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samboct -> RE: Suggestions for collarme (10/8/2010 8:21:09 AM)
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On another thread in the ask a submissive forum, I came up with some additional observations and suggestions-
Definition-A polite email involves reading someones profile, figuring out some common interests, and discussing them with the recipient and perhaps making a suggestion for further interaction.
My comment is that these polite emails are now going unanswered. This reduces the utility of the site as a whole since the ability to meet like minded people for sex/romance/one night stands is diminishing. A site such as this needs a critical mass to function. Loss of that critical mass means that the site will no longer be viable.
There are three reasons I've heard for why polite emails are going unanswered:
1) some women are so overwhelmed that they simply can't find the time to respond.
2) some women are scared of potential responses which are threatening/aggressive.
3) even a polite response increases the likelihood that aggressive behavior will follow resulting in the need to to change a profile, or leave the site.
N.B. I've focused on women's responses here, since it's clear that men initiate most email contacts outside forum discussion.
Relating to these points are:
1) Spam- defined as mail unmatched to the recipient and sent out randomly. Length or content irrelevant.
2) That some men may send aggressive emails if rejected.
3) That aggressive emails may be linked to rejections of men who make advances without reading profiles.
Why rudeness thrives on this site? Attempts to solve this problem have been rebuffed.
Let me reiterate some suggestions:
1) Limit the number of emails that can be sent to new contacts in one day. Note that this does not limit emails with existing contacts.
2) Provide a more visible tutorial on the tools on this site to block and delete spam and report unwelcome emails.
3) Develop a set of community guidelines or suggestions for both men and women. I think this thread clearly shows the problem is not the sole responsibility of either women or men on this site- it's due to the lack of responsibility that anonymity brings. Focusing on men or women as root causes leads to bathos and no progress.
4) Allow users more latitude to select what types of emails they wish to receive- perhaps based on MPAA ratings. For people that like sending cock shots, this would make sure that their recipients don't mind receiving them. Noted- some men enjoy sending cock shots to women that don't wish to receive them. The idea here is to allow users to be flexible in what types of emails that they personally consider acceptable. Emails that fall outside those guidelines can be reported.
5) Perhaps block emails from senders who have not first read the profile of the intended recipient. If the spam filters are being successful, this may be redundant.
6) Limit emails to forum participants for those who desire to limit their contact to these people.
Concerns- I think that I've found some ways to improve this site, but this has been based on listening to a vocal minority. I'm not sure if these issues are universal. However, there is apparently a lot of "stalking" behavior going on that may be responsible for a migration of women elsewhere.
Sam
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