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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/23/2006 2:48:55 PM

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Pretty simple. I enjoy pain, and I was lucky enough to find someone who enjoyed seeing me receive it.

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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/23/2006 4:26:51 PM

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Odd thing about writting...once it's out there you almost can never take it back. But I'm not offended by the "mis-print."

I've always had a strong personality and known what i wanted in all areas of my life. I've always had a strange way to make men see things my way. Oddly enough my husband (who is white) pushed me off the cliff and into a more extreme dominating role. It started with one strap on scene and me reducing him to a whining pile of man flesh (all at his request mind you) and that was it really.

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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/23/2006 5:37:47 PM

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I am very intrigued by what may have motivated some of you folks here to experience the feelings and passions you now have for things pertaining to this lifestyle.

i have nooooooooo clue. i just know that one day i stumped into a BDSM chat room on aol mulling over what i was. i have no clue how it got any farther then the mulling over. i know i spoke to alot of Doms and started reading up on it. Yet i dun why. It wasnt the kink. No way shape or form. Actually i had no clue about the kink. It never dawned on me it was a different way to practice sex. You know i used to wonder how folks in ltr kept sex interseting...

no clue what drew me or why i stuck around or why i kept coming back

no clue why i tend to be a masochist

no clue what drew me to TPE as i remember my first experience was with some one i knew online and he IMed me ALL his rules. i remember thinking "good god! How does anyone remember this?" and "oh hellz no thats not for me" i backed away slowly and on top of that he was a Sadist.. i backed away very slowly.. i was like uuuuuuh that is soooooo absolutetly not for me! Yet here i am in a TPE r/l with a sadist.

i have no clue.. just that i am drawn

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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/25/2006 4:57:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: MrMister

Anyway, I just wanted to get some input from others here regarding what attracted you to this lifestyle initially, and/or when did you realize that you were so inclined to partake in things generally deemed 'forbidden' by the society we live in?

For me it was my very 1st taste of it. My 1st Master, it only took that initial time and I never looked back.

The total honesty of it, that intimacy that only comes when I surrender all of me to the one/ones who will plunder the deep recesses of my being and revel in what they find.

The true commitment of being a slave, of serving and loving without thought or question the owners that I love.

The safety of knowing they will care for me in all ways for always.

Knowing the hearts and minds of those whose collar I wear in a way no vanilla relationship would support; in order to serve them completely I have to know them completely.

The deep seated trust that must flow between one who is collared and the one who bestows the collar.

The communication that is simply required; I am not allowed to hold back anything, else how could they properly hold me in their collar.

The unadulterated passion that carries no stigma, no need to conceal any part of our wanton desires, that is greeted with equal passion and joy.

The wholeness, the beauty, the unmarred purity of the love that can only manifest itself when each is aware of and accepts unconditionally all that comprises the other.

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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/25/2006 9:57:58 AM

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For me, I found a magazine and a 'story book' [half size magazine with stories and yummmy pics] under the bed of a friend of mine's dad, when he was 'moving out.' I flipped through the pages and it was interesting so I put it in my backback adn went through those things for many many years amazed at the pictures and what I was reading, it all made sence.

When I got older, I read the Sleeping Beauty Triology, after havign seen that listed in the back of another Anne Rice book, that completly got me hooked. Thinks kinda went underground after that, I kept reading what I could find on this stuff and reading erotica of this nature. Now, I write it.

I LOVE the release. I can have a stressfull day or week and just getting to talk to others who likr the same things I do and converse can be enough to relax me a bit. We do what vanilla's fantasize about, we take those 'dream's and 'fantasies' and make them a reality, and we live it.

Sounds like we are the ones trully living.

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RE: What attracts us to this lifestyle? - 4/25/2006 10:22:47 AM

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I like the honesty and integrity of putting out your most intimate secrets and human vulnerabilities on the table at the start. I like contracts, I like structure, I like accountability and I love aberrant and abhorrent perversions of any persuasion.

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