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Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 8:44:00 AM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		I am a baby girl in search of my Daddy Dom but recently while chatting with a Dom i was asked if i was into incest, then age play.He stated they were two differnt issues. Since these were some of His initial questions, i think this is important to him. When i asked for clarification, stating that there are HUGE differences between the two subjects He started backing off on the subject. All of my redflags have gone up here...and would welcome some fresh opinions...TY.
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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 8:49:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Incest is sex between people who are kin.  It very much can be done between adults.  Think of the many rulers who married their own siblings.

Age play is pretending that an adult is a child within a set up context with clear parameters. 

Hope that helps,
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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 8:56:02 AM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		Ty for your response...and while i understand the differences, i had never been asked about it in the context of a turn on. And since we both have children, it sent up the red flag. Usually when discussing offs most state what i came to think of as the obvious, scat, kids ,animals.

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 9:01:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		What is it you are wanting opinions about?  You didn't really ask a question.  The question that popped into my head was ... you are looking for a "daddy" and you have red flags about someone mentioning age play / incest play and their differences?  That seems like a very reasonable topic of discussion. 

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 1:03:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a firm believer that any fantasy is a fine fantasy.... so long as the person in question doesn't start blurring the lines between fantasy and reality. To the best of my knowledge an awful lot of fantasies involve things we would not want in reality. I know one couple personally where not only is she tiny, but she's also a lot younger than him. Age play is a staple in their repertoire. I can guarantee you that both of them are repulsed by the idea of sex with minors as an actual deed.

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 1:15:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would not assume that because he brought up these topics of conversation that means he wants to engage you in this sort of play. I have had dominants who were "daddies" who asked if I was into age play, etc, because they weren't... they wanted to know right off the bat if a prospective partner was into that stuff.

Since you seek a daddy, but not age play, etc, I would recommend that you state this in your profile. Nothing he asked was out of line, maybe just not your thing. It certainly isn't a "red flag"

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 1:16:39 PM   
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And since we both have children, it sent up the red flag.


There is a world of difference between role play with an adult woman and doing harm to children

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 1:22:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, exactly leadership 527! I also beleive that whatever is good between the two individuals...is good period. While I am not here to judge what others deem appropriate for their lives, i can not, do not ,will not condine incest in amy form in my life.

I guess that i was shocked by the question and maybe did not formulate an actual question, Sunshine. But I had never been asked this one before, and He did state that He was aware of the differences and had a couple of subs in the past who were "into it"...which would also mean He was into it?

Sometimes i become frightfully aware of how dangerous this search can be and was wondering how common this incest kink is? NOT AGE PLAY!


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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 1:57:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds as though he did not understand what you meant or what you're interested in. Some subs have sex with their doms while in a little head space, others do not. If you did, and he plays the daddy role to your little girl, then would it not be pretend incest? The fact that you did not make yourself clear, and that he finds this kink an uncomfortable one does not automatically mean he is evil. It may mean you simply need to communicate with each other better. Or that you simply are not compatible.

I don't understand how him not wanting to participate makes it into a red flag.  Please elucidate.


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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 2:00:10 PM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		Yes J...There is a world of difference between role play with an adult woman and doing harm to children
This was my point. Again...sorry of it was not clear...but i was rattled by the conversation....He was not speaking of age play...if He had been i would not have been shocked by the conversation at all. He was asking about incest, not age play.

Thank you everyone for your opinions...

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 2:13:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: temptedangel

Yes J...There is a world of difference between role play with an adult woman and doing harm to children
This was my point. Again...sorry of it was not clear...but i was rattled by the conversation....He was not speaking of age play...if He had been i would not have been shocked by the conversation at all. He was asking about incest, not age play.

Thank you everyone for your opinions...


Incest "play"?

I do not understand what you are saying. Are you saying he was suggesting incest with your family?

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:28:05 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I've had men on c.com ask me about the incest question as a fetish they were into because through conversation they found out I have a daughter....yeah...I immediately from that point on put them on my ignore list.


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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:34:53 PM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		Not incest "play", incest period. I did not get the impression he was speaking of role play, age play, but was speaking of actual incest.


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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:38:10 PM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		Has anyone ever been approached with this question? If so, how would you have responded? I ran, then came back and told him that No, i am not into that and i do not believe we would be compatable...but it scared me...rattled me...while i have been asked some shocking questions here and there...i guess i was not prepared for that one!

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:41:20 PM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		Little wonder...yeah..i am with you!

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:41:27 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: temptedangel

I am a baby girl in search of my Daddy Dom but recently while chatting with a Dom i was asked if i was into incest, then age play.He stated they were two differnt issues. Since these were some of His initial questions, i think this is important to him. When i asked for clarification, stating that there are HUGE differences between the two subjects He started backing off on the subject. All of my redflags have gone up here...and would welcome some fresh opinions...TY.


NOT only should your RED Flags go up but so should any color flag you might have. Incest is not anything to play with, period!

Those who tend to entertain Incest are teeter tottering into a territory that is HIGHLY DANGEROUS! Trust your instincts.

Take care!

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 4:57:29 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I have never had a man suggest incest play or incest as an interest to me, period.

If they brought it up as a "daddy/girl" thing I would think they were wrong for me, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that they needed to be blocked... if they asked me if I were interested in incest in general, I would not talk to the person again

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 5:00:51 PM   
temptedangel


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Status: offline 		TY Zevar...I agree.

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RE: Initial Questions - 9/25/2010 10:19:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: temptedangel

Has anyone ever been approached with this question? If so, how would you have responded?


Never, but if I did, I would block and delete.


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RE: Initial Questions - 9/26/2010 5:09:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: temptedangel

Yes, exactly leadership 527! I also beleive that whatever is good between the two individuals...is good period. While I am not here to judge what others deem appropriate for their lives, i can not, do not ,will not condine incest in amy form in my life.

I guess that i was shocked by the question and maybe did not formulate an actual question, Sunshine. But I had never been asked this one before, and He did state that He was aware of the differences and had a couple of subs in the past who were "into it"...which would also mean He was into it?

Sometimes i become frightfully aware of how dangerous this search can be and was wondering how common this incest kink is? NOT AGE PLAY!




As he didn't elaborate, how can you know what he actually  meant? Isn't it possible he had former subs who were *into it* in a fantasy way , not that they actually *did it*. That much isn't clear at all from what you've written.

The sensible thing is to have dialogue with someone and clarify exactly what they mean. If you were *shocked by the question and ran*, you're hardly likely to get any clarity and you're already thinking * If he had subs *into it* he must be too?*

If you get all the relevant information without knee-jerk reactions and assumptions....... you can make better decisions, based in fact.

There are thing I'm *into* in a fantasy way , that M wouldn't be in the least and vice-versa.

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