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ORIGINAL: SubPet715

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I am a straight male submissive who has shown interest in submitting to a switch couple, the female was a switch and the male was not he was pure dominant.

Now in my discussions with them the male gave me inklings towards me serving him in a sexual way even though I made perfectly clear that I was straight. He also made it clear he was straight to, but went on to talk about it differently.

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He talked about it as if it was simply a mechanical, primal need to show dominance over me by making me serve him sexually. I made it clear that I was not at that level of comfortability with men to just let them do that, he made it clear that over time he would disabuse my beliefs.

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ORIGINAL: SubPet715

This is question for all the male dominants who identify as straight.

I am a straight male submissive who has shown interest in submitting to a switch couple, the female was a switch and the male was not he was pure dominant.

Now in my discussions with them the male gave me inklings towards me serving him in a sexual way even though I made perfectly clear that I was straight. He also made it clear he was straight to, but went on to talk about it differently.

He talked about it as if it was simply a mechanical, primal need to show dominance over me by making me serve him sexually. I made it clear that I was not at that level of comfortability with men to just let them do that, he made it clear that over time he would disabuse my beliefs. At that point I wished him luck and no harsh feelings but it still made me wonder, was he just in denial about his nature or was there something to what he was saying?

So my question isn't a question it's more of a statement, i'm asking what do you say about this? Any thoughts on something like this? Am I wrong to be wary of an attitude like this or is it common place.

I understand i'm everywhere with this but i'm just unsure of things.

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ORIGINAL: SubPet715
He talked about it as if it was simply a mechanical, primal need to show dominance over me by making me serve him sexually. I made it clear that I was not at that level of comfortability with men to just let them do that, he made it clear that over time he would disabuse my beliefs.

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ORIGINAL: DePubed

If you only "submit" how you want, when you want, with whom you want, etc. then you are not really submitting.
So to be a true submissive, you should submit to anything by anyone who walks up and tells you to? That may be your definition of a submissive, but I think you will find most people only submit to the people they are already in a relationship with.

Perhaps the problem is that you are self-describing yourself as a 'submissive' when you are not actually 'submissive' but 'passive' or some other term.
Again, maybe you are 'submissive' when it comes to a female dominating you (because this does not threaten your self-image as 'straight'), but you are rebellious when it comes to being submissive to a dominant male.
Some dominant males whom I know have actually very little desire to top a submissive male like you, yet they feel that they NEED to top you sexually in order to establish their dominance and your true submission, at least once.
Perhaps the problem is that you are describing them as dominant males when they are really just horny men looking for a hole to stick their dicks.

Even some Female Dominants whom I know have required their straight male submissives to lick the balls of another male sometimes, just to experience true submission.
I know females who enjoy forcing men to play with other men. They NEVER do this unless the sub in question has already agreed to it.

Don't make more of this than it is.
An occasional use of you, by your Dominant Male, for his sexual pleasure should be expected.
Yes, even a male submissive (like you)  has  the right to refuse sexual practices that are dangerous to your health or which might be illegal; but simply because you find a sexual practice 'intellectually disgusting/repulsive/distasteful' does not allow you to refuse; and, in the 'kinky families' that I know here in Los Angeles, would just bring you a lot of physical punishment & training to bring you to obey and to do as you were told, regardless how you felt 'inside'.
Actually, I have the right to refuse to do anything I don't want to do. It may limit the field of prospective dommes, but that doesn't mean I can't do it.

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What that had done was made me question my status as a submissive, because I did not...submit.

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ORIGINAL: SubPet715
So my question isn't a question it's more of a statement, i'm asking what do you say about this? Any thoughts on something like this? Am I wrong to be wary of an attitude like this or is it common place.

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ORIGINAL: DePubed
An occasional use of you, by your Dominant Male, for his sexual pleasure should be expected.
Yes, even a male submissive (like you)  has  the right to refuse sexual practices that are dangerous to your health or which might be illegal; but simply because you find a sexual practice 'intellectually disgusting/repulsive/distasteful' does not allow you to refuse; and, in the 'kinky families' that I know here in Los Angeles, would just bring you a lot of physical punishment & training to bring you to obey and to do as you were told, regardless how you felt 'inside'.