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ORIGINAL: sweetcrybaby

 It can be looked at negatively to question your Dom, so many straight female submissives end up with cheaters.

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ORIGINAL: OrderAndFlux

Here is my impression as a neophyte/total outsider who has never had a kinky relationship and who just got around to making an account here.  Basically, I'm talking out my ass, but tell me if I'm right:

I'd say that straight sub males definitely have it the worst.  It isn't just a numbers game, although the numbers are certainly not in our favor.  It's also that it seems like so many sub males I've met at a couple of real life events and talked to at another site are wired to want things that Dommes have no interest in doing.  So basically, I'd say that when the numbers are against you AND you want things the women you want have no interest in providing, you're pretty screwed.  Obviously, even with sub males the cream rises to the top and good guys eventually find good matches, but I think it can be a long and frustrating process.

Straight Dommes also seem to have it pretty rough.  They do have a larger pool from which to choose than do the sub males, but on the other hand most of the guys they're choosing from are a bit oafish.  The odds are pretty good, but the goods are pretty odd.

Straight Doms seem to be in a little better shape.  The decent ones, anyway.  There are a lot of total assclowns wandering around calling themselves Doms, but the ones who are worth a damn seem to stand out.  Also, on average it seems like sub women are brighter/hotter/better socialized than sub men.

Sub women are also in pretty good shape if they have anything on the ball.  They seem to be the most adroit social climbers and are able to move effortlessly from Dom to Dom until they land where they want.

Bi and lesbian Dommes seem to be in a position to write their own tickets.  They also tend to have good senses of humor and flawless senses of style.  If kink were a roleplaying game and I were designing a character, I'd play a bi Domme.  But, alas, nature didn't conspire to make me that way.

Gay and bi Doms seem to have it the best.  The gay sub boys I've known have been hunky, smart, and articulate so I'd say they have the best pool from which to choose and numbers are definitely on their side.

So these are my kneejerk impressions of the geopolitics of Planet Kink.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I thought straight female subs had it pretty rough.  It's slim pickins' (in real life) for straight male Doms that aren't already taken.  

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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I thought straight female subs had it pretty rough.  It's slim pickins' (in real life) for straight male Doms that aren't already taken.  

If the Dom is YOUNG, HANDSOME, PROFESSIONAL, INTELLIGENT, and looks like he just walked out of GQ, he will have no problem getting a sub female.

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I won the D/s lottery and I know it. [:)]

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ORIGINAL: BreathandStone

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I won the D/s lottery and I know it. [:)]

Maybe so, Otter. But from what I've read, she may have won the lottery too.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

FR

Orientation and gender are really stupid ways of deciding who's drawn the short straw.

You know who draws the short straw? Boring people. Unattractive people (I'm not talking about the physical here). People with no social skills. People with grating laughs. People with no perceptible sense of humour.

Feel sorry for those people.I know straight sub males who are chased by the women around them on account of their sheer awesomeness. People who lack awesome have it the worst, and a lack of awesome is an affliction that does not discriminate between genders or orientations or sexualities. So can the self-pity, OP, because it is decidedly un-awesome.

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I still maintain that there is nothing like a girlie-boy for the discerning Dominant!  [:)]

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

FR

Orientation and gender are really stupid ways of deciding who's drawn the short straw.

You know who draws the short straw? Boring people. Unattractive people (I'm not talking about the physical here). People with no social skills. People with grating laughs. People with no perceptible sense of humour.

Feel sorry for those people.I know straight sub males who are chased by the women around them on account of their sheer awesomeness. People who lack awesome have it the worst, and a lack of awesome is an affliction that does not discriminate between genders or orientations or sexualities. So can the self-pity, OP, because it is decidedly un-awesome.