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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/8/2010 2:50:53 PM

Rochsub2009

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I'd love to know what she ultimately ends up trying, and how her husband likes it.

Voyeur.

Darn! She sees right through me.

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/9/2010 11:53:41 AM

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Thanks everyone. :)

I doubt this'll end up being more than just play, since I'm hoping the whole thing will be a sort of... "taking turns" type of thing, lol. But, I'll keep this thread in mind, and be sure to report back as to how it goes.

And if anyone else has ideas, feel free to share!

I strongly suspect that being verbal with him will really push his and your buttons as well. The mind is very powerful and words tend to be what activates it. He'll feel much more controlled or dominated if you use words in your play that place emphasis on what you're doing or plan to do. Ask him how he feels or what he is to you during your play to get him to admit he's yours or is powerless because you have him handcuffed or bound. Those kinds of things will likely enhance the experience for both of you.

Most of all, have fun and enjoy the experience. You'll learn something each time you play and get ideas for what you might want to try the next time.

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/10/2010 6:59:33 PM

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And whats wrong with being a Voyeur. I think everyone on here is weather they want to admit it or not. If we were'nt we would not be here.

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/11/2010 11:51:20 AM

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Personally, since I'm a bit of a sadist, I like to restrain people and bite them gently and watch them wiggle, or tickle them, or scratch them a bit. Whether you want to do that will depend on how much you like to give that sort of sensation, and whether or not you intend to switch; if you're too evil, you'll get paid back when you're the one bound! (laughter)

Another fun tease is to tie him comfortably so he can see you, and then sit down and get yourself off. He can't watch, he can't help, and he can't touch himself.

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/12/2010 4:41:58 PM

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Another fun tease is to tie him comfortably so he can see you, and then sit down and get yourself off. He can't watch, he can't help, and he can't touch himself.

I'm confused. You said to tie him so that he can see you. Then you later said that he can't watch. What is to keep him from watching, since you intentionally tied him up where he can see you?

Am I missing something?

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/12/2010 6:23:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

I'm confused. You said to tie him so that he can see you. Then you later said that he can't watch. What is to keep him from watching, since you intentionally tied him up where he can see you?

Am I missing something?

I was wondering the same thing!

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RE: Beginner "Domme" looking for advice - 10/13/2010 12:29:49 AM

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With anal, the key things to remember are LUBE, start small (finger), LUBE, consider wearing a glove to protect him from fingernails/jewellery, LUBE, go slow and gentle, LUBE, tell him to give you verbal feedback on how it feels and whether your finger is going the right way (the large intestine isn't straight!), LUBE, and gradually increase the size of the implement and length of time in ... and did I mention LUBE?

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Really, really good advice.

LUBE is worth mentioning one more time though! - and go for a water-based lube as this is more condom/toy friendly.

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