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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/6/2010 11:03:42 PM

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Rumor has it that the CIA traffics. I have no idea what price they ask, though.
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I hear the FBI is running a campaign too... the going rate is 10 -20 (years).

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 2:04:23 AM

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op, i totally understand your problem... it is simply not fair that even on a site like this it should be so damn difficult to purchase a slave... maybe you could sue somebody over this?

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 2:30:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rule
Rumor has it that the CIA traffics. I have no idea what price they ask, though.
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I hear the FBI is running a campaign too... the going rate is 10 -20 (years).

That is merely to take out the competition; legal feds protecting illegal cen trafficking.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 3:41:49 AM

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so, ok - lets run with this for a moment. you go to an auction and there are a couple of nubile pretty little things lined up there in chains and you decide to bid. do you know what youre bidding for. do you know their temperment, habits, personality, maybe theyre a little bit bratty or a little bit hormonal or not yet fully in-tuned to their submission yet. maybe theyre there because the idea of being auctioned is hot, but when it gets to crunch time they start missing home, friends and family and want to leave after a month or two.

if you suddenly decided you wanted a horse, but you knew nothing about horses would you go to an auction and buy the first high stepping, flashy thing you saw.

an auction is a hot idea but it isnt steeped in reality for so many reasons that just looking out of youre window and reaquuainting youreself with the real world will remind you of. and so back to reality.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 6:37:24 AM

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Lots of folks find the slave auction FANTASY hot; it's sold books by the millions. The things is, the reality and the fantasy are two very different things. I think that, since this site is about consensual power exchange, the OP is pretty much making himself very unappealing to his target audience (and the posts here suggest it's true as well). Let's face it, submissive women literally put their lives in the hands of their dominants, does one want to do this with a guy who so obviously does not 'get it'? That said, we were all once new, and I'm betting that the fantasy of certain things helped lead us, at least in part, to where we are today. So, I do have a little sympathy for the guy.

OP: What you need to do is take a step back, do some research, figure out who you are as a dominant, what you want, both in a woman and a relationship, and then use your profile to convey what you have to offer them. Also, look out in the real world for a companion; it's been said before, but getting involved locally with other kinky people definitely will improve your chances of finding wht you are looking for.

You complain that it sounds one-sided, but it's you that are making it such. You want a slave, any pretty much any slave will do, they are interchangeable in your world. It almost comes off as desperation- or indifference. You are looking for a breeding body, not a woman with a heart, soul, and mind. The reality is, especially if you want to have children with this woman, a family, YOU need to be picky, too. I think far too many doms, especially those hung up on the fantasy, think that the woman they attain is going to be a blank slate, and so it does not matter if she's compatible. That's bull. This woman is going to be part of your life, a co-parent, a life partner. Chose unwisely- and your life WILL be as miserable as any 'nilla man in a bad relationship. Maybe worse, after all, YOU are in charge, and given the parameters YOU set forth, she can pretty much lay the blame for her misery, yours, and that of any hypothetical children squarely on YOUR shoulders? Sound fun? I didn't think so.

This is not much different than finding a partner out in the real world. If anything, it's harder- not easier- more levels to find compatibility on, at least if you want to be happy, and create a happy and harmonious home environment. You are a grown man, one who wants to be responsible for the life of another human being AND her children? Time to step out of the fantasy, figure out what is real, and what you need to work on to get there. Otherwise, the fantasy is all you are ever going to have.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 9:05:11 AM

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ah yes! - consensual power exchange!! -

deserved highlighting:)

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 10:55:28 AM

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I can see from the op's profile that he's divorced and lonely. He misses being a father.

The solution to that is not to grab the first woman whose biological clock is ticking but to give to kids who need men like him. Call your local Big Brothers today, they'll be incredibly grateful for you being willing to be a role model to all those lonely little boys. Call the soccer league and offer to co-coach. They know you from the past, they'll vouch for you being trustworthy with children. Call your local Boy Scout Council and offer your help. Go to the local elementary school and volunteer once a week as a class grandfather. They don't all have stay at home mothers who can be the class mom anymore, they would love you to come in and help kids practice their alphabet, pour juice at snack time, have a man to escort the boys to the bathroom on field trips.

And you know what, you'll wind up meeting all sorts of single women this way. Whether or not any will be compatible with you is unknown but they'll be better people than you'll meet at the local bar, because you know they'll have the same attitude towards children as you do. And that's a start.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 11:26:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: antinomy

This is not much different than finding a partner out in the real world. If anything, it's harder- not easier- more levels to find compatibility on, at least if you want to be happy, and create a happy and harmonious home environment. You are a grown man, one who wants to be responsible for the life of another human being AND her children? Time to step out of the fantasy, figure out what is real, and what you need to work on to get there. Otherwise, the fantasy is all you are ever going to have.

