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RE: An announcement - 4/30/2006 4:47:42 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately, I don't have any contact information for the girl, other than her first name and a city ... otherwise, I would.  She is still a minor, and the law is "16 with parental consent" ... which there is no proof of.  So I would tip off mommy and daddy, let them know what their little 'angel' was up to, and let them press charges against him.

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RE: An announcement - 4/30/2006 5:03:42 PM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		You know, the silver lining is that you found out about the sob *before* you were legally tied to him.

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RE: An announcement - 5/2/2006 10:37:59 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		In good news, I have spent my first day with almost no crying (only teared up a couple of times, rather than every 5 minutes).  It's still very difficult to resist calling him *sigh* I want him back already, even though I know better.

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RE: An announcement - 5/2/2006 10:46:39 PM   
disretion7


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Status: offline 		Dear SweetDommes,
 
I am all sympathy.
 
It is a sting I know  well too, though my own troubles are small compared with yours.
 
Sincerely,
 
disretion7 (Phil)
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

We discovered that our new boy (the one I picked, of course ... I'm 3 for 3 now) was not only cheating on us online, he has been doing some more than slightly illegal things using our phone lines and computers.  On the plus side, we are 99% certain that this has only been going on for about a month, on the down side, I can't even stand to look at him and I want him out of my house as of yesterday.  I'm filing a police report against him, and gathering all of his things together while he is at work tomorrow (and yes, he already knows this). 

Anyway, to prevent this story from getting any longer, I'm leaving the site for awhile - I may have Holly come here in my place, since she is apparently a much better judge of character, but I don't know if she will post or anything.  I just can't take searching again ... not yet, maybe not ever.  For those of you who are my friends, you know how to reach me (or I'll let you know if you message me sometime in the next 2 days on the other side of the site - after that, I'm turning the account over to Holly and it will be up to her). 

So, thank you to my friends,
good luck to all who are searching,
and goodbye to all for now,
Karen

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RE: An announcement - 5/3/2006 3:23:50 AM   
mons


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Status: offline 		greetings to all

I am truly sorry this has happen to you!
There are truly so many evil people who use and try to destroy
others but i see your a strong one but it still hurts do not let him see this,
when i pick someone but even me and i am a very good judge of
people i was fooled myself and i learn through asking question, and i had that bad feeling
women we all have it i did not listen but i listen very well now. take care and
throw the law book at him. Please do not cry this animal was and is no damn good
if he works where you said with childern i can tell you from workiing at a school for 14 years
they will get him and if he does not go to jail i swear he will never find work again. That is something the school hate and to let someone in like that is a nightmare for them, he will paid sweetdommes and nice to meet you at such at time but you will heal. May I say pray for you? I will anyway. please take care, for one bad there are so many wondeful ones
my hope and prays are with you

mons/jane

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RE: An announcement - 5/3/2006 8:17:37 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

Unfortunately, I don't have any contact information for the girl, other than her first name and a city ... otherwise, I would.  She is still a minor, and the law is "16 with parental consent" ... which there is no proof of.  So I would tip off mommy and daddy, let them know what their little 'angel' was up to, and let them press charges against him.


If he's lazy and stupid enough to get caught doing this he's probably stupid enough to leave evidence you need to get him arrested. If you put him out and removed his belongings check phone bills, credit card receipts hell check his phone if you have it for the name or frequently called numbers. A little demon dialing asking for this girls name and bingo you have parents. That's assuming he wasn't dumb enough to program her number in the phone for you.

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RE: An announcement - 5/3/2006 8:28:36 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		He only used his personal cell, which is prepaid, so no bills.  He also only has a pre-paid credit card ... again, no bills. 

Plus, I'm not going to open his mail ... no matter what he did to me, I will not do that.  He will get what is coming to him - karma works ... it just doesn't always work as fast as we want it to.

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RE: An announcement - 5/3/2006 9:53:27 PM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

In good news, I have spent my first day with almost no crying (only teared up a couple of times, rather than every 5 minutes). It's still very difficult to resist calling him *sigh* I want him back already, even though I know better.



