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VaguelyCurious -> An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 3:49:31 PM)
...monosexual people. So I've been following this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3386527/tm.htm and just shaking my head in disbelief as I read. I've never to my knowledge had a sexual partner who wouldn't at least French kiss someone of the opposite sex. This thread has taught me something: I'm prejudiced against highly monosexual people. I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't have at least a passing attraction to both sexes. It hurts my head. It makes me feel sad. I'm aware that I'm being unreasonable, but I just keep thinking 'girls are pretty. boys are pretty. what gives?'. I'm not suggesting that this theoretical monosexual person should have any contact with men while they're with me (cuz obviously if they're with me they already like women...)-that's not what's bothering me. Perhaps it's partly that I'm an equal opportunity flirt, and I'd feel uncomfortable flirting with everyone in the room if my partner was flirting with only half the people-I'd feel restricted. Or something. (I'm still working this out.) My questions: Is your partner bi? Very, ish, vaguely, not at all? Do you care either way? Does their orientation matter to you/bother you? (Other than the obvious fact that they fancy you [8D]) Do you think your orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them? Am I the only person this matters to? Does anyone have any idea why it matters to me? (I'm kind of surprised it matters to me at all-I feel disappointed in myself for being less open-minded and accepting than I thought I was. Nobody likes to feel bigoted.) Anything else anyone wants to add? Thanks in advance, Confused!VC

Aynne88 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 3:56:27 PM)
Yep. It matters a lot. I want a man that is totally straight. I would so not dig it if I had even an inkling that he had french kissed a man. I want a skirt chasing tits and ass loving kind of man and I am the biggest GLBT supporter ever so it has nothing to do with that. I just want my guy to be only on the spectrum of hetero and if that makes me narrow minded, I will deal with it. I am not bi, but on a few occasions I have had sex with women when I was with a guy that liked that, and even now I like to make out with girls now and then if they are really hot and only from the waist up.[;)]. That is just how I am, an above the belt lesbian for the most part. He, unlike most men I have been with, does not want me to screw around with other chicks, even if he is there or participating. He is 100% monogamous and I am okay with that.

SubPet715 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:00:24 PM)
Like I wrote in that thread i'm never sure where my character evolution will take me so I try hard not to speak in definitives. As for now i'm not attracted to men simply because I haven't met the right type of man, with that being said to those reading this don't construe that as an opportunity to "turn" me...it is what it is. There are some men I see and they just look good but I don't have an attraction to men, I don't recoil in horror i'm just very ho hum about it. My partners in the past have all been bi, very bi, they would tell me when they liked a woman or man. I didn't care either way because sometimes it is just what someone likes, me being straight didn't bother her mostly because I wasn't a complete knob over finding men attractive. If I see a man who looks good I can say so, but like I mentioned it does nothing for me, I can't see myself wanting to kiss them. At the start of my relationship with my second domme it was mentioned I didn't like men and she just accepted that, it wasn't a big deal to her. Maybe it matters to you because everyone is acting so staunchly heterosexual that it borders on a phobia. I know it bothers me when I hear other men who are even afraid to let on that they may find another man attractive. So if it borders on a phobia, a ignorant hatred couldn't be far behind, that is when it starts to affect you and the way you live your life. Just a theory, plus I feel I owe it to you to broaden my answer from that thread seeing as I was one of the first people to post there.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:06:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 Yep. It matters a lot. I want a man that is totally straight. I would so not dig it if I had even an inkling that he had french kissed a man. I want a skirt chasing tits and ass loving kind of man and I am the biggest GLBT supporter ever so it has nothing to do with that. I just want my guy to be only on the spectrum of hetero and if that makes me narrow minded, I will deal with it. I don't think it makes you narrow-minded at all, Aynne. People want what they want. Although (just thinking aloud here) now I'm wondering why I automatically say 'people want what they want' when someone states their preferences your way round and then automatically call myself bigoted for wanting the opposite. I think it's totally ok for you to have restrictions but I feel bad for having them myself? quote: I am not bi, but on a few occasions I have had sex with women when I was with a guy that liked that, and even now I like to make out with girls now and then if they are really hot and only from the waist up.[;)]. [;)] I think part of my reaction stems from the fact that I sort of assume until proven otherwise that everyone's at your level of bisexuality at minimum-it's kind of jarring when it turns out someone isn't. Thanks for responding [:)]

Aileen1968 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:08:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious My questions: Is your partner bi? Very, ish, vaguely, not at all? Do you care either way? Does their orientation matter to you/bother you? (Other than the obvious fact that they fancy you [8D]) Do you think your orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them? Am I the only person this matters to? Does anyone have any idea why it matters to me? (I'm kind of surprised it matters to me at all-I feel disappointed in myself for being less open-minded and accepting than I thought I was. Nobody likes to feel bigoted.) Anything else anyone wants to add? Thanks in advance, Confused!VC He is as straight as straight can be. It's an extremely important aspect for me. If he wasn't I wouldn't be with him. The thought of being with a bisexual man is an extreme turnoff and would be a deal breaker. I'm also straight. Never had a desire to be with another woman. I didn't answer the other thread, but it would be an unbreakable hard limit for me to be with another woman. If he required it, as much as I love him, I would walk away.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:09:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SubPet715 Like I wrote in that thread i'm never sure where my character evolution will take me so I try hard not to speak in definitives. Respect for that, my friend [:)] quote: Maybe it matters to you because everyone is acting so staunchly heterosexual that it borders on a phobia. I know it bothers me when I hear other men who are even afraid to let on that they may find another man attractive. So if it borders on a phobia, a ignorant hatred couldn't be far behind, that is when it starts to affect you and the way you live your life. I think you might have something there. I need a little while to think about it. Thanks, SP.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:11:56 PM)
Nope. Not at all. He is 100 percent strait, and I don't mind that at all. I am bi sexual and it isn't important to him, It's just one more part of the overall picture of who I am. In fact I want 3 somes and a lady friend to play with an all that jazz, and he keeps stating, you know I am not into sharing, and I don't care for other sex partners other than you. Which is kind of disapointing, but I gotta say it's also very sweet of him to only want me sexually. It could be worse I could be in the position of having to put up with him wanting every jane jannet and josephine out there, AND keep me too. quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious My questions: Is your partner bi? Very, ish, vaguely, not at all? Do you care either way? Does their orientation matter to you/bother you? (Other than the obvious fact that they fancy you [8D]) Do you think your orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them? Thanks in advance, Confused!VC

