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atursvcMaam -> So what makes you unique and why should i care? (9/23/2010 8:34:34 PM)
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Having spent way too much time on the collarme boards, the question arises on a regular basis "Why am i being ignored?" The answer generallly has several facets.
1. Do you really expect, on line, or walking into a room that everyone will drop what they are doing and turn their rapt attention to you. Why should they. (if you really think that then you are awfully vain in the first place, don't you think?) take a humility pill.
2. Walking into a room, or displaying yourself on line, do you find everyone you see appealing? do you find them equally appealing, or do you tend to focus your attention on one or two prospects? Why do you not expect that of others?
A worthwhile sub is likely to ask:
What do you offer in general? why should that appeal to me in specific? How am i supposed to know that by your profile or your intro or both, and is all of what you claim consistent? Does what you present appeal to my tastes? as a general rule, at least 90 percent of those who observe you will find reasons not to be interested. Not because there is anything patently wrong with you, but because they don't see much hope that what you need and what they need will ever be a satisfactory match. It is a pita, but saves a lot of anguish further on.
To all, good luck in your searches and things will happen as thay should.
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