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AZCuckieWannabe -> Male chastity (4/26/2006 6:49:50 PM)

Should a submissive male always be in chastity when in a relationship with a dominant female?



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Male chastity (4/26/2006 6:52:59 PM)

it depends on her.

i personally demand chaste slaves



Proprietrix -> RE: Male chastity (4/26/2006 8:11:42 PM)

Completely depends on the relationship. Some do. Some don't.



BeachMystress -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 2:46:58 AM)


Do you think there are rules Dominants have to follow? Do you think everyone is alike? It sounds to me more like YOU are interested in chastity and just want to discuss it. You may find the following link to be of interest.
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/clinks.htm



twicehappy -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 3:37:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AZCuckieWannabe

Should a submissive male always be in chastity when in a relationship with a dominant female?



I do not know. This is a subject that has been oft discussed at home lately. It seems being kept in chastity is on many a male subbies profile. We have been trying to discern why. Both Mistress and myself have started threads looking for answers to this question (Mistress’s thread-Is the male orgasm an on/off switch to submission). And also to the question is this the same for both sexes and why (my thread-Things that affect your service). To date we have made some guess but have yet to draw any solid conclusions.




MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 6:52:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress


Do you think there are rules Dominants have to follow? Do you think everyone is alike? It sounds to me more like YOU are interested in chastity and just want to discuss it. You may find the following link to be of interest.
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/clinks.htm

Since he has cuckolding under lives for and chasity under loves, I would have to say you're right. Doesn't mean it can't be discussed though.



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 9:03:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: AZCuckieWannabe

Should a submissive male always be in chastity when in a relationship with a dominant female?



I do not know. This is a subject that has been oft discussed at home lately. It seems being kept in chastity is on many a male subbies profile. We have been trying to discern why. Both Mistress and myself have started threads looking for answers to this question (Mistress’s thread-Is the male orgasm an on/off switch to submission). And also to the question is this the same for both sexes and why (my thread-Things that affect your service). To date we have made some guess but have yet to draw any solid conclusions.



*Smile*  I wondered about that, and I have been reading your thread and keeping track of the responses by gender.  I suspect I am coming to the same conclusion if I just keep score.



Reasonable -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 9:12:58 AM)

What is most prescious to a person is that which is most often controlled.

Sort of a "Maslow's hierarchy" sort of issue.[;)]



BeachMystress -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 12:15:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

quote:

ORIGINAL: BeachMystress


Do you think there are rules Dominants have to follow? Do you think everyone is alike? It sounds to me more like YOU are interested in chastity and just want to discuss it. You may find the following link to be of interest.
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/clinks.htm

Since he has cuckolding under lives for and chasity under loves, I would have to say you're right. Doesn't mean it can't be discussed though.


I never intimated that it shouldn't be discussed. I even posted a link to help him out. I just wanted to make it perfectly clear that I feel it is HIS fantasy, not the fantasy of the Domme, that was being discussed.



ScooterTrash -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 2:47:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
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ORIGINAL: twicehappy
quote:

ORIGINAL: AZCuckieWannabe
Should a submissive male always be in chastity when in a relationship with a dominant female?

I do not know. This is a subject that has been oft discussed at home lately. It seems being kept in chastity is on many a male subbies profile. We have been trying to discern why. Both Mistress and myself have started threads looking for answers to this question (Mistress’s thread-Is the male orgasm an on/off switch to submission). And also to the question is this the same for both sexes and why (my thread-Things that affect your service). To date we have made some guess but have yet to draw any solid conclusions.

*Smile*  I wondered about that, and I have been reading your thread and keeping track of the responses by gender.  I suspect I am coming to the same conclusion if I just keep score.
Nodz, I have obviously been paying attention to the feedback as well (kind of hard not to in the same house). Seems like the majority of the time if a male sub isn't kept in chastity, you better brace for a downtime period while they regain their submissive side.



MistWalker -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 2:54:25 PM)

never done chastisy, well in the sense of being under lock and key anyway. there are times i am told not to play, its a matter of trust with us that i will not play unless i am told i can. no devices save trust nessacery. neither of us see it as a nescssity for us, but i do understand how and why some do. 



AZCuckieWannabe -