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RE: A question... - 10/15/2010 3:05:41 AM

stiv2009

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Yuk! By being honest with him, you are forcing him to be dishonest with his peers. How could he present this situation to his friends at school? How would he represent it to his first girlfriend?

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RE: A question... - 10/15/2010 5:51:29 AM

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Yuk! By being honest with him, you are forcing him to be dishonest with his peers. How could he present this situation to his friends at school? How would he represent it to his first girlfriend?

I simply don't understand the questions -- we raised 6 saplings to adulthood in a house that practiced honesty and integrity. Our children grew up with our servants around -- they were part of the family, in much the same way as "Alice" was on "The Brady Bunch". Our saplings had NO issues with bringing friends over to the house, no issues with being dishonest with their peers. ("Oh, that's XXX. She's one of the House's servants. She makes AWESOME peanut-butter cookies!" was an oft-heard phrase during one stretch of our saplings' school years!) Our saplings also had no issue referring to the House by its collective name with their friends... and CERTAINLY no problem with boyfriends and/or girlfriends. After 25 years experience, and half a dozen successes, I simply don't see how this is, in any way, a "yuck" situation.

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RE: A question... - 10/15/2010 6:01:56 AM

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Good post, Calla. stiv2009 could have said the same thing about being raised by two dads, or by a single mother, or insert-"unacceptable"-living-situation-here. If kids are supported, stable and happy, where's the yuck?

Time to play Defenders of Marriage: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bja2ttzGOFM

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RE: A question... - 10/15/2010 6:07:00 AM

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Good post, Calla. stiv2009 could have said the same thing about being raised by two dads, or by a single mother, or insert-"unacceptable"-living-situation-here. If kids are supported, stable and happy, where's the yuck?

Time to play Defenders of Marriage: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bja2ttzGOFM

I'd never seen that video... LOVED IT!!!

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RE: A question... - 10/15/2010 6:14:53 AM

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I guess it all depends on how you plan to "display" your new addition to the household to your son.

If you plan to have him prance around doing his chores in some fetish get-up and being all "yes, Mistress" and you with crop in hand ready to deal with any fault, then you'll have heaps of explaining to do.

Somehow, I don't get the feeling this is your plan, though.

I actually like Calla's approach...

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I simply don't understand the questions -- we raised 6 saplings to adulthood in a house that practiced honesty and integrity. Our children grew up with our servants around -- they were part of the family, in much the same way as "Alice" was on "The Brady Bunch". Our saplings had NO issues with bringing friends over to the house, no issues with being dishonest with their peers. ("Oh, that's XXX. She's one of the House's servants. She makes AWESOME peanut-butter cookies!" was an oft-heard phrase during one stretch of our saplings' school years!) Our saplings also had no issue referring to the House by its collective name with their friends... and CERTAINLY no problem with boyfriends and/or girlfriends. After 25 years experience, and half a dozen successes, I simply don't see how this is, in any way, a "yuck" situation.

....which, if you think about it, isn't much different from that of a mainstream couple who brings in a new au pair each year to help with child care. I know many teenagers who have been raised by a variety of different people...au pairs, nannies, mother's helpers and house keepers...and have had no problem adjusting to the yearly "changing of the guard".

You could introduce this new gentleman as your "man Friday" who will be helping around the house for a bit. Who knows, Mr. Friday may just become More-Than-Just-Mr. Friday!

Good luck.

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RE: A question... - 10/31/2010 2:41:57 PM

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tell unmentionable that domestic is your butler, that you prefer a male domestic. TM

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RE: A question... - 11/1/2010 7:13:56 PM

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tell unmentionable that domestic is your butler, that you prefer a male domestic. TM

I think this term may be relative to the size of the house--a small house would not really have a butler per se, but I do like your term "male domestic." I perform housecleaning and other domestic duties for a Household--the Head of Household's parents visited (they made sure I was not scheduled to arrive that day) and they commented on the cleanliness/condition of the house. Knowing that housecleaning was not the Lady of the House's forte (*smirk*), they asked them who was doing it, as it was quite obviously *not* them... so they told their parents they have a boy, frederich, who comes in monthly to clean.

all truths. with the unnecessary truths graciously omitted. sidenote: the parents did ask them what my rate was....and wanted to recommend me to some friends of theirs ;-)

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RE: A question... - 11/3/2010 12:35:57 PM

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I think this term may be relative to the size of the house--a small house would not really have a butler per se, but I do like your term "male domestic."

Indeed. The term butler strikes Me as being a tad above My household tax bracket. Anyone who knows Me personally is well aware that I probably can't afford one of those.

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I perform housecleaning and other domestic duties for a Household--the Head of Household's parents visited (they made sure I was not scheduled to arrive that day) and they commented on the cleanliness/condition of the house. Knowing that housecleaning was not the Lady of the House's forte (*smirk*), they asked them who was doing it, as it was quite obviously *not* them... so they told their parents they have a boy, frederich, who comes in monthly to clean.

I love it. Yeah, not My forte, either. Doesn't mean I don't want it done, just means I'd rather have someone else doing it. If you don't mind My asking, what do you receive in "payment" for your services?

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all truths. with the unnecessary truths graciously omitted. sidenote: the parents did ask them what my rate was....and wanted to recommend me to some friends of theirs ;-)

In this lifestyle, (IMO-YMMV) omission is frowned upon within the dynamic but, when dealing with the 'nillas, is a valuable tool in avoiding dishonesty while not giving others the screamin' willies.

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RE: A question... - 11/4/2010 4:56:41 AM

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As a submissive, I can tell you how I answered this question when my oldest asked me why I did so much for him. "Because I like making the people I love happy, and that's why I do so much for you also".

However if your child does not yet know your new servant, I strongly suggest waiting until they have established a friendship before allowing him to move in. And if, in fact, they cannot establish a happy relationship, I would take that as a sign that this relationship was not to be.

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