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Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 7:01:38 AM   
slavem70


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Status: offline 		i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them?  Just wondering?

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 7:39:35 AM   
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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 8:49:28 AM   
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I have enough trouble deciding what to eat *myself*, to the point where if we're getting a takeaway I'll often say 'just order some food, ok?', so I don't have to think about it.

Delegation is sexy. Micromanagement? Not so much. (IMO, obvs)


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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 10:19:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually.. I usually have her order for me... I enjoy seeing if she knows what I want... we like to pretend we can read one another's minds...

Depending on where we go, she usually knows what I want... the best was at the Ren Faire one time and she went for some water, asked me if I wanted any and I said, no thanks... about five minutes later, I went toward her in line as I decided I wanted a diet pepsi (which I drink about three times a year) and she had one in her hand... funny how she knew that... I don't order one often...

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 10:24:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP, why would you be surprised that a person you just met didn't order for you?  A "date" doesn't constitute ownership.  Also, not all Dommes do things the same way.  Did you even know her preference on the matter when you went out how she would see the idea for someone she would be in a dynamic with?

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 10:36:03 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		Why spend good money on something he/she possibly doesn't like? I could quite happily order for my partner or him for me but then we do know each other well.
If I went for a meal with a Master and he ordered for me there's only one thing that would come to mind and that's 'game player '

To the op, would you prefer a 'new' Master/Mistress to order on your behalf? and if so why?

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 11:12:39 AM   
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i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them?  Just wondering?


Generally speaking, no.  They're adults and they can make their own food choices.  I'm their dominant, not their mommy.  If I were to notice one of them consistently making unhealthy choices, then I might step up and control this more until they got the picture and started making healthier choices.  But the point would be to educate them on how to do it right, not for me to take over a basic everyday responsibility that they have to themselves and to me for making healthy choices that will keep them fit.

Actually both of them are on fairly specific diets which they have researched very well for themselves, and while I'm also a competent nutritionist (certified PT), I don't necessarily know what they've eaten earlier or in one of their cases (the type 1 diabetic) what his blood sugar reading was.  Nor do I want to micromanage those things.  I expect them to be competent, responsible adults and manage these things for themselves. 

If I was with a potential new submissive on a date, I would have no idea what his health or medical status was and what would be appropriate for him to eat.  Doctors don't prescribe for their dates, and nutritionists generally don't do it either; it's not very responsible.  Now if I'm with a PT client whose diet and exercise I am supervising, and whose health history I have spent hours reviewing, I definitely will be ordering for him.  Also probably making him take half of it home and having the waitstaff box half his meal immediately, as restaurant portions are mostly just too damn large.   I tend to be a cheap date because I rarely order entrees; an appetizer portion is usually plenty big enough for a proper sized meal.


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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 11:36:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

No.

I have enough trouble deciding what to eat *myself*, to the point where if we're getting a takeaway I'll often say 'just order some food, ok?', so I don't have to think about it.

Delegation is sexy. Micromanagement? Not so much. (IMO, obvs)



It's okay, VC, I'll order for you.

We wouldn't want that pretty little head to have to do any thinking now.


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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 2:36:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavem70

i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them?  Just wondering?
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Sometimes I do. Usually I don't.

Honestly, I'm fine with the Xy across the table ordering what he wants, so long as he waits for My order to be complete first and observes other critical rules of dining etiquette.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 3:05:45 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Master orders for me most times. He knows what I like, he knows me well and I've rarely been disappointed. 

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 5:18:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm most surprised she let you order anything at all. Who said you were allowed to eat? She's obviously a fraud.


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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 5:25:18 PM   
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I'm most surprised she let you order anything at all. Who said you were allowed to eat? She's obviously a fraud.



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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 6:21:49 PM   
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I'm most surprised she let you order anything at all. Who said you were allowed to eat? She's obviously a fraud.



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Ok, why on earth would you even think that she'd do such a thing when she hasn't even had time or inclination to establish any parameters with you yet? You really need to quit watching so much femdom porn and reading Elise Sutton/Ingrid Bellemaire garbage.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 8:18:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavem70

i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them?  Just wondering?

m




Chuckles .... what would you do ... if She expected You to order for Her?

Bet that would be a surprise!

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/15/2010 8:42:17 PM   
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i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself.



I find it interesting that you expected someone to order for you on a first meeting.  No dynamic or relationship has been established yet, so it would probably be a bit premature to expect her to order for you.

I've served many Dommes over the years, and only one has made it a practice to order my meals for me.  That doesn't mean that my experience is representative of all Dommes.  But for what it's worth, I have rarely had a Domme order for me.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/16/2010 9:53:01 AM   
slavem70


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Status: offline 		i should not have said date. This was someone that i had been in a long distance relationship with for a good while. this was just our first meeting. 

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/16/2010 10:01:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Miss Animus...to cute! How would you expect someone to order for you when they don't know you? What if she ordered fish and you were allergic to fish? Then what? Eat it and die?
And if she orders for you and it is wrong it makes her look bad in front of the waiter...then all hell might break loose.
Just drink water and say Yes Ma'am.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/16/2010 10:34:21 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		I haven't opened a menu in about eight months now.
He picks what he wants me to eat. Sometimes I may request a salad instead of a soup for an appy.
Other than that...I eat what he orders.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/16/2010 12:23:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I tell them what I want ..the rest is just noise for me..

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 7:36:16 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		He doesn't order for me, but he insists on me eating properly. I have a tendency to skip meals and my attitude/mood will show it.

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