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Rochsub2009 -> RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? (10/4/2010 4:39:24 PM)
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Icarys,
I'm not sure what it is that you're disagreeing with me about, but I'll try one more time. This is the OP's stated premise:
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now, my purpose for sharing this little anecdote is to apply it to my long held belief that most of the males who identify as 'dominants' are really those who have failed at relations with females in any other context, and see control as the only means to get laid. i mean, most of them prey on submissive women who are either a) willing to accept less of a man in order to meet their unique needs, or b) women who derive an additional source of humiliation at the prospect of being controlled by someone most of society recognizes as a loser.
now, i have seen this phenomenon play out many times over the years, yet have never heard it articulated so earnestly prior to the other day.
I agreed with him that there are certainly people who fit that model, but that it isn't fair to paint all male Doms with that brush. For example, do you fit that generalization? Do most of the male Doms that you have met?
In both of my posts in this thread, I reiterated my belief that there are indeed those who do in fact do what he describes. However, I have not seen enough evidence to accept his assertion that "most of the males who identify as 'dominants' are really those who have failed at relations with females in any other context". He might be absolutely correct. I don't know. But I don't think that either of us has the evidence to prove or disprove his belief.
I don't think I tried to take away his right to state his opinion. So I'm confused about what you and I apparently disagree about. But if you found my opinion to be objectionable or confusing, then I hope this clarified it for you.
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