Honestly, I'm always a bit surprised that this sort of thing needs to be said.

OP....read the above quote over and over and over and over again until it sinks in. To be honest, your two posts on this thread...if I were a prospective partner...would be major red flags for me.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 1:39:15 PM

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Dark Steven and locket (Both people I have known for over a decade here on CM and both who know their stuff as well as being (in reference to DS) someone who I respect and (in reference to locket), someone who I both adore and who I'd love to snaffle into my Qantas bag and import her to Aussie) have made very valid points. If the OP manages to fine the magick elixir to suddenly bring forth slaves on command, he stands to make millions as there are a whole plethora of Gorean Masters who have been patiently waiting and looking for years ere they find a suitable girl. Even non Gorean Masters have to wait for a considerable time to locate a suitable slave (In my case my collars have been empty for the last 5 years). My advise to the OP is to mingle with the local kinksters, get known, let others see that you are a genuine sort of bloke who they are happy to add to their circle of social friends even though you lack experience. There are many out there who are only happy to lend a helping hand at time to a genuine sort of bloke and in time you may find that suitable subs will come your way willingly. Forget slaves at the moment because you need the experience with subs who are not 24/7 to start with. I know more than one girl who started off as a sub with a new Master and who latter re-submitted to him as his slave as he matured and became more of what he could be.

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If you have never driven an F1 race car, would you seriously jump into one with no driving experience? Thought not, start with a family sedan first (second hand preferably)

Great post and advice, especially setting your sights on a submissive and getting out there and mingling in the local kink culture.

My experience and thoughts on the subject are that...

1) CM and that other fetish site are great contact points and resources to find and enjoy local meet and greet lunches. Take advantage of them.
2) I predict if you spend time on a honest and informative great profile with several of your face and chest in black clothes your online luck will change.
3) You do work out, right? How else can you be domly without a great chest and pack?
4) Send honest and clean near vanilla cmails to possible local girls.
5) A certain amount of bravado is expected from you as a dom but no lies and don't fake your experience.
6) Work at being a dom first, learn and become skilled in dealing with women as a dom using education resources available in local kink club seminars and classes and books, one I recommend is "save the roses, send me the thorns" for a well rounded and well presented text on all aspects of being a dom or even for those subs out there reading this also.
7) Spend little time on the message boards as they are time wasters for this and go to local kink clubs and muches. As many as possible.

With these you've done all you can legally, I would think. They worked for me. My collar is not empty and I have never lacked submissive company since joining CM in 2005. Good luck.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 9:27:21 PM

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Simply put, the world of bdsm is still the human world. This is not some magical world where all the rules change.

What?? I never agreed to that. I wanna magical world.

OP, you're 53 years old. Grow up.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/7/2010 9:47:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I can see from the op's profile that he's divorced and lonely. He misses being a father.

The solution to that is not to grab the first woman whose biological clock is ticking but to give to kids who need men like him. Call your local Big Brothers today, they'll be incredibly grateful for you being willing to be a role model to all those lonely little boys. Call the soccer league and offer to co-coach. They know you from the past, they'll vouch for you being trustworthy with children. Call your local Boy Scout Council and offer your help. Go to the local elementary school and volunteer once a week as a class grandfather. They don't all have stay at home mothers who can be the class mom anymore, they would love you to come in and help kids practice their alphabet, pour juice at snack time, have a man to escort the boys to the bathroom on field trips.

And you know what, you'll wind up meeting all sorts of single women this way. Whether or not any will be compatible with you is unknown but they'll be better people than you'll meet at the local bar, because you know they'll have the same attitude towards children as you do. And that's a start.

Great post Des..I think it steers him well away from the fantasies he has forming in his mind
regarding acquiring a slave. I've read his profile and it tugged a bit on my heart strings...
other than this post here, I feel he has good intent in his heart.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/8/2010 3:02:59 AM

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I read your profile as if i was looking for someone. the first thing that would have stopped me from even replying to a message from you was " The fact is, as many of you may feel, after devoting so much of my life to my family for so many years, I am not sure who I am otherwise.
For me and i think others is that as a sub/slave we put our whole trust in our dom/master and i could not do that to someone who wasn't sure who they were. when i met mine the first thing that struck me was how well he knew himself and mastered himself so to speak.

there nothing about your likes dislikes how would i know who you are, are you wanting a relationship or jsut someone to give you more kids, the impression i get is the breeding is more important than the person. your emphisis is on family but do you want your sub to be in a relationship with you as well or jsut a womb and someone to control or are you going to aim for a deeper realionship with love. jsut a few thought i have while reading you profile

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/8/2010 7:04:07 AM

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Important points phoenixmoon, especially as he wants a happy successful family. And the best thing any man can do for his children is to love their mother. And he's forgotten about that.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/10/2010 10:06:27 PM

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i suggest you google "russian brides"

maybe you'll find someone there.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/10/2010 10:37:07 PM

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I got a spare slave in the truck of the spymobile I can sell him.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/11/2010 4:22:16 PM

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. . . I have been using CM for a few months now, and have had some good and positive results here. . . I read many profiles from women who seem to really desire finding a man to give themselves to as slaves in a very real sense, which I do really appreciate about this site.