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:13:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 He is as straight as straight can be. It's an extremely important aspect for me. If he wasn't I wouldn't be with him. The thought of being with a bisexual man is an extreme turnoff and would be a deal breaker. I'm also straight. Never had a desire to be with another woman. I didn't answer the other thread, but it would be an unbreakable hard limit for me to be with another woman. If he required it, as much as I love him, I would walk away. So you mean you and I can never be? You're killing me here, Aileen! [8D] But seriously, I feel better knowing that it's important to other people too, if in the opposite direction.

Aileen1968 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:14:28 PM)
Ha. No. Sorry. I just love the cock way too much...

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:15:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom Nope. Not at all. He is 100 percent strait, and I don't mind that at all. I am bi sexual and it isn't important to him, It's just one more part of the overall picture of who I am. In fact I want 3 somes and a lady friend to play with an all that jazz, and he keeps stating, you know I am not into sharing, and I don't care for other sex partners other than you. Which is kind of disapointing, but I gotta say it's also very sweet of him to only want me sexually. It could be worse I could be in the position of having to put up with him wanting every jane jannet and josephine out there, AND keep me too. So you're different to me-his inflexibility doesn't bother you, and your flexibility doesn't bother him. Cool [:)]

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:16:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Ha. No. Sorry. I just love the cock way too much... [:(] (Only teasing-I'm on Laurell's list; I'm sure I could get her to make this terrible, devastating loss up to me [;)])

Aynne88 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:18:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious My questions: Is your partner bi? Very, ish, vaguely, not at all? Do you care either way? Does their orientation matter to you/bother you? (Other than the obvious fact that they fancy you [8D]) Do you think your orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them? Am I the only person this matters to? Does anyone have any idea why it matters to me? (I'm kind of surprised it matters to me at all-I feel disappointed in myself for being less open-minded and accepting than I thought I was. Nobody likes to feel bigoted.) Anything else anyone wants to add? Thanks in advance, Confused!VC He is as straight as straight can be. It's an extremely important aspect for me. If he wasn't I wouldn't be with him. The thought of being with a bisexual man is an extreme turnoff and would be a deal breaker. I'm also straight. Never had a desire to be with another woman. I didn't answer the other thread, but it would be an unbreakable hard limit for me to be with another woman. If he required it, as much as I love him, I would walk away. lol....get out of my head! That's it shorty, NJ bound! Bring the cigars I will bring the Jack![:)]

Icarys -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:18:50 PM)
No worries VC...Tons of people are in the same boat when it comes to "intolerance's"..Most of those don't even see it..at least you question yourself. You may give me a Mickey if it'll make the guilt go away..

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:21:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys You may give me a Mickey I have no idea what this means in your language. I'm assuming it's a euphemism for something terribly immoral. Anyone care to enlighten this poor foreigner?

Icarys -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:22:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys You may give me a Mickey I have no idea what this means in your language. I'm assuming it's a euphemism for something terribly immoral. Anyone care to enlighten this poor foreigner? I just made it up[8D] Did you google it?

VaguelyCurious -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:24:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys I just made it up[8D] Did you google it? No I did not. I figured I'd just get the English idiom, which means to drug someone. Sorry [8D]

Icarys -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:27:07 PM)
quote: No I did not. I figured I'd just get the English idiom, which means to drug someone. Sorry Nah.. I did have the thought of tugging on your ears when I typed it...ahem...[8D] (You might have looked a little like Mickey in that situation)

Missokyst -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:28:56 PM)
I am 100% straight. The thought of kissing another female is repulsive to me and no part of me feels shame in feeling that way. Then men in my life have been 100% straight. From conversations over the years with them in my life I got the impression they felt the same way as I about bisexuality, since only one had the desire to see me girl on girl. Knowing my formers I can predict that they were not ashamed about being completely straight. So far I have only been in relationships with these sort of guys and all I can say is WAAAAAHOOOOOOOOOOO, I am fortunate. People like what they like. I could never consider lusting after a woman. Men I have been involved with never lusted after a man. I am perfectly ok in my thoughts which I do not view as prejudice, I see them as personal taste. Some of us are not bisexual and never will be. No guilt and no intolerance, because I don't really care what other people enjoy.

SubPet715 -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:30:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: No I did not. I figured I'd just get the English idiom, which means to drug someone. Sorry Nah.. I did have the thought of tugging on your ears when I typed it...ahem...[8D] (You might have looked a little like Mickey in that situation) The term comes from a bartender "Mickey Finn" who would drug some of his patrons and rob them. The more you know...

Icarys -> RE: An intolerance I didn't know I had... (9/3/2010 4:33:04 PM)
quote: The term comes from a bartender "Mickey Finn" who would drug some of his patrons and rob them. The more you know... Nahhh as in no I didn't mean that...Geez..I think almost everyone my age knows what a Mickey is lol.

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