Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Sub male friends?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Sub male friends? Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Sub male friends? - 4/23/2006 7:00:45 PM   
TeeGO


Posts: 451
Joined: 12/11/2005
Status: offline 		I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs?


Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/23/2006 7:05:46 PM   
Wulfchyld


Posts: 2618
Joined: 12/7/2005
Status: offline 		Dominant or submissive shouldn’t have any bearing on friendship. I welcome friendship with anyone and hope my slave will be my best friend in the whole world. So don’t let the distinction of D/s get in the way of friendship.

_____________________________

Loki, forum god of Mischief

Submission is not a gift... it is plunder!
Where there is a whip, there is a way!
Dom/mes of a feather, beat the f*ck out of slaves together


(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/23/2006 7:32:05 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		My former Dom had many sub male friends and no dominant friends. He didn't even realize this until I pointed it out to him, he just naturally was more compatible with people that were on the sub side I think.... Not sure why this was, nor was he

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to Wulfchyld)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/23/2006 8:17:05 PM   
Level


Posts: 25145
Joined: 3/3/2006
Status: offline 		Like Wulfchyld said, it shouldn't matter. There's male submissives that I like and respect.
 
I wonder if vanilla males would have more trouble with male submissives though... food for thought.
 
Level

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/23/2006 8:45:13 PM   
theRose4U


Posts: 3403
Joined: 8/22/2005
Status: offline
quote:

I wonder if vanilla males would have more trouble with male submissives though... food for thought


Only the ones that turn into doms on Friday and Saturday nights

Seriously, I have friends that are Dom/mes and subs and encourage my boys to also have these kinds of interactions as long as play isn't part of the "regular" arrangement with those people.

(in reply to Level)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/25/2006 3:02:05 PM   
Guilty1974


Posts: 467
Joined: 11/2/2005
From: Den Haag
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: TeeGO

I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs?



Why would it not be common?

(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/25/2006 11:15:39 PM   
FangsNfeet


Posts: 3758
Joined: 12/3/2004
Status: offline 		I have friends that are straight, gay, bi, dom, sub, switch, and everything in between. Just because a guy says he's a sub does not mean that he will be submissive to me. Either way, I do have male friends that are submissive in there relationships and I don't judge there decission. I don't find it uncommon at all to be having a male sub as a friend of mine.

_____________________________

I'm Godzilla and you're Japan

(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/26/2006 4:19:28 AM   
Reasonable


Posts: 459
Joined: 4/20/2006
Status: offline 		Unless one happens to be gay(or homophobic)-it's of no real interest to most males what each other's sexual orientations are. It seems to matter a great deal more to females.

(in reply to FangsNfeet)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/26/2006 11:04:58 AM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		One of my best friends is a non Gorean Domme who owns a male sub. Bothare personal friends. there are times like when he is working on my comp or similar whilst respect is there it is easy to forget that he is a sub 24/7... 

_____________________________

Iron Bear

Master of Bruin Cottage

http://www.bruincottage.org

Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

(in reply to Reasonable)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/26/2006 2:18:33 PM   
Saint


Posts: 279
Status: offline 		Hmm, interesting thread. This got me thinking and I did realize that I dont have any close friends who are male subs. Almost all of my friends are either female submissives or Dominants, or Male dominants. Thats not to say I hold prejudices against any male submissives, I dont. But as to why I dont have close friendships with them. I think thats more because I very rarely encounter them at the places I frequent so I never get the chance to know them.

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/29/2006 8:22:49 AM   
TeeGO


Posts: 451
Joined: 12/11/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Guilty1974

quote:

ORIGINAL: TeeGO

I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs?



Why would it not be common?


I don't know, that's why I was asking.  I do have a good friend that is a Dom.

(in reply to Guilty1974)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 8:19:07 AM   
Isara


Posts: 87
Joined: 2/4/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		While not a Master  as a Mistress I have submissive/slave friends. Hell, I often go to the "Subby Munches" that are held around these parts. It's good gossip time ;)  Dominance and Submission are facets of personal relationships for me. No, that doesn't make sense ;) Clearly I'm tired. Nevertheless I hope my point is made. I have friends who are gay/straight vanilla/kinky. As long as I -like- the person. I don't see Dominance or Submission getting in the way of our relationship, any more then gender or sexual preference would for example

_____________________________

"I can't -- not just like that. I'm a complicated person, you see, Aunty... Sometimes I'm nice, and sometimes I'm nasty -- hee hee!...and sometimes I just like to sing little songs, like: "See the little goblin, see his little-- " Edmond Blackadder

(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 8:49:31 AM   
feastie


Posts: 1793
Joined: 6/4/2004
Status: offline 		I'm not a master or a male sub, I'm a female submissive and I have friends who have all different orientations.  It doesn't matter what their orientation is to me.  I value them as a person and a friend.

_____________________________

Snarky and loving it.

Disclaimer: Any views expressed in any post are my opinions only. They may or may not be yours.

(in reply to Isara)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 9:07:18 AM   
OTKkindaGirl


Posts: 447
Joined: 12/26/2005
From: NW Arkansas
Status: offline 		My best friend and i became friends before we knew about each other well enough to figure it out.  i am always attracted to dominant personalities but had no idea she was in the lifestyle or a Domme with slaves of her own. We are friends first and not in a Domme/sub relationship with each other.  i imagine it isn't any different for you guys once you break through the barriers the vanilla world sets before you.

_____________________________

~~ lil darlin' ~~
hope



(in reply to feastie)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 10:36:02 AM   
topcat


Posts: 1675
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline 		Dear TeeGo-
 
a fair amount of my friends are male submissives, and I find it very unusual that the dynamic enters in to these friendships in anyway. I find that a male dominant/ male submissive friendship makes for a great team for working the room when going stag to a club or event- you can pimp each other shamelessly, you can, by way of some sort of impromptue demo, display your respective skills.
 
Actually, as I think of it, a sub is my first choice for wingman in the scene.
 
Stay warm,
Lawrence

_____________________________

-there is no remission without blood-

(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 9:13:01 PM   
TexasMaam


Posts: 1467
Joined: 6/22/2005
Status: offline 		TeeGo,

I always enjoy your posts, and Gentlemen, what great replies!

Thanks for letting Me read...

TopCat, you're just too nifty!

TexasMaam

(in reply to topcat)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Sub male friends? - 4/30/2006 10:31:36 PM   
topcat


Posts: 1675
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline
quote:

TopCat, you're just too nifty!


M. Texas-
 
Why thank you- I do try<g>.
 
Stay warm,
Lawrence

_____________________________

-there is no remission without blood-

(in reply to TexasMaam)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Sub male friends? - 5/1/2006 12:54:12 AM   
RavenMuse


Posts: 4030
Joined: 1/23/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: TeeGO
I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs?


Logicaly I would say it shouldn't matter..... However, whilst I have and have had in the past, good friendships with Fellow Doms, Dommes, switches of both genders and Female subs I have never been on more than nodding aquaintence terms with a Male sub. Coincidence? It certainly hasn't been a consious choise.


_____________________________

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Owner of metalmiss

(in reply to TeeGO)
Profile   Post #: 18
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Sub male friends? Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.093