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alphatoast -> what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 2:53:34 AM)

ok not sure if this is the right place to put this or not. im new and i know thats a poor excuse. but anyway here goes

ok i need help doing my profile. i used some of the profile tips that i saw on another thread, but my profile is still really boring i guess.

what im wondering is just in general what do slaves or submissives want to know about when they read profiles for doms masters and such.
like idunno for example do they want to know their hobbies or what.
i have no clue. probly why i suck at doing these up.

thanks for helping if you do ^_^



sunshinemiss -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 3:59:43 AM)

What makes you think you are a dominant man?  (Just curious)



Kana -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 5:01:40 AM)

Most certainly keep your second picture. Matter of fact, you should probably make it your primary profile pic.



DarkSteven -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 5:08:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

What makes you think you are a dominant man?  (Just curious)


I agree with sunny.  I don't see anything in your profile that tells me you're a Dom.



DesFIP -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 5:18:05 AM)

Your profile doesn't represent you as dominant. It says you aren't interested in sex and want to be taken care of.
Don't talk about the negatives. Talk about your passions without putting yourself down. Why is it that the things you enjoy are useless? That's no way to view yourself.

If you don't think you're pretty amazing, why do you think anyone else will?

And get new pictures, I don't like either of yours. The second is better except for the open mouth.



barelynangel -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 5:53:40 AM)

This is hard for me to articulate because its more of a feeling i get from reading a profile.  Some of them simply try to hard to portray themselves as dominant men. Some try to conform to what they THINK women want -- i.e., mamsy pamsy cooing profiles.  I want someone who shows its simply part of who they are - figuratively lol.  I never really care for their list of things they want to do to women and actually it can make or break a profile for me because if i see something i don't like it means i won't contact them so there isn't a chance for them to explain so to speak.

i like to know about the Man.  The whys more so than the whats.  I would like to know why they feel they are alpha, i like to know about their lives because their lives show whether or not what they FEEL is what they are lol.  i.e., a man may think he is alpha but his life reflects he is a follower more than a leader.  Many men i contact have somewhere in their profile what type of career they have and say a little about it and why they like it etc. 

HOWEVER, i have very high expectations of men lol so don't take my words completely to heart. I gravitate towards alpha men, which to me are men whose lives are completely alpha in nature, life, relationship, and his other relationships, not just in their romantic relationships. A Man can be dominant and not be an alpha male.  A man can be dominant and be a follower of other dominant men.  So put that in perspective of who you are.  Women fall for all types of dominant men.  However, you also have to remember that as a dominant you will have expectations placed upon you by the female you seek.  Addressing what you feel those expectations may be by the majority is also good to put on your profile somehow. 

Many profiles i read of men it seems all about what they want to do to a woman and what they expect of the woman but doesn't tell anything about what they see the concept of being a dominant man being for a woman. 

OH and one thing and this is a personal pet peeve lol do NOT bitch and whine about the messages you receive or about women blocking you or about how this sub was mean to you etc etc etc, it is whining.   And to me tells more about the man than anything he could write in his profile.   Don't put that disclaimer about people using your profile in it -- it only shows a lack of common sense as if you are anonymous there is no way you can prove someone "stole" your profile information.  Also picture wise, leave the cock shots for a private send, its really blink and hide lol when you are scrolling through pictures of a man only to find he has a need to show everyone his dick publically.

I like men who show confidence in themselves and who make this connection easy.  I like men who take the lead and don't expect me to run the conversation or control same. If they are dominant men i have expectations that they will more than likely take control -- not the on your knees bitch concept -- but in the conversation, keep it running, the direction and pretty much, if that makes sense. 

angel




KatyLied -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 6:57:06 AM)

quote:

This is hard for me to articulate because its more of a feeling i get from reading a profile.


Yes!!  It is a mix of interests, well writing and a display of being confident and assertive.



LanceHughes -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 7:01:27 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

This is hard for me to articulate because its more of a feeling i get from reading a profile.


Yes!!  It is a mix of interests, well writing and a display of being confident and assertive.


Your choice:

"good writing" -OR- "writing well"

Since you are listing nouns, probably the first.....

