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shellywhite62 -> Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 8:54:35 AM)
Started this post by telling my whole story and the reason i got in this situation but decided to just cut to the chase. I started a relationship online with a Master with the knowledge that i would be moving to His area a month after we met online. The promise was there, the chemistry was stronger than any other i've met and so when He asked me to get a ring on my clit for Him (at His expense), i did it. (I do need to say, that piercings other than ears have always been a "hard limit" for me in the past.) Well, the relationship ended abruptly due to my lack of judgment two weeks before we were to be together. (Yes, the relationship only lasted 3 weeks........sighs) Now not only am i brokenhearted beyond belief, but i have this albatross on my clit. i've tried to take it out but i ended up with a sore clit. ugh I'm really afraid of ripping the skin - big chicken here. I did ask Him if He would remove it for me and at first He agreed but then decided that it wasn't up to Him. Am i being unreasonable if i pursue Him taking it out? I really don't want anyone else to do it, besides Him or me, and since i can't seem to.... ~laughs at self~ Cutting to the chase still took longer than i intended....

myotherself -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 9:02:48 AM)
why not go back to the place that did the piercing and ask if they'll remove it for you? If you can't do it, and he's being an ass about it, then you don't really have much choice...

SubPet715 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 9:35:58 AM)
Yes things having soured so quickly is a real shame, my condolences. As for that once someone has made up their mind all you are doing by pursuing an opposite outcome is making them more staunch in their decision.

DarkSteven -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 9:47:29 AM)
Hijacking the thread a little... it was your first online relationship, and you moved quickly. Slow down.

subsfaith -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 10:22:26 AM)
Yes you are being unreasonable... while it is something you want, clearly it isn't something he wants. Any piercing place will be happy to remove it for you. The alternative is to keep it and enjoy it.

shellywhite62 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 10:27:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Hijacking the thread a little... it was your first online relationship, and you moved quickly. Slow down. Well, actually it wasn't. First in several years, though. The others, except for my very first, were pretty superficial in my "quest". But, yes, I need to slow down. In response to the other posts, SubPet, yes, I should just drop it and not make him any more firmly opposed to it. Myotherself, I'm afraid I'll have to suck it up and go back to the sweet young gentleman who did the piercing, as humiliating as it will be. Thank you for the responses. I sometimes get caught up in my head and don't always think clearly, which is why, after lurking in the different forums and reading as much as I could in the last several days, I decided to put myself out there and get advice. It is much appreciated

juliaoceania -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 12:15:50 PM)
I would ask why you have this in your signature line quote: BBW sub - been involved off and on in the lifestyle 7 years and still doesn't know what the heck she's doing.... We all make mistakes.... geesh, I ventured out after a long term relationship I was in ended. I made a bad judgment call. He ended up being an angry person, and it took a couple of months for him to show me that side, and once he did, I moved on. It doesn't mean I did not know what I was doing, it meant that we have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find a prince... Go on, kiss some more frogs, just don't do any more body mods until it is something YOU want, or you are DEEPLY committed. Feel lucky that it was only three weeks instead of 3 years, which is a much harder thing to move on from.

RealSub58 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 4:16:20 PM)
Moved way too quickly and had no idea what you were doing. Still don't, since you are asking. If he really owned you well and was a proper dom he would be saying: "My responsibility for her personal well being and dignity would extend to guiding her to a new place where she could prosper apart from Me. Until such independence, or other dependence, had been established she would be My responsibility." I took this quote from another thread, but I firmly believe it as does my Sir. Remove your hard limit yourself as you crossed your own personal boundaries for a man you had not yet even met.

afkarr -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/2/2010 4:31:18 PM)
An excellent example of the pitfalls of online relationships in general, and online "ownership" specifically. It sounds like you jumped too far too fast with someone who had no intention of ever following through. Look on the bright side- he's most likely an old fat married bald guy ( explains why he couldn't move you in lockl stock and barrel), or a middle aged fat toothless loser living in his Moms basement. Either way, he probably tries to keep an online harem just to stroke his pathetic loser ego. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Unfortunately, piercings don't tend to heal well in moist environments even when removed, so maybe swap "his" ring out for one of your choosing, enjoy, and chalk it up to lessons learned.

LadyPact -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/3/2010 11:54:53 AM)
From a female Dominant's perspective. I would understand completely if he did the piercing and it was your preference for him to remove it. However, the guy you 'met' online wasn't the one to put it in. In reality, the guy didn't do the work. For all you know, he might not have had the ability to do so from a technical angle. Do you really want to trust him with the removal? This whole thing lasted all of three weeks. I have to disagree with the poster who suggested that this person has some kind of personal responsibility to you after so short a time. If that is the kind of time frame that you are basing decisions such as ownership or body modifications on, I would seriously ask that you do some personal reflection on why you are so quick to take such actions in the first place.

hlen5 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/3/2010 12:06:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact .........In reality, the guy didn't do the work. For all you know, he might not have had the ability to do so from a technical angle. Do you really want to trust him with the removal?. I could be mstaken, but I understood her to mean she asked the master to pay to have it removed.

