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SirGuy68 -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/18/2010 4:55:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: femasoslave

I'm curious....I have read many subby/slave women profiles on here and they have been single for a loooong while...

.....and so many men are genuine here!.....



I was curious enough to do a search of females seeking anything any height under 200lbs in Australia. There are 10 or 11 pages of 8 per page that have been active with in the past 4 days. Disregarding the dommes or lesbians the average is six per page. Restricting my search to New South Wales - I find one page active in the past 5 days. Searching with the keyword / city Sidney, no matches.

Where are you finding many profiles to read that say they have been single a long time?

BTY I must compliment you Aussies, I see going into summer you are all quite beach ready. Amazing how demographics can change one.



crazyml -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/18/2010 7:12:14 AM)

Seemed like a pretty polite response to me... she could have said ..

"See where it says '~fr~'- that stands for 'Fast Reply' Jackass.'

But she didn't.



xkittenx -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/18/2010 12:58:30 PM)

Now thats putting things into perspective.



Silentrunner26 -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/19/2010 1:11:52 AM)

Just thinking to myself about why I have chosen to be alone (17 months so far) . I just have not found anyone I even want to try and get involed with . I am 48 and spent most my life dating and leaving someone because it just did not work . I would like to find someone but it is getting harder and harder to find someone who wants to just get to know each other and take things slow . I have seen to many subs get hurt by rushing into something and a several Doms left looking like a fool when their sub has left and He finds that He was just a stop off before the next Dom with a bigger bank account came along . I am not saying even a small amount have done this just that it happens as well as other things that go wrong in a realtionship . So I wait and look and enjoy life one day at a time and wonder what the next sunrise will look like . If a subs is looking for someone with a big account of love or money there should be no judgemet on him or her . I want my subs to have my heart and respect before she becomes my sub but like I said that is just my thoughts .



Arturas -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/20/2010 1:48:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Silentrunner26

Just thinking to myself about why I have chosen to be alone (17 months so far) . I just have not found anyone I even want to try and get involed with . I am 48 and spent most my life dating and leaving someone because it just did not work . I would like to find someone but it is getting harder and harder to find someone who wants to just get to know each other and take things slow . I have seen to many subs get hurt by rushing into something and a several Doms left looking like a fool when their sub has left and He finds that He was just a stop off before the next Dom with a bigger bank account came along . I am not saying even a small amount have done this just that it happens as well as other things that go wrong in a realtionship . So I wait and look and enjoy life one day at a time and wonder what the next sunrise will look like . If a subs is looking for someone with a big account of love or money there should be no judgemet on him or her . I want my subs to have my heart and respect before she becomes my sub but like I said that is just my thoughts .



Greetings Silentrunner26,

I think those are good thoughts.

I myself never ran into anyone wanting money. I have been fortunate instead to meet the "one" who is now shares my life and warms House Arturas 24/7 with her beautiful, intelligent and submissive self, my gorean slave girl kajirastar.

It took some years to find that "one" but I met through CM some very wonderful local submissive women during this search. My one, kajirastar, came into this relationship with these required qualities of both "heart and respect" you mentioned in your post. These were just as important to me as they are to you.

I sense from your writing that you will treat your future partner in crime with heart and respect and not just "dominance" and you'll use that outlook to be very successfull in building a relationship knowing your differences as dom and sub are to be appreciated and respected and cherished. Yes, cherished.

You know, as far as CM searching is concerned and from a master's point of view, perhaps you would agree there are many more submissives here with those wonderful outlooks and qualities than some would let on. Perhaps you would also agree that if one is patient and positive and bring respect and heart to the table as well as those qualities that make one a great dom or sub then sooner than later you will meet that "one" and can celebrate your differences and mold them together into something stronger than you each can be individually.

Goreans speaking of heart and respect also? You bet. If one is true to to their goals and are true to their self then I would have to say this and other goreans know heart and respect is very much a part of any real lasting relationship.

Well wishes,
Arturas



JstAnotherSub -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/20/2010 3:21:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arturas


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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

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ORIGINAL: Arturas


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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

~fr~

Now that I know I am single because I am fake, I will sleep so much better!  I thought it was because I am fat!

Collarme is so fukn educational!



Greetings JstAnotherSub,

Was this really directed at me in your reply to my userid? Are you expecting a return reply from me?

Well wishes,
Arturas
I will point out the ~fr~ at the top.  You do the math.


"you do the math"?

You folks are very friendly here, I can very much see that. You come in here and do a quick hit and run one liner on this thread and when I ask a little about it you and some other player do another quick hit and run like you have absolutely no manners and never posted in a serious thread before with something worth reading.

Why don't you just run. I'm frankly not in the mood for such time wasters as you.
Oh I am so sorry for not doing what you thought was correct.  I will not do a one liner again.

