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RE: Things that affect your service. - 4/26/2006 11:03:16 AM

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When serving Mistress at a task i enjoy, i of course feel great satisfaction during the task both at my enjoyment and knowing i am pleasing Her.

During a task i do not enjoy, while i may not have a very good time doing it i am glad to be serving Mistress and afterwards i believe i feel an even greater sense of fulfillment than if i had enjoyed it.

being sexually gratified does affect my service, although i am still studying myself as to see exactly why that is. i'll keep you all posted, though. :)

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RE: Things that affect your service. - 4/26/2006 2:45:05 PM

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being sexually gratified does affect my service, although i am still studying myself as to see exactly why that is. i'll keep you all posted, though. :)

Thank you very much, this is basically what we are also trying to figure out.

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RE: Things that affect your service. - 4/26/2006 3:14:00 PM

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Oh....I must be one baaaaaadddd submissive. I have to admit there are things I HATE doing. I HATE cooking, cleaning up and taking care of anyone after I've had a bad day at work. When I'm tired, I'm tired. I'll get the ice cream while He watches the baseball game, but I don't have to like it much.

Why do I do it then? Geez....because I'm His and I'd HATE myself for not doing those things for Him.

<grumble....grumble....grumble.....it's been one of those days>

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RE: Things that affect your service. - 4/26/2006 3:35:14 PM

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I'm still struggling with taking orders -- even if it's something I like, like writing, for instance, I hesitate. What if my words aren't good enough? What if I screw something up and displease Him?

Doing things I loathe [like handwashing the dishes] is a lot harder.. my first instinct is to dig in my heels and refuse to budge. My second instinct, the one I follow, is to shut up and get it over with. Complaining doesn't get the work done faster, and it certainly doesn't make Him happy.

Because of the distance between us, I don't get a lot of sexual gratification, and it used to affect my service to Him. I used to whine and pout, but that got me nowhere.. fast. Things are better now, though. I've grown accustomed to focusing on my service to Him, and not my service to myself.

Honestly though, sex doesn't cross my mind unless I'm doing a specific task -- posing for pictures, for one. I'm not thinking about my sexual needs when I'm doing the dishes, or folding the laundry. I'm just thinking about serving Him.

..ugh. I hope that made some sort of sense.

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RE: Things that affect your service. - 4/26/2006 6:52:01 PM

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How do you feel when serving your Master or Mistress at a task you enjoy?

Well prolly i'd enjoy it.. <grins>

At a task you do not enjoy?

Wait i got one! Laundry, hate laundry. Usually i get methodical about it. Eventually i get into it, sometimes i stress to get it done in a timely manner. i dont think i really feel anyways about it.. i just do it. Sometimes its nice i think as i turn on comedy central and relax abit as i do it.

Are you more likely to perform tasks willingly if your sexual need is high at the time you are performing a task you do not enjoy? Or are you more likely to perform tasks you do not enjoy more willingly if your sexual desires are satiated?

i dont really think my willingness is based on being sexually fullfilled, but then sexual things are more of special occasion.

Are you generally happy serving in any way throughout your daily routine or not?

yeah pretty much - lol it used to depend on my mood. Now i'm back to being happy doing w/e, just to be doing is nice.

Do you think being sexually gratified or sexually denied either one affects your overall submissiveness? If so, why?

Well, He seems to think so. i tend to be in a better mood. The longer it goes the easier i am to get cranky. When i get cranky LOL i pretty much get cranky over any stupid thing. Which affects everything as i just want to stomp around and be cranky nor do i care bout anything cos i'm cranky. BUT that being said - now that my moods are under control more so, its generally not that easy to make me cranky and if i am it blows over fast. Personally i dont think so. lol

Hope this helps = )

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