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/3/2010 7:45:15 PM)
Put on a pair of rubber gloves for traction, If its a hood piercing then grab the top and bottom ball at the same time both hands gloved... and twist in opposite directions... your hand twists to the right your right hand to the left and Viola... piercings loose and removable. And Afkarr.....The Female genitalia, hood labia and scrotum piercings are the FASTEST recovery time (1 to 2 weeks)because of the constant blood flow to the area the next fastest healing is the tongue (2 to 4 weeks)... So Taking it out would mean it would heal quickly the reason shes sore is because when you try to grip wet metal in a wet air with NO traction all you get is slips slides and anger (i learned this the hard way by trying to change my hood piercing all on my own with a mirror when i was rather wet...) Healing has to do with how much blood flow gets to the area. The more flow the faster the healing.

inkSecret -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/3/2010 9:28:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shellywhite62 Started this post by telling my whole story and the reason i got in this situation but decided to just cut to the chase. I started a relationship online with a Master with the knowledge that i would be moving to His area a month after we met online. The promise was there, the chemistry was stronger than any other i've met and so when He asked me to get a ring on my clit for Him (at His expense), i did it. (I do need to say, that piercings other than ears have always been a "hard limit" for me in the past.) Well, the relationship ended abruptly due to my lack of judgment two weeks before we were to be together. (Yes, the relationship only lasted 3 weeks........sighs) Now not only am i brokenhearted beyond belief, but i have this albatross on my clit. i've tried to take it out but i ended up with a sore clit. ugh I'm really afraid of ripping the skin - big chicken here. I did ask Him if He would remove it for me and at first He agreed but then decided that it wasn't up to Him. Am i being unreasonable if i pursue Him taking it out? I really don't want anyone else to do it, besides Him or me, and since i can't seem to.... ~laughs at self~ Cutting to the chase still took longer than i intended.... You know... On the plus side here. You can now check off "Doing something young, stupid and regrettable" off your list Some people never get to do that

afkarr -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 4:50:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance And Afkarr.....The Female genitalia, hood labia and scrotum piercings are the FASTEST recovery time (1 to 2 weeks)because of the constant blood flow to the area the next fastest healing is the tongue (2 to 4 weeks)... So Taking it out would mean it would heal quickly the reason shes sore is because when you try to grip wet metal in a wet air with NO traction all you get is slips slides and anger (i learned this the hard way by trying to change my hood piercing all on my own with a mirror when i was rather wet...) Healing has to do with how much blood flow gets to the area. The more flow the faster the healing. Available resources estimate healing time from anywhere between 4-6 weeks and 2-3 months. There are several contributory factors that determine individual healing time, including yes, blood flow, presence of pathogens/infectious organisms in area/wound, depth/size of wound, moisture level of wound bed, and nutritional status. The results are highly variable.

CalifChick -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 5:08:48 PM)
Did you ever meet this guy? Cali

AnimusRex -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 8:50:52 PM)
Definitely sounds like a job for the Binford 2000 metalworking visegrip pliers, with an assist from a blowtorch and electric 90 degree variable speed cutoff saw with a carbide blade and nonchoking clutch arrgh arrghh ARRGHHH! Just sayin'.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 8:58:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex Definitely sounds like a job for the Binford 2000 metalworking visegrip pliers, with an assist from a blowtorch and electric 90 degree variable speed cutoff saw with a carbide blade and nonchoking clutch arrgh arrghh ARRGHHH! Just sayin'. [sm=rofl.gif]

sexyred1 -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 9:01:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick Did you ever meet this guy? Cali I wondered the same thing. I also wonder at how it could be within the realm of reasonable possibilities that someone would think an online relationship of less than 3 weeks was a catalyst for getting a piercing like that. Unless you really always wanted one and used this as an excuse to finally get it. Otherwise, if someone online TOLD you to get it, that I cannot process.

Mistletoe -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/7/2010 9:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex Definitely sounds like a job for the Binford 2000 metalworking visegrip pliers, with an assist from a blowtorch and electric 90 degree variable speed cutoff saw with a carbide blade and nonchoking clutch arrgh arrghh ARRGHHH! Just sayin'. OMG! lolololol

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Being unreasonable (9/8/2010 7:15:11 AM)
Go to your doctor, or the piercer who did it and have them take it out. Yes, I think it's unreasonable to pursue him to take it out, it's not his job to handle it I feel. Would it be nice of him, yes, it would. Does he have to, it is his job ect ? no. You should ofthought longer and harder about this than you did, and that's easy to say, I know, but it is after all your body that will have this " albatross" as you've called it, long after he's gone, if the relationship should go south. 3 weeks is to soon to be " so sure of the chemistry with him" specially if you never met him in real life, that you'll do body modifications, specially ones you wouldn't want outside of him.. quote: ORIGINAL: shellywhite62 Started this post by telling my whole story and the reason i got in this situation but decided to just cut to the chase. I started a relationship online with a Master with the knowledge that i would be moving to His area a month after we met online. The promise was there, the chemistry was stronger than any other i've met and so when He asked me to get a ring on my clit for Him (at His expense), i did it. (I do need to say, that piercings other than ears have always been a "hard limit" for me in the past.) Well, the relationship ended abruptly due to my lack of judgment two weeks before we were to be together. (Yes, the relationship only lasted 3 weeks........sighs) Now not only am i brokenhearted beyond belief, but i have this albatross on my clit. i've tried to take it out but i ended up with a sore clit. ugh I'm really afraid of ripping the skin - big chicken here. I did ask Him if He would remove it for me and at first He agreed but then decided that it wasn't up to Him. Am i being unreasonable if i pursue Him taking it out? I really don't want anyone else to do it, besides Him or me, and since i can't seem to.... ~laughs at self~ Cutting to the chase still took longer than i intended....

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