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Hippiekinkster -> RE: BBW, what is the meaning of this ? (9/1/2010 2:54:03 AM)
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I can only speak for myself, but I just am not sexually attracted to "BBWs" whose BMIs are in the top quintile (to use an arbitrary quantification). When I married my ex, back in 1985, she was somewhat Rubenesque, and that was fine. And she remained that way for several years, until her career developed to the point that she was a 5-million miler on Delta by 1998 or so. Airplanes, rental cars, hotels, meetings, and when at home, in the home office in front of the computer. No exercise. She got larger. I tried to get her to go walking with me, to go to the Y (I was at another gym sans pool, where I worked out. I was 200#, 6"0", benched over 150, did a lot of aerobics, and was in pretty good shape), to not eat junk food while on the road. I did all the cooking (I had a restaurant earlier in the decade, and had all the connections for wholesale food), and made really healthy, low fat & low simple-carb stuff. I imagine she thought I was rejecting her. I wasn't. I WANTED to be attracted to her. I WAS withholding affection, which I feel remorse for now. Anyway, it got to the point where I couldn't get my arms around her. I don't know what she weighed; I never asked. I know our doctor gave her some talking to about the risk factors for breast cancer (her mother died from it at 35) and cardiovascular disease (her father keeled over dear at 64 in 2/99), as well as her hypercholestemia. Rather than address our problems, she decided that Happy Meals were more important to her than a Happy Marriage.
I had surgery for a detached retina in 12/06. I had to limit my physical activity so as not to blow out the repair. Then, a couple years ago, I got an ulcer on my left foot 2nd toe which became infected with MRSA. Got that cleaned up and healed, and then I got a small ulcer on the same foot, heel. Got it treated and healed up. Now I'm dealing with an ulcer on my right heel which has been going on for about 10 months. I've had 3 days of IV antibiotics (April) kept a barrier between the environment and my foot since then, and I just cultured POS for MRSA once again. (possible I could have the Vancomycin-resistant variant) X-ray indicates it's in the heel bone. This is really bad. I'm going to an Infectious disease specialist shortly, then a vascular surgeon to get a shint put in for home IV antibiotics. Might have to go in hospital for debridement of the bone. BTW, I'm NOT diabetic. First thing we checked.
My point is that I'm up to 245 because I fucking CAN'T exercise. And I don't feel like a BAM, or BBM, or any goofy-assed acronym one chooses to invent. I feel gross.
Damn near every "BBW" I've read who talks about her obesity always blame-shifts. It's always hormones, or the thyroid, or "I just can't lose weight, even if I eat air!" or some other rationalization. Well, I haven't found any evidence on the CDC website that the US, Germany, and the UK (all where the most obesity occurs) all have acquired some mysterious thyroid disease. Not everybody is taking meds which cause weight gain as a side effect.
Energy in > energy out = weight gain. ALWAYS. It is contrary to the Laws of Physics that a body gains mass while burning more energy than one takes in. It simply cannot happen. If someone thinks that, they are deceiving themselves. Period. There MAY be a genetic predisposition to gain weight due to a slower metabolism, but that doesn't mean that people can gain weight by burning more than they eat. And it's been my experience (personal as well as observation) that people gain weight by not moving.
I don't mind a few extra pounds. Cottage cheese thighs are just not a turn-on for me, however. And, I dare say, most men feel that way. I agree with the evolutionary theory that a few extra pounds, and wide hips, indicate the ability to bear healthy children. While big tits don't turn me on, I can see how many men could equate large breasts with the ability to nurse children, even if they are unconscious of the underlying reasons for their attraction. But I cannot see how having a BMI > , say, 35, confers an evolutionary advantage. Hence, IMO (note the IMO), BBWs are not attractive to most men.
I am not, by any means, trying to infer any sort of value judgment. People who are overweight are not bad people, any more than poor people are lazy drug-addicted welfare seekers. Applying a value judgment does a disservice to both observer and observed.
It is equally a disservice to ignore the fact that there are things going on which harm the health of those who are grossly (gross, in German, means big, large, tall, depending on context. That is the English meaning of the word I mean) overweight. More people than just the obese person are harmed. People are hurt when their loved ones pass away before their times. They are hurt to see their loved ones harming themselves (that was my case; it really pained me to see J doing this to herself).
It's just really sad that so many health issues, such as Type II diabetes, diabetic neuropathy, hypertension, strokes, heart attacks, blindness, limb amputation, and many other health problems, are, if not the direct result, at least partially caused by morbid obesity.
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