I tell you this since I edited a nationally-distributed porn magazine for ten years.  I like to see good writing as an attribute of my slave who will be sometimes asked to proof my own writing.  I am confident that you will appreciate the correction that I have delivered to you and the assertive manner in which I have done so.

LOL!



KatyLied -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 7:23:08 AM)

haha!  Well done.    [:D]  or perhaps good done!!



DomMeinCT -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/7/2010 1:09:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: alphatoast

what im wondering is just in general what do slaves or submissives want to know about when they read profiles for doms masters and such.
like idunno for example do they want to know their hobbies or what.
i have no clue. probly why i suck at doing these up.

thanks for helping if you do ^_^


I think the fact that you disclose some hobbies helps fill out who you are - not boring  As far as describing yourself as "goofy" and the unusual pics...you're looking for someone who is going to have to learn to trust you.  Does your profile in words and pics say that?  Another thought:  How experienced are you?  None?  Then be honest and disclose that.  Just my .02.



phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/8/2010 3:26:12 AM)

when i read your profile i dont see someone who is confident and who knows themselves infact i see someone who has doubts about who they are and where they are going. sorry if i am wrong but it is the impressions the words give me when i read. personally i like to read doms/masters profiles who show they are that person with out being told hi i am a master, alpha male/dome etc it is like an impressionist who has to say who they are impersonating first as otherwise you may not recognise it let your words talk and show the dom in you nothing wrong with saying you ahve a dominat nature try looking at other profiles like darksetven, lance residentsadist among others, when you red them you just know where they are.

there is no problems with not wanting much sex my master is diabetic and as a result certain things dont work but he never lets it stop play when i read your profile i get the feeling that this side is jsut not important to you. again for me and i am sure others is the control that i feel during play is part of his control of me and to say this in a profile isnt the best way to show who you are.

i also feel your profile as negative and it doesn't sound like a you are a dominate.

as i said earlier best thing is to see how others are written and take teh doubt and negative form yours and show who you are and what you are and what you want and can give in a positive and well a dominant way.



sexyred1 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/8/2010 6:02:09 PM)

I like to see what I like to see from anyone...someone who uses correct spelling, grammar and who clearly articulates what they are seeking. I like a confident, not cocky attitude and some insight into their outside interests. I like to see some flexibility and psychological understanding, not some dick ordering insta-sub. I like humor.

What I do NOT want to see in no particular order:

1. why is every sub fake
2. why aren't there any real slaves here
3. outing women who have rejected them
4. copying private email exchanges
5. seeing a cock shot
6. seeing gynecological shots
7. endless photos of the equipment they bought from Extreme Restraints or Pink Pussycat Boutique
8. filthy house/apartment
9. photos of only their dog/cat and not of them
10. anything where someone provides a long porno story
11. scary clown photo
12. and finally...the really delusional ones where they discuss how they want a slave to have no limits, live in a cage 24/7, eat out of a dog bowl, endure extreme torture, become a breeder, have to lactate and have no rights. Oh, and be intelligent.



Daddysredhead -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/8/2010 6:17:57 PM)

A profile should almost be like a little mini-interview, telling a person who you are, what you like (vanilla & lifestyle), what makes you tick, why you're a great catch, and should be positive.  I also think that any photos you post of yourself should be attractive or interesting.  Personally, seeing a man's hairy, hobbit feet is a huge turn-off, and show that you know how to smile, and not just look like you spent the entire weekend at some neighbor's keg party.



Kana -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/8/2010 10:23:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I like to see what I like to see from anyone...someone who uses correct spelling, grammar and who clearly articulates what they are seeking. I like a confident, not cocky attitude and some insight into their outside interests. I like to see some flexibility and psychological understanding, not some dick ordering insta-sub. I like humor.

