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RE: Outside Friends for a slave - 9/6/2010 1:03:37 PM

Grlathrt

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the overwhelming majority of Masters will not cut a slave off from past relationships with friends and family, and will want their slave to continue to cultivate outside relationships and interests. however it is not necessarily the "red flag" of abuse that so many make it out to be if a Master does place such restrictions on his property. as long as there was no deception involved so that the decision to become slave was made with eyes wide open, i don't see the issue.

that is the way it was for me...when i first became a slave i was cut off from all past connections for about a year. that was all friends, all family, everyone. after that period was over, select people from the past were permitted back into my life gradually. of course imagine my surprise when most of those people rejected me anyway (due to my new way of life). but then at that point it didn't really matter, as i was wholly the property of my Master. that period of isolation was vital to cementing our bond as Owner and slave, and especially for driving home the reality of my utter dependence on him. for us, it was a very good thing.

All my nearest and dearest friends know that I am a slave in training, or that I am a slave, so that part doesn't worry me, in fact most of them are intrigued or actually a little bit curious about it, so that I don't have to worry about.

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RE: Outside Friends for a slave - 9/6/2010 7:13:54 PM

LadyRian

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My opinion on this is yes, of course.
People's friendships are important, and a healthy social network is something most human beings need.
Every Mistress/Master has their own rules, of course. The deal for entering service must always be carefully negotiated, and it's essential both parties are in complete agreement on what is, and what is not allowed, and that you, as a slave, are completely comfortable with the terms.
If you aren't, and get the feeling that maybe you won't be happy in their service, keep on looking until you find what's right for you.

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RE: Outside Friends for a slave - 9/7/2010 9:34:36 AM

MarcEsadrian

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I am talking to several different Masters at the moment trying to find the best fit for me, and most of them are in a different location than I am at, so my question is, are slaves allowed to have past friends outside the M/s relationship, and possibly visit them once in a while. Does it that negate the whole TPE equation, or can a slave have friends while having TPE???

That's up to the Master, if slavery is really what you're seeking. A wise Master will cull the "friendships" that are toxic or disruptive to the relationship and its dynamic, and a slave who trusts in the guidance of her Master will accept his decisions. This can include former "Masters" now turned buddies who are all too eager to offer a shoulder to cry on for all the wrong reasons. It might include busybody girlfriends who are in your ear constantly and pry too much. Friends are wonderful to have, but the wrong ones can be a severe liability and cause far more trouble than they're worth.

P.s. It's important to note that slavery (or TPE, as you call it) isn't something shopped for and shake-and-baked overnight. The sort of trust I speak of the slave having for her Master is realized organically through a process of time, communication and interaction. When you are calling him Master with a straight face, it should mean that he has earned your intellectual respect, devotion and complete obedience. Until you find such a bond, the power to choose who you associate with should reside solely in your hands.

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