DMFParadox
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But I wouldn't be surprised if she starts seeing other ways that his, shall we say, consideration for her needs turns her on.
Well... you know, Master can get me hot and bothered when he "considers" my needs too. Though it's not because I'm feeling Dommy over him, it's because he went out of his way as Master to make sure his slave was happy. It has nothing to do with my topping him and all to do with the fact that he wanted to do it that got me off. Granted I never orgasmed from any of these exchanges, but I have begged for sex afterwards lol.
Heck, there are times when I've told him that I thought having sex after a fight would be detrimental because of some issue or another, and he agreed, and while I hadn't got a happy from that I was deeply touched that he respected my needs enough to refrain. I wasn't topping him or being Dominant, I was just telling him my feelings and thoughts on the matter like I'm required to do, and he thought better of going against those feelings.
So sometimes granting a sub's or slave's wishes doesn't always immediately point to him/her being a Dom - sometimes it's more a gift from the Dom to her that makes his ownership of her that much more special.
Edited to fix a couple spelling errors.
This is the chain of events that's triggering my response.
1. "he wanted to make up by having sex which is normal"
2. " but for whatever reason I just did not want to have sex"
3. She talks him out of it, and they don't. (This is where I could be reading into things, so if you did have sex or just hadn't said anything, OP, set the record straight, please.)
4. "I have an orgasm just from him touching me and it gets very intense"
I used the word consideration because I was trying to be a bit less antagonizing of some people's sensibilities than if I'd used 'obedience'. But that's what I meant. She took lead on this and he accepted it.
Within the overall context of the relationship - I haven't forgotten she's got the will and the mindset to normally be his submissive - within that context, she had a moment where his obedience and acceptance of her displayed through her obedience gave her a profound orgasm.
It's as if a lesbian found herself turned on by a man. Doesn't mean she likes girls less, but something has happened that made her notice a new way to get off.
Something ringing an alarm bell is the hint that fighting is common enough for its resolution to be a problem. It might be because her super-ego is too heavily overriding her id. I.e., her 'role' isn't satisfying her. If she hadn't had such a strong reaction to this resolution, I wouldn't immediately assume that; and it's still more likely that it's over economics and time management than it is over personal dynamics. At least statistically speaking. But in this case, her satisfaction with her role is a consideration in why they're having problems.
Everything (except for defining terms) is maybe's and could-be's. Something to look into. If I'm wrong, it doesn't matter. But if my conjecture is right, and it helps her and him see their relationship in a way that closer fits their ids, then she'll have benefited from a different perspective. That's what it's all for.
Do women (and men) get off by an idea of a thing and the lightest touch? Sure they do. Good for her. Glad things are looking up.
< Message edited by DMFParadox -- 10/30/2010 1:11:14 AM >
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