Submissives in the military

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Submissives in the military

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Submissives in the military

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Submissives in the military - 9/4/2010 9:11:59 PM

HarmonyWater

Posts: 5
Joined: 8/28/2010
Status: offline

Hello Everyone!

I am currently in the military (guard) and i had planed on making it a career eventually after i completed all of my schooling. I kind of figured it would be nice to be able to travel a majority of the world with the added perk of getting paid to do so. However, this kind of makes it difficult to meet people who...are into the same things. I understand there were some other posts involving this subject but i just couldn't find the answer that i was really looking for. So i was wondering if Dom/me's have trouble owning a person that is actively serving or they just try not to get involved with them? I am not going to lie like the last three relationships i have been in this subject was a deal breaker and it was part of the reason it ended. They basically said it was them or the military.

I really would appreciate some advice on this i feel very lost right now.

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/4/2010 9:21:50 PM

hlen5

Posts: 5890
Joined: 3/2/2008
Status: offline

Welcome to CM and the boards! I can't offer any advice on your problem.

_____________________________

My fave Thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2626198/mpage_1/tm.htm

One time "Phallus Expert Extraordinaire"

(in reply to HarmonyWater)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/4/2010 9:31:37 PM

Tantriqu

Posts: 2026
Joined: 12/29/2006
Status: offline

Hi, H:

It's not very different for a D/s relationship than a vanilla one: are you going to be in one particular town long enough to form a LTR? If not, it's not worth a good woman's time, unless she just wants a one-month stand. The difference being, it generally takes a month or so just to start to get to the good stuff with a lifestyle Domme.
But in Canada at least, most military postings are from a home base where you'd have the opportunity to find a Domme and be collared [we tend to love a man in uniform: so obedient!], then postings generally lasting six to twelve months where just like vanillas you'd have to be monogamous and chaste in the field. And remember, lots of guys in the military are subs, and the new silicone chastity devices even come in camo!
Good luck.

(in reply to HarmonyWater)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/4/2010 10:22:30 PM

Lordandmaster

Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline

I kinda think a career in the military is going to be a dealbreaker for any dom who doesn't see himself tied to the military for the rest of his life. Why not try to find a dom who is in the military too?

(in reply to Tantriqu)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/5/2010 6:22:02 AM

daddysliloneds

Posts: 1351
Joined: 6/28/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I kinda think a career in the military is going to be a dealbreaker for any dom who doesn't see himself tied to the military for the rest of his life. Why not try to find a dom who is in the military too?

i agree; you'll always be answering to the military first, and your dominant second, and you know how they like to be put up on that pedestal and come first all the time

(in reply to Lordandmaster)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/5/2010 7:44:28 AM

LadyPact

Posts: 32566
Status: offline

It's really no different than a vanilla relationship. There are some people out there who do not want a partner that will be traveling around the world with their career rather than being home every night.

There are some Dominants that will have a problem with it. Others won't. It's going to depend completely on the individual that you are dealing with.

_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to daddysliloneds)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/5/2010 7:55:08 AM

SylvereApLeanan

Posts: 8275
Joined: 11/1/2007
From: Hell
Status: offline

I agree with LadyPact. It's all about the people involved and how willing you are to work at making the relationship work. If you're both willing to compromise and be understanding of each other, then anything is possible. For example, you might consider staying Guard or Reserve rather than go active duty, if that was more acceptible for your prospective partner. It's something you'll have to discuss with the person when the time comes.

_____________________________

Sylverë
Dark Muse
30 Fluffy Points
Grumpy Cat is my spirit animal.
Shadow Governess & Mean Girl

"There's something that doesn't make sense. Let's go and poke it with a stick."— The Doctor

(in reply to LadyPact)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/5/2010 7:13:01 PM

Lucienne

Posts: 1175
Joined: 9/5/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's really no different than a vanilla relationship. There are some people out there who do not want a partner that will be traveling around the world with their career rather than being home every night.

There are some Dominants that will have a problem with it. Others won't. It's going to depend completely on the individual that you are dealing with.

I agree. I'd think that if anything, dealing with people who are used to the military would increase her chances of finding a partner who could handle the travel. I'm a military brat and it took me years to realize that my understanding of acceptable availability (based on my dad's constant travels when I was a kid) was very different than the average person's. The amount of separation is far from ideal, but if you've learned how to maintain healthy relations within those constraints, I would think that's a skill set that would translate easily to D/s.

(in reply to LadyPact)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/5/2010 9:33:27 PM

LPslittleclip

Posts: 1163
Joined: 9/29/2007
Status: offline

im in the military and also a collared slave.my advice is just do as you are now and look for local munches and play places. as far as finding a dominant ltr that will be up to you and the dominant. i was willing to drive 3 hours to meet someone from alt and not play the first time as it turned out W/we were only 10 min apart. as i was only going to be there for a year i was just seeking a play partner. at the time my Mistress had limits on married and older, but as W/we played and grew as a poly family those became less of limits. now i have been collared for nearing 3 years, the point is that W/we were willing to work on it even while i was deployed. so put in a honest effort and be truthfull and im sure that you will find a partner.

_____________________________

proud to serve the awsome
LadyPact

(in reply to Lucienne)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: Submissives in the military - 9/6/2010 3:36:01 PM

HarmonyWater

Posts: 5
Joined: 8/28/2010
Status: offline

Thank you everyone for your thoughts on this! It gives me some hope that maybe i can find a Dom that likes to travel to.

I planned on staying in the guard till i actually finished school and re-evaluate where i am from there. Thank you LadyPact and LPslittleclip for some of the valuable insight you both gave.