Good for you! And continue to listen to your head. The heart sometimes has a tendancy to be a bit masochistic...


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OMG - 5/4/2006 4:35:56 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		So, I cut my hair, everyone thinks that it's cute.

Since we still have all of his stuff floating around here and some weird things have been happening (details below), I called him today.  He still can't appologise, and he threatened us with a lawsuit about putting the gunlock on his gun.  He will be picking up his things tomorrow at my work, because he was told by Madison County (just yesterday, mind you) that he shouldn't give us his new address ... and they also told him that he could press charges against Holly for the gunlock issue.  I reminded him that it was on my property, and that he left it sitting on the backseat of his unlocked car on my property ... which I'm sure Madison County would like to know if he decides to press charges against Holly for it. 

Weird things that have been happening:
The bunny rabbit that he got for me around Easter fell on my head about an hour ago.
The job application that I got for him (it was sitting on my desk) for Hamilton county fell out of the cubby hole that it was sitting in.
An e-mail that I got from him over a month ago (and read) suddenly showed up as unread in my mail box.
Lots of other random little things that I can't think of right now because I'm all upset again.

So, yeah, I've been crying ... he did at least have the decency to listen to me explain why I was so upset (now that I can do it coherently).

And now, votes on what to do with the things I'm undecided about:
The bunny rabbit he gave me around Easter (after he started cheating on me) - give it back, keep it, burn it, or feed it to the dogs?
The teddy bear he gave me the night he moved in - give it back, keep it, burn it, or feed it to the dogs?
The necklace he gave me with our names on it, stating "in love forever" - give it back, keep it, or melt it down (it's a dogtag ... not worth anything)?

< Message edited by SweetDommes -- 5/4/2006 5:09:41 PM >

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 5:24:06 PM   
blackpearl81


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From: Home of the Yankees
Status: offline 		Sweet Dommes?

quote:

Holly thinks I should let my dog pick the next boy for us - but I'm not so sure about it.


just imagine how much money you can save by switching to geico.. erm.. sorry.. wrong commercial... let me try this again

*clears throat*
*achhhhhhhhhhhhheeem*
ah.. much better....

Imagine how much money you can save on castration.. after all.. if he doesnt have it.. he cant use it.. right?

*smiles n eats a reeses peanut butter cup*
*offers one to Sweet Dommes*

Hope this was good for a chuckle
*Bp*

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 5:44:32 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Animals are very good judges of character. My first hint that something was off with my boy came from my fur kids...and his general disdain for them.



That's really very true.  My cat despised My former submissive.  Normally, she is just indifferent toward males, but this one she had a truly negative reaction to.  I have never seen anything like it, in fact.  I ignored it, attributing it to jealousy, but oh the l pain and heartache that little cat could have saved Me had I heeded her! 

I am going to watch her reaction to any future submissives I consider.  She simply ignored the submissive I owned before the last, with whom I parted amicably.  But this last one she was very hostile toward, like she REALLY didn't want him around.  She evidently saw his true colors long before I did.

Lady Topaz

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 7:52:29 PM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackpearl81


*smiles n eats a reeses peanut butter cup*
*offers one to Sweet Dommes*

Hope this was good for a chuckle
*Bp*


Good for a chuckle and a smile ... I love reeses cups  

*sigh* so, yeah, he's basically proven to me that he never loved me at all ... that the whole thing was a game to him, a lie lived for awhile because it was fun.  That thought actually hurts much less than I think it should, but maybe that's because it's easier to move on from someone who never actually gave a damn ...

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 8:24:46 PM   
MistressLina


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Status: offline 		I wish those pushy subs would read this thread. Maybe then they would understand a woman (or women) protecting herself and being cautious.

Even though there are worms, liars, cheaters and jerks, there are probably just as many good guys, they're just harder to find. You know that saying, once you stop looking for something, you'll find it...well I think it applies to relationships as well.
I wish you both lots of luck.
Cheers.

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 10:15:58 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Thanks.  After talking to him today, I've realized that he never loved me at all ... that it was just a sham ... a game to him.  Oddly enough, that helped me let go of him a bit more. 

I'm still totally not ready to start looking again, but I no longer feel the need to shun the internet.

