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inkSecret -> RE: No responses! (10/19/2010 1:52:19 AM)
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ORIGINAL: misterbigg
I spent countless hours refining my profile, and I took some recent photos. But even when I send messages (which are always polite and not copied and pasted) I rarely if ever get a response. I never send messages to fakes, they are really easy to spot.
What's wrong??
Your profile doesn't talk about you.
Your pictures don't show who you are.
And I'm guessing your messages are written in the same format.
In your profile this is what a girl will see.
"I have these things" (doesn't matter if they're assets or skills)
"I want these things"
It's not formatted to be easily read either. Space your paragraphs. Large paragraphs are not fun.
Your pictures look exactly the way society wants a successful person to be seen.
It's very typical, even though it might be the way a successful person seems.
Pictures showing other women are NOT a problem. However, it is the CONTEXT of how you are being shown.
While women DO want a man that women want. They do NOT want to deal with competition.
What of this separates you from the next successful, physically attractive Italian guy?
There are plenty on this site. But that doesn't equate to happiness, nor does it equate to depth.
Your intelligence is not carried over by your success. There are plenty of stupid successful people.
Your passion is carried across by the truth of yourself.
And your ability to explain it.
Go look up the male profiles, I've seen your profile a DOZEN times. Some of them with cock shots that are the size of your forearm.
And none of them know how to "talk" and "connect"
Since your a programmer think of it like this...
The woman doesn't actually care about how many times you've climbed some mountain. Or if you're successful. Or if you're physically or intellectually attractive. First is your character. Your core being, and how you decide to act. Even a complete loser can still make brave and courageous decisions.
From being in Love with you, only THEN do your accomplishments mean anything really. Then she has something to talk about with you, or talk about you to others.
It works both ways.
"I Love him so much, and did you know he's a Programmer? I Love programming!"
"You're a programmer? My ex boyfriend was a programmer, and he was such a scum bag to me"
None of those things you state in your profile mean anything in terms of interest or connection.
Think of it like Kindergarten. Kids don't make choices at first based on Skills, or Assets. The first thing they see is the character. They have to learn what Skills or Assets can be used. But as a kid at the core, we recognize things like bravery, confidence, humor and fairness.
Or like television. The characters don't talk or even show much of their hobbies or their career. What's interesting, is to see how they interact with each other.
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