The fact that you chose to take something that clearly was marked as a fast reply and try to make it all about you, certainly had no influence on my reply and my snarkiness.  I am just rude and unworthy.  Thank you so much for making me aware of this.  I will try to do better in the future.

My lack of manners, I have to blame on being born in Georgia.  Hell we just got indoor plumbin in the 70's.  I think manners and posting serious replies to absolute ridiculous posts by folks who think they are all important is on the agenda for the early 2020's.

Thank you for helping me.  I hope, after the classes in the early 2020's, I can one day post in a serious thread with something worth reading like you do.

Again, my sincerest apologies for wasting your time by making such a silly silly comment.

Oh, btw, the reply was not to you, even though it showed it was a response to your userid.  I had no idea you had posted to the thread when I made the fast reply.  And no, I expected no reply from you, who I did not reply to.  I am honored to have gotten two replies though, especially educational ones that show me the error of my ways in such a kind and wonderful way.

Thank you once again.  I feel much better now that I gave up one liners!



femasoslave -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/20/2010 11:14:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SirGuy68

I was curious enough to do a search of females seeking anything any height under 200lbs in Australia. There are 10 or 11 pages of 8 per page that have been active with in the past 4 days. Disregarding the dommes or lesbians the average is six per page. Restricting my search to New South Wales - I find one page active in the past 5 days. Searching with the keyword / city Sidney, no matches.

Where are you finding many profiles to read that say they have been single a long time?

BTY I must compliment you Aussies, I see going into summer you are all quite beach ready. Amazing how demographics can change one.



It is spelt Sydney....not Sidney.

I also apologised earlier in this thread, I said I was wrong, no excuses but I was in a strange frame of mind....I should never of judged others for what they do in their lives.

Cheers from sunny Australia

p.s  If you havnt been here and if you ever have an opportunity to visit, please dont hesitate...it really is a great country, we are all very friendly.

p.p.s  please let this thread die





D0M1NANT -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/21/2010 3:28:52 PM)

Single is not necessarily the sign of a finicky sub.. I believe that every situation in Oones life is a learning experience. In a D/s relationship, it is no different. I continue to learn things about Myself regularly from the girl or girls I have in My life. As such, I believe that if Life reveals a lesson, Oone has to LEARN the lesson or Oone is bound to repeat it until it IS learned. Sometimes in ways more attention catching and not as subtle.. (says the Man who had to get shot as one such lesson..) As such, after EVERY relationship, I take some time to consider all that happened and learn what lessons there are to be gained from the entire situation. there is no time limit on such contemplations and have lasted 18 months before.. There are many extraneous situations that have to be considered when looking at why someone may have been single for any length of time.. 



Mistletoe -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/21/2010 8:15:14 PM)

I am single because my hubby died a bit over 2 yrs ago. I lost not only him but a part of myself as well. I now long for a companion again but I will remain alone until I meet the one I wish to serve. I will not lower my standards to avoid being alone. I will not lower my standards in what I want in a man even if I am alone until the day I die.

There are as many reasons why as there are stars in the sky for why a woman may be alone for an extended amount of time.



Silentrunner26 -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/23/2010 7:31:33 PM)

Aturas you are very lucky to have found her . I wait and watch the world and I learn as well as teach .

Mistletoe someday your search will take you down a road that will be at first dark and lonely but in time there will be a light and it show you a way to a loving heart . I have lost a love once took 15 yrs before I stopped thinking about her on the night she died . I still think about her but I don't get drunk on that night . The heart will open and and we will again know what it is to be alive once more . We all live our lives but until we fill those lives with love we truely do not live .



SeaviewBridge -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/24/2010 8:21:09 AM)

Like many men on CM and other sites, it's merely a fantasy, a distraction for some women from their daily lives for whatever personal reasons, despite what their profiles proclaim about seriously seeking someone. Others really are serious and, like some men, simply haven't found that connection and chemistry that are looking for. Some never do.






sunshinemiss -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/25/2010 9:06:48 AM)

I'm not reading 9 pages of a thread that has a redundant subject line.  However, while I'm sure that the brilliant folks on CM have noted this already, again I'm not willing to sift through 9 pages to find it.  Therefore, I'm "QFT" by restating what I'm sure has been said.

You are asking a bunch of men why women are single?  That just made my head explode, and I've spent twenty minutes cleaning up the grey matter and putting it all back together.  Skulls are hard to sew back up.  Broke three needles dangit!

best,
sunshine



sunshinemiss -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/25/2010 9:15:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mistletoe

I will not lower my standards to avoid being alone. I will not lower my standards in what I want in a man even if I am alone until the day I die. 



Ding ding ding. 

Thank you Mistletoe.  Beautifully stated.  Sadly, many of us did not learn that early on and made a number of foolish mistakes. 

Best wishes,
sunshine



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/26/2010 4:33:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Skulls are hard to sew back up.  Broke three needles dangit!

So next time use a staple gun [8D]

(Or cheat and just use copidex.)