What I do NOT want to see in no particular order:

1. why is every sub fake
2. why aren't there any real slaves here
3. outing women who have rejected them
4. copying private email exchanges
5. seeing a cock shot
6. seeing gynecological shots
7. endless photos of the equipment they bought from Extreme Restraints or Pink Pussycat Boutique
8. filthy house/apartment
9. photos of only their dog/cat and not of them
10. anything where someone provides a long porno story
11. scary clown photo
12. and finally...the really delusional ones where they discuss how they want a slave to have no limits, live in a cage 24/7, eat out of a dog bowl, endure extreme torture, become a breeder, have to lactate and have no rights. Oh, and be intelligent.



Aw, fuck,.



pyroaquatic -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/8/2010 11:33:02 PM)

Don't worry about being new. Worry about learning. Off to a good start.

I begin with vanilla activities. If they are aligned with mine I am a happy camper. Before I would start any serious relationship I peer inside my self first. Know you and you will know what you can offer and bring to the relationship. If you see yourself then you know what you actually need and want.

Don't expect anything but be prepared. Purge yourself of selfishness and become selfless as humanly possible. At the same time don't let your identity become submerged in a 'role'. Identity is the fusing factor.

Find the Dominant where one plus one does not equal two.

So go out there and start talking. That is the next logical step.



sexyred1 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/9/2010 8:49:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I like to see what I like to see from anyone...someone who uses correct spelling, grammar and who clearly articulates what they are seeking. I like a confident, not cocky attitude and some insight into their outside interests. I like to see some flexibility and psychological understanding, not some dick ordering insta-sub. I like humor.

What I do NOT want to see in no particular order:

1. why is every sub fake
2. why aren't there any real slaves here
3. outing women who have rejected them
4. copying private email exchanges
5. seeing a cock shot
6. seeing gynecological shots
7. endless photos of the equipment they bought from Extreme Restraints or Pink Pussycat Boutique
8. filthy house/apartment
9. photos of only their dog/cat and not of them
10. anything where someone provides a long porno story
11. scary clown photo
12. and finally...the really delusional ones where they discuss how they want a slave to have no limits, live in a cage 24/7, eat out of a dog bowl, endure extreme torture, become a breeder, have to lactate and have no rights. Oh, and be intelligent.



Aw, fuck,.



Aw, unless it's a really cute pussy, like yours. [;)]



phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/9/2010 11:19:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I like to see what I like to see from anyone...someone who uses correct spelling, grammar and who clearly articulates what they are seeking. I like a confident, not cocky attitude and some insight into their outside interests. I like to see some flexibility and psychological understanding, not some dick ordering insta-sub. I like humor.

What I do NOT want to see in no particular order:

1. why is every sub fake
2. why aren't there any real slaves here
3. outing women who have rejected them
4. copying private email exchanges
5. seeing a cock shot
6. seeing gynecological shots
7. endless photos of the equipment they bought from Extreme Restraints or Pink Pussycat Boutique
8. filthy house/apartment
9. photos of only their dog/cat and not of them
10. anything where someone provides a long porno story
11. scary clown photo
12. and finally...the really delusional ones where they discuss how they want a slave to have no limits, live in a cage 24/7, eat out of a dog bowl, endure extreme torture, become a breeder, have to lactate and have no rights. Oh, and be intelligent.





aaawww i love the cat pics but then i would go for a cat person



Aileen1968 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 6:18:35 AM)

We want to see pictures of really ugly man feet.



Kana -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 8:14:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

We want to see pictures of really ugly man feet.


hey, hey. You just hurt my foot's feelings.
[:D]
Now I have to soothe it, call it down, ruffle its feathers.
No little foot, no matter how much you desire it, I will not put you up Aileen's ass.



porcelaine -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 12:37:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: alphatoast

what im wondering is just in general what do slaves or submissives want to know about when they read profiles for doms masters and such.
like idunno for example do they want to know their hobbies or what.
i have no clue. probly why i suck at doing these up.


Greetings alphatoast,

Admittedly I'm a fan of brevity and appreciate an individual that expresses himself succinctly without extensive verbiage or blatant sexuality. I've always believed the profile is merely a snapshot that needn't detail ones entire life, but should provide something of interest that might compel a reader to explore. Ideally it is well composed without sounding like an advertisement. I don't believe marketing is necessary. As with most things if the other party is interested they'll say such without ploys or arm twisting.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



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