I also called him back and left him a message saying that he can't come to my workplace to get his things.  I wasn't happy with the arrangement anyway (and had told him that at the time) but I just wanted to get rid of his things, so I finally agreed to it.  I don't want him at my job, potentially causing trouble for me.  He's done enough.

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RE: An announcement - 5/4/2006 10:45:39 PM   
UtopianRanger


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quote:


I'm still totally not ready to start looking again, but I no longer feel the need to shun the internet.


Hey..... I just came up with a great idea for you two. How bought if I chip in and fly ''Imtempting'' out from Australia? He needs a couple of good ladies like you two to keep his ass in line. I think that sounds like a hellva plan!


 - R


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RE: An announcement - 5/5/2006 12:01:24 AM   
alex311


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Status: offline 		Although I don't know you personally, I've seen your postings and your profile and it's clear that you and your partner-in-Dominance have a lot to offer the right boy-pet.  I'm sorry to hear that this one turned out to be unworthy of your trust, but try not to be discouraged (I know, easier said than done).  It's possible to keep a boy on a very short leash...Ebony Fetish Goddess talked about nanny-type software, and you can monitor his phone bills, and randomly search his room, and have him followed around, and soon you'll apparently be able to track his location using GPS-equipped cell phones designed for kids.  But in the end, relationships are based on trust and no amount of technology or safeguards can keep a determined player from playing you, whether in a D/s context or a vanilla one.  Take pride in the fact that you were willing to give him a chance in the first place...he made the mistake, not you...and I'm sure you'll soon find one far more worthy of your time and effort.

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RE: An announcement - 5/5/2006 7:13:41 AM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

quote:


I'm still totally not ready to start looking again, but I no longer feel the need to shun the internet.


Hey..... I just came up with a great idea for you two. How bought if I chip in and fly ''Imtempting'' out from Australia? He needs a couple of good ladies like you two to keep his ass in line. I think that sounds like a hellva plan!


- R



And how about I smack you around for the mere suggestion ... wait, you'd enjoy that ... how about I NOT smack you around for it?

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RE: An announcement - 5/6/2006 1:40:45 AM   
UtopianRanger


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

quote:

ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

quote:


I'm still totally not ready to start looking again, but I no longer feel the need to shun the internet.


Hey..... I just came up with a great idea for you two. How bought if I chip in and fly ''Imtempting'' out from Australia? He needs a couple of good ladies like you two to keep his ass in line. I think that sounds like a hellva plan!


- R



And how about I smack you around for the mere suggestion ... wait, you'd enjoy that ... how about I NOT smack you around for it?





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"If you are going to win any battle, you have to do one thing. You have to make the mind run the body. Never let the body tell the mind what to do... the body is never tired if the mind is not tired."

-General George S. Patton


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RE: An announcement - 5/6/2006 7:41:18 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		He's getting his stuff back today - if he shows up when and where I told him to.  I don't know if he will or not, because I had to leave him a voicemail about it. 

I came to a realization after talking to him about getting him his shit on Thursday ... he never loved me.  He may have thought that he did, but if you truly loved someone (even if you didn't love them anymore) you would NOT be unmoved at knowing that they have been suicidal ... and he was totally unmoved by it.  He still has no emotion except resentment for us throwing him out even though he is the one who was wrong by cheating.  That epiphany hurt like hell ... for about 2 minutes, and then it made it a lot easier to just let go of the slime.  I still miss him, I still love him ... but I wouldn't take him back even if he suddenly won the biggest powerball jackpot ever and agreed to go to therapy about his issues.

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RE: An announcement - 5/6/2006 8:21:51 AM   
blondBBWsub


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Status: offline 		SweetDommes, I read this thread with interest! I hope you returned all the stuff to him including the stuffed animals and jewelry, too. You don't need any physical reminders around, and giving everything back may have more of an impact on the little rat, and also allow you to make more of a clean break with him, both emotionally and physically. I know how it hurts, I've been betrayed too. In my case it was a Dom.. Now I am very carefull who I let in my life (and in my home). Need I say it is Very Hard for me not to give total trust to a Dom?

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