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RE: How much information do you give your sub/slave - 4/23/2006 2:38:10 PM

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omg...
I didn't know whether to gasp or laugh when I read that.

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RE: How much information do you give your sub/slave - 4/23/2006 2:44:36 PM

TeeGO

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

My current dominant owner believes in giving very little information. Like the other day, she told me to go out and get her a pack of cigarettes. When I came back, all of the furniture was gone, the mail had been forwarded elsewhere and she was nowhere to be found. Now, if I was one of those "gotta know everything slaves", I'd be all concerned and try to figure out what happened. But this is her way. She prefers to keep me out of the loop. And I can live with that.

It's been about ten years now. I'm giving her a few more days and then I'm going to start getting worried. I mean, she's probably run out of smokes by now.

You are a patient man my friend. I would have been upset 8 or 9 years ago.

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RE: How much information do you give your sub/slave - 4/23/2006 4:01:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: dave1212

Hello Mistresses,
I was just curious as to how much general information you decide your sub/slave need's to know ..
ie; you go on holiday do you tell your sub/slave ?
ie; you will not be needed this weekend etc
This is mainly aimed at those who are not within a 24/7 dynamic..

What i'm trying to ask is basically if you do not need your sub/slave for whatever reason/time period do you let them know so they can plan "other" thing's or are they alway's on a sort of "standby" to serve you...
Many thank's...

I believe that a Mistress/slave relationship should be a close one - a friendship. I do not believe in leaving anyone "hanging" - that's just rude. If I need to keep my sub on "standby" because I am either ill or out of town I will let him know. It's only fair.

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RE: How much information do you give your sub/slave - 4/24/2006 6:19:35 AM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: dave1212

thetammyjo, i should have said "if you are not within a 24/7 " it may have been a little clearer..

I'd say that if you aren't in a 24/7 relationship you have no reason to be "in standby" for anyone.

If someone wants you at her beck and call, exclusively so that you are waiting around for her, then you might as well call it 24/7 and ask, no, demand, some of the benefits of it. You would both be adults, right, both of you consenting to a mutually satisfying relationship, correct?

Depending on how close you are the minimum information you should get would be anything related to what the two of you have plans for. The only exception would be if you have discussed surprises though I would personally expect these to be positive and not negative (showing up for an impromptu scene vs. just not showing up for something you planned).

Of course surprising people has risks depending on how much information you share with each other. She might show up at your house or give you a call to do a scene but you might have something you have to do (family, work, whatever).

What I'm trying to say is that you should be careful to weigh what you hand over with what you get back. If you don't feel like you are getting enough information, then, for you, it is not enough information. Its one of those things to think about when you negotiate or set-up your relationship.

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RE: How much information do you give your sub/slave - 4/24/2006 6:31:02 AM

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My online slaves check in daily. My R/L scheduled slaves are just that, scheduled.
My Commands for the hour, day, week , month are what I give in return.
I give no other information to My slaves that are not 24/7 other then that
which is a part of Our scene or what needs to be learned by them.
They are present for My Use on My Time on My Command.
What I do when I do it how I do it where I do it is of no issue for them to concern themselfs with.
All the information thats needed is how to serve Me, when to serve Me, where to serve Me, and why to serve Me, nothing more.

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