010 2:10:01 PM)
Not that any of it has penetrated your brain right? Or that you'll take the excellent advice that was given to you about trust and honesty? You may think your wife has no idea, but you might be surprised at how much she knows and just isn't saying a thing. It happens all too often, I can say this having been on both sides of the cheating thing. Never did turn out pretty, for obvious reasons. Now, no more lying or cheating or being dishonest, I've learned some lessons the very hard way. Won't put myself through it anymore, or my Dom.

OohAahMrs -> RE: submissive male (8/30/2010 7:17:49 AM)
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dammykester -> RE: submissive male (8/30/2010 7:28:05 AM)
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thornhappy -> RE: submissive male (8/30/2010 9:26:51 PM)
It would be nice if the owners of that site could spell, or else they would know that they are missing the final s on "specie". Scholarships available? Do ya supposed they are an accredited institution? (Can you imagine the accreditation committee? [:)])

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