I am still choking on the first line of your quote.

I did a search with in 100 miles of Tampa FLA with the following / Female/Submissive 18-99 5 pages are returned before the average median of last on drops to before Oct 4, 2010. Doing the same search but for /slave/ the first page has 6 'active' users before the list dwindles off to active before October 2, 2010.

What country are you searching in that has all these good results?

The second part
> which I do really appreciate about this site. <
Are you on crack? Peyote, Hallucinogens? Please share!

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/11/2010 9:52:12 PM

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In answer to your question to why can't a man just choose a slave......there is no such place as rhe World of Gor...it's a made-up place dreamt up John Norman.

This is the real world where unfortunately for you, its not easy. No matter what, a woman, whether she is slave, sub or Domme still likes to be wooed.....well....I'm not that sure about Dommes but they are still women so I am assuming...forgive me ladies if I am wrong.

I also had a look at your profile and if I were still single, I would pass you by....there is nothing about it which stands out.
When I was single, it was my Masters profile which attracted me to write to him, his profile stood out (to me, maybe it wouldnt to other subs) above all others and it was because of his profile that I actually joined CM.
OP....you need to make your profile stand out, tell potential sub/slaves about yourself and maybe what you write will attract her to you.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/11/2010 10:02:15 PM

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Live in cambodia, buy a wife. You may or may not have to change religions depending on how much money you have.

Eh. It's entirely possible to acquire a real slave. The world's a big place, even these days. Question is, do you reallly want to? Cause it sounds like all you want is a nice, friendly, adequately house-trained woman hanging around. Which is an entirely different kind of search.

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/11/2010 10:17:38 PM

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You gotta Peacock bro! lol...

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RE: How to acquire a real female slave - 10/12/2010 12:46:18 AM

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QFT...

quote:

ORIGINAL: Arturas

quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

Dark Steven and locket (Both people I have known for over a decade here on CM and both who know their stuff as well as being (in reference to DS) someone who I respect and (in reference to locket), someone who I both adore and who I'd love to snaffle into my Qantas bag and import her to Aussie) have made very valid points. If the OP manages to fine the magick elixir to suddenly bring forth slaves on command, he stands to make millions as there are a whole plethora of Gorean Masters who have been patiently waiting and looking for years ere they find a suitable girl. Even non Gorean Masters have to wait for a considerable time to locate a suitable slave (In my case my collars have been empty for the last 5 years). My advise to the OP is to mingle with the local kinksters, get known, let others see that you are a genuine sort of bloke who they are happy to add to their circle of social friends even though you lack experience. There are many out there who are only happy to lend a helping hand at time to a genuine sort of bloke and in time you may find that suitable subs will come your way willingly. Forget slaves at the moment because you need the experience with subs who are not 24/7 to start with. I know more than one girl who started off as a sub with a new Master and who latter re-submitted to him as his slave as he matured and became more of what he could be.

edited to add:

If you have never driven an F1 race car, would you seriously jump into one with no driving experience? Thought not, start with a family sedan first (second hand preferably)

Great post and advice, especially setting your sights on a submissive and getting out there and mingling in the local kink culture.

My experience and thoughts on the subject are that...

1) CM and that other fetish site are great contact points and resources to find and enjoy local meet and greet lunches. Take advantage of them.
2) I predict if you spend time on a honest and informative great profile with several of your face and chest in black clothes your online luck will change.
3) You do work out, right? How else can you be domly without a great chest and pack?
4) Send honest and clean near vanilla cmails to possible local girls.
5) A certain amount of bravado is expected from you as a dom but no lies and don't fake your experience.
6) Work at being a dom first, learn and become skilled in dealing with women as a dom using education resources available in local kink club seminars and classes and books, one I recommend is "save the roses, send me the thorns" for a well rounded and well presented text on all aspects of being a dom or even for those subs out there reading this also.
7) Spend little time on the message boards as they are time wasters for this and go to local kink clubs and muches. As many as possible.

With these you've done all you can legally, I would think. They worked for me. My collar is not empty and I have never lacked submissive company since joining CM in 2005. Good luck.

Arturas

OP : Seriously... given the shit that arrives in yer typical female sub's mailbox, a half decent introduction is a hell of a lot more likely to get their attention. You're in a pool that has a very large share of desperate jackasses.... you're not competing with them, you're competing with a relatively small number of genuine, realistic smart people.

Just make sure that your own emails make it into the latter group....

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