Silentrunner26 -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/27/2010 11:29:41 AM)

I use velcro saves time and glue



BbcSlutKc -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/28/2010 1:33:55 PM)

well im going to answer u anyways because u wanna know about the women, it seems very funny that u would ask a man and not a woman. What type of self respecting woman would just bow down and serve any man that tells her too??? women jump right into a relationship and have no clue what they r really getting themselves into. not long after that they wholeheartedly regret their decision and now r scarred for life. not every man nor woman are what they say. im sure u know that. so y not take ur time and make sure its right? seems the only logical thing to me anyways.



ranja -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (9/30/2010 2:14:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: Mistletoe

I will not lower my standards to avoid being alone. I will not lower my standards in what I want in a man even if I am alone until the day I die. 



Ding ding ding. 

Thank you Mistletoe.  Beautifully stated.  Sadly, many of us did not learn that early on and made a number of foolish mistakes. 

Best wishes,
sunshine


Care should be taken that standards are not ridiculously high.... as many people are alone because they have totally unrealistic standards and no understanding of the fact that nobody will ever be perfect... many people suffer from egoism and consumerism.

Obviously nobody should feel like they have to settle for someone they don't really like, but people should not disregard a partnership because the other person is not exactly as they want them to be either, it is all about compromises.

i am flawed, i am with my flawed Husband... if my Husband dies before me i hope after grieving i will be so lucky as to find another flawed person
i'd rather be with a flawed person than alone... i think being alone is quite boring i much rather compromise...
but it does seem for many compromising is more and more difficult the older they get.



scottishjason -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (11/19/2010 12:39:45 PM)

There are a few answers to this question:   First almost all of the profiles on this site are fake.  They are ether scammers, spammers, or misrepresenting themselves looking for only online communication.  You know like the large older man living in Utah who likes to pretend he is a lovely younger woman online.   Second this site can be a bit overwhelming for most submissives and slaves.  Most of the women I know who have used this site tell me that they get so many email messages a day its just about impossible to keep up with them.   Third for some reason of the few real people who use this site almost all of them are not really into kink but more into just rough sex.  Collarme was not intended to be a sex site but a kink site.  Hence the name, becoming a collard salve and entering into a master slave relationship is not in any way the same as entering into a highly sexual relationship.   So when you break it down you don’t have a lot of lifestyle BDSM D/s M/s or kink people that use this site.  Mostly because lifestyle people don’t normally use the internet to find dates when it’s far too easy to find dates within the lifestyle.    If you are truly looking for a submissive or slave partner I would highly recommend that you check out your local scene instead of wasting your time online.   ScottishJason



Lockit -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (11/19/2010 1:00:32 PM)

You were a bit late to this party, but ever so glad you could make it. A couple questions for you though.

1. Do you like hanging out with all those fakes, because I am a bit confused because you are here.

2. How do you know what's going on in the bedrooms of the real people here that really only want rough sex?

3. Do you always do this well making an entrance?



LadyHugs -> RE: Question for MASTERS only! (11/20/2010 11:42:57 AM)

Femasoslave,

I am of the personal opinion, that slaves just as much as Masters have a choice.

Depending on the experiences of an individual slave/submissive, their limits will vary.  New folks to the scene need/want a bit of control as to get out of a bad/abusive situation without damage to their own views of what slavery/submission means to them.  Now days with anybody without peer approval can declare themselves Master or slave, to which in fact is really their own imagination, as I've seen too many 'cyber' sorts that claim so many skills at this and that, can't flog themselves out of a wet paper bag, let alone "master" themselves or others.  I have no problems with that at all.  Everybody has their views of what makes them slave or submissive, just as much as Masters have an opinion of what makes them a "master" verses a service TOP and everything in between.

I am happy for you, that you have found 'your' own Master.  However, I am sad to see that this happiness is being cause for you to make seeking slaves/submissives feel even worse as they find what makes 'them' happy--not yours, not mine but -- their happiness. 

As new slaves/submissive prospects come into the lifestyle/scene --they must begin somewhere.  I don't find it helpful when others shoot down their qualities and causes for what limits and such they have.  It is their personal business as much as it is the personal business of a Master to choose them.  It must be a chemistry between them.
The community that should be giving them kind, helpful advice and be an example of how slavery/submission inside as well as outside the relationship could be. 

I don't hand out collars like candy at Halloween.  In my slave prospects, they earn their collar and can very easily loose it.  My slaves are my world and my slaves say that I am 'their' world.  Nobody else's -- just our life, our 'family' in Leather.  We aren't living for public approval or for other's amusements.  Yet, I am quite public and enjoy having my slaves in company of other Masters and their slaves.  Often several slaves must work as a team.  Again, a reason why slaves, in my opinion, should be kind to one another, helpful in their journey as slave and be kind in pointing out their short comings.  Respect is earned on both sides of the whip.

Just some observations and opinions.

Respectfully,
Lady Hugs



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