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Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 10:51:49 AM   
aneeda


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I met a very caring and mature Master. But ... he is sadistic he loves pain and torture. Should i accept this ?
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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 10:58:21 AM   
xkittenx


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Status: offline 		Hi, aneeda.

Being on the receiving end of pain and torture can be fun if you're a masochist of if you get off on the idea of enduring discomfort for the sake of serving your dom. When I first started out I was NOT a masochist but I did like the idea of enduring something for the sake of pleasing someone else. Eventually I started to enjoy the pain itself and now I do consider myself to be somewhat masochistic. People's preferences do change.

I don't think anyone here can tell you whether or not you should be with this master. Chances are that if you do want to be with and submit to him, you'll have to accept his sadistic side as well. Its all part of the package. From the sounds of things you're not into pain and torture though. So the choice you're faced with here is, CAN you accept his sadistic nature or not? And if not, that might make you two incompatible for a D/s relationship. But if you can accept it and he's willing to take his time, you just might find out you really enjoy it after all.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:01:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: aneeda
he is sadistic he loves pain and torture. Should i accept this ?


Only you can answer this.  I accept pain and torture.... actually I invite it.

As xkittenx said, you can learn to accept it, learn to enjoy it.

You can also reject it if you wish.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:08:33 AM   
aneeda


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your answers.
In fact i am a little new in the lifestyle and i am not a masochist person. I am scared to feel pain, specially my Master loves torture. I am trying to accept it because it pleases him and in same place the idea of torture, use and abuse turns me, but i don't know if can do all this in real. (I am sorry for my english, my education is french)
Once again thanks for your replies.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:13:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have you talked to him about how he plans to get you started and if he'll be taking your uncertainly and inexperience into account?

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:19:50 AM   
aneeda


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Status: offline 		yes he is conscientious about my fears, he is going slowly with me. but i still scared from needles. he asked me to take some herbs to make me milking so my breasts become bigger and nipples can be stretched by the goat milker. Isn't dangerous ?

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:42:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Might be. I'm not familiar with goat milkers. I'd check with your doc about the herbs just to make sure they are safe and won't interact with any sort of medication you are on. The risk probably low to zero but it never hurts to make sure.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 11:47:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		One thing you may need to seriously think about, as you stated you are fairly new, the fact that there is so much you don't know about and part of that is not knowing yourself as deeply as you can. Right now you probably don't have a concrete basis to say yes I like that or definitely no damn way! Yes we who first started out, we think we will like x y or z yet we have little to no past experiences to honestly say what we do like and what we don't. It's through self awareness with the patience teachings from a dominant who is willing to take the time to gradually show us the ropes, so to speak, in order for us to determine what is okay or not.  When a person knows them self better, they find that what the mind fears often is exaggerated and was formed from lack of knowledge and personal experience.


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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 12:22:09 PM   
aneeda


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Status: offline 		He wants to stretch my peehole, and other holes. is it normal to do in the lifestyle ?

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 12:26:02 PM   
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He wants to stretch my peehole, and other holes. is it normal to do in the lifestyle ?


It is not normal in or out of the lifestyle, to stretch your urethra (peehole), unless you were born with a physical deformity and have an unusually small one.

It sounds like you need to slow things down. Alot.

Cali


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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 12:29:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't personally agree to any play like stretching urethra's * pee holes* an stuff that's medically dangerous, or possibly medically dangerous.

But that's just me.

If you find the risks of what he wants to do to you acceptable, or not, then you're the only one that can answer if you should accept he's a sadist.


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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 12:39:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		sorry no is gettin gnear my urethra to stretch it apart form the agony i ca imagine it would be and i am a pain slut its jsut palin dangerous. but thats my opinion.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 12:41:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick


quote:

ORIGINAL: aneeda

He wants to stretch my peehole, and other holes. is it normal to do in the lifestyle ?


It is not normal in or out of the lifestyle, to stretch your urethra (peehole), unless you were born with a physical deformity and have an unusually small one.

It sounds like you need to slow things down. Alot.

Cali



Agreed. And why on earth would someone want to stretch someone's urethra? What is the point? You will only be more likely to get an infection and have bladder and urinary tracts issues moving forward.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 1:05:44 PM   
Viridana


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Status: offline 		Stretching of the urethra "pee hole" will cause you urine leakage problems in the future. As a woman you're already predisposed to such problems (it is believed 1 in every 3 women above the age of 50 has had/or has leakage problems). Urine leakage predisposes you to frequent urine infections, social discomfort and requires pessaries or surgery to fix.

Just a little medical minute here from the M.D.
However you have to decide whether this is something you find appealing or acceptable.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 1:53:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you even have to ask the kinds of questions you're asking in this thread then I think you should not even consider any kind of bdsm relationship until you get some kind of grip on reality and common sense.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 2:03:39 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		Maybe you arent aware of this yet, but you are under consideration by a dominant who claims he
isnt sadistic. Perhaps you are talking of some other master?
I suppose stating that he is a licensed physician should put our minds to rest regarding his interest in
modifying your body.....why not ask him of the dangers?

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 2:30:24 PM   
aneeda


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Status: offline 		Thanks for you all for your care, i really appreciate your advices.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 2:53:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Urethra stretching, lactation, needles? None of these are appropriate play for a beginner.
He obviously doesn't care about your needs being satisfied also.

These kinds of things shouldn't be done until the relationship is rock solid which is a matter of years, not weeks.

I'd wish him good luck finding someone compatible and go look for someone who you are compatible with.


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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 3:33:36 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I'd have to agree with Des in that he isn't the only guy out there...how about looking around until you find someone more suited to you and your level of experience? The things that you have mentioned are not common practices - the fact that your Master wants to do them with someone who is new is a little worrisome. Shouldn't he be introducing you to the concept of pain slowly instead of inducing lactation and stretching your nipples in a goat milker? Just an FYI, lactation is not something you can play with now and then, you have to make a concentrated effort to get it going and then to keep it up.

As to your question about whether to accept pain and torture or not...I don't particularly like pain but I've grown to like accepting it for my Dom. We started slowly so I could experience it and see how it affected me. I felt comfortable enough with his slow build-up to try things I'd never done before and him hurting me in various ways is now part of our regular repertoire. If he'd come at me in the beginning with a goat milker and things to stretch my pee hole I'd have probably run for the hills.

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RE: Sadistic Master - 9/12/2010 4:21:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		You should check with a working physician before you do any urethra stretching or eve insertions that are not done under sterile conditions with sterile apparatus.  No one is worh risking your health for.

Wanting to do such dangerous things so quickly should be a huge red flag.  I am not saying not to do it but get medical advice first.

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