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NuevaVida -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 10:48:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Ah, here it is. Hey NV? He knows you better than you know yourself. How does that make you feel? Now think carefully before you answer.

Cali





LOL

It makes me laugh.



NuevaVida -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 10:51:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

The best way to get over my anger was through therapy. Now there's no anger to release.  I'm happy.  The end. [;)]



Happiness is overrated, imagine, you could be spending your time beating up masochistic dominants, reliving horrific abuse, having a gay old time wallowing in anger, helplessness, alternating with striking some guy who got off on it all... over and over again... until you were a spent empty shell of a person with nothing left to give..

Damn, your missing out, girlfriend!


LOL

If I was going to beat someone up back in my anger days, my ex husband would have been a bloody dead pulp.

I chose to move on. 

Whip might benefit from my therapist.



SeparatedSub -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 10:56:09 PM)

I'm a survivor of having read this thread.  Lots of anger I need to get rid of, so it'll be a great bike ride for me tomorrow AM.

This is a twisted, manipulative, dishonest, and self-serving thread.  Pathetic.  Sorry, I guess I really do have anger to get rid of.

K.



NuevaVida -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 10:59:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SeparatedSub

I'm a survivor of having read this thread.


LOL agreed.



myotherself -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:05:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip


Yes, I am a sexual sadist. I do enjoy inflicting pain. The more pain I can inflict, the more pleasure I get from it. I engage in knife play and electric play. I have never hit anyone in anger, not even as a child.

I am not into physical violence.


...so how do you reconcile your knife and electrical play, and (from your profile) your love of whips and spanking and your liking for canes and crops?

There's a world of difference between uncontrolled physical violence resulting from anger, and the controlled physical violence delivered to a willing sub/slave/bottom as part of a consensual act.

And btw - as a sub, I would NEVER take out any of my emotional issues on another person, even as part of consensual play. For one, the thought of hitting anyone, even if ordered to, is repugnant. I can't do it. And as an emotionally mature adult (who has survived "stuff" without the underlying bitterness that you think is essential), I know that it would be wrong on so many levels.




Vendaval -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:05:50 PM)

Fast Reply -

Whip the Hip has a most interesting posting history here, see post #217 in this thread from 2007. Notice the lack of research or credentials.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_950532/mpage_11/tm.htm



Lockit -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:25:16 PM)

Yeah lol... my favorite part is when he says....

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

, I am forced to direct all this energy inwards at myself.  So it is therapy for me,
too.   If I didn't direct this energy inward at myself, I could become a rapist and
sex offender. 



Vendaval -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:29:26 PM)

[sm=ofcourse.gif]



BentUnit -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:34:40 PM)

<sigh>

It would seem the OP has a history of making threads like this.  I can only assume (and personally I think I'm right on the money here) it's because, by being deliberately provocative he gets the attention he craves.
When the tread slows down he'll make another outrageous post just to spur it along further.
It worked in the last thread he created on this topic and now he's following the same pattern.
I guess negative attention is better than no attention at all.




myotherself -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:35:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

[sm=ofcourse.gif]


Is this face-palm your attempt at therapy? [:D]

Thanks for the link - suddenly it all becomes clearer. If a bit scarier...[:'(]



juliaoceania -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:46:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BentUnit

<sigh>

It would seem the OP has a history of making threads like this.  I can only assume (and personally I think I'm right on the money here) it's because, by being deliberately provocative he gets the attention he craves.
When the tread slows down he'll make another outrageous post just to spur it along further.
It worked in the last thread he created on this topic and now he's following the same pattern.
I guess negative attention is better than no attention at all.



Which is why I am not posting anymore to him, just around him



BentUnit -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:47:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


quote:

ORIGINAL: BentUnit

<sigh>

It would seem the OP has a history of making threads like this.  I can only assume (and personally I think I'm right on the money here) it's because, by being deliberately provocative he gets the attention he craves.
When the tread slows down he'll make another outrageous post just to spur it along further.
It worked in the last thread he created on this topic and now he's following the same pattern.
I guess negative attention is better than no attention at all.



Which is why I am not posting anymore to him, just around him


Sounds like a sensible thing to do. [sm=applause.gif]



SeparatedSub -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:51:15 PM)

Well, he can always use a new profile.  And maybe change up the way he thinly veils his intentions, maybe use the "I have this friend..." opener...



BentUnit -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:53:06 PM)

His writing style is quite distinctive and I no doubt he'd be outed if he tried it.



Lockit -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/19/2010 11:53:06 PM)

[:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]



femasoslave -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/20/2010 12:13:33 AM)

OP....the problem is that no-one here agrees with you that someone else should be hit through anger!!!!  It seems as though you are being stubborn in not seeing another perspective apart from your own.
Whether they are submissive or not....it IS NOT healthy to hit someone else in anger!
I have been through hell and back in the last 12 yrs (and so many others have too)...i had a bad accident in '98' where i was told i would never walk again (i did...it took me 18months) and then two half yrs after that my husband left me when i was 7months pregnant...he then took me to court and got property settlement off me in our divorce.
I call myself a survivor...I was angry for a very long while, but I had no desire to take out my anger on another person, Why would I? it wasn't their fault what I went through, I'm a better person than that. 
I wanted revenge for a long while because I was so angry but I had to come to terms with what happened....I say to myself now....thank goodness that arsehole did leave me...if he hadnt...I might be still with him!!!!!....LOL

If everyone on this earth hit out at innocent others because they have been hurt and damaged themselves.....where would we be now?



lally2 -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/20/2010 1:07:26 AM)

just to answer the question: - no.

to be honest ive had plenty of people in my life who i would have enjoyed slapping around a bit - one in particular - but you know, when i think back on those people they were weak and really stooopid people - why would i waste my energy and time in the end.

hitting in anger has the potential of getting out of control, detachment from what youre doing and loss of compassion - thats why it often ends up as abuse.  being angry but in control of what youre doing and aware of what youre doing is possible of course - but i think in the end its still better to be in a cool, controlled place.  releasing anger physically onto someone youre not angry with just feels unhealthy to me.



GreedyTop -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/20/2010 1:11:55 AM)

~FR~ 

I would NEVER use another person to assuage my anger, nor will I allow another to do so on me.



PeanutTigerinBox -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/20/2010 1:57:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: femasoslave

One should NEVER release or take their anger out on another person......for whatever reason.




dito....that's exactly why I stopped meeting a casual dom I used to meet as he appeared to me to become quite bitter recently and showed more and more intention to let it out on me...that's the way how he lost all the respect I used to have for him...fast [:)]



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Any survivor want to release anger (9/20/2010 2:24:01 AM)

FR

The idea that it's 'just' placing a flogger in someone's hand is so devoid of empathy that it scares me. It's not 'just' giving them a flogger. It's forcing them back to the incident they survived, it's pushing them to sink down to the level of their attacker, it's leaving the fact that they are striking someone in anger on their conscience, it's saying to them that the only way they will ever be happy is through violence.

There's no 'just' about it and it has nothing to do with their submissiveness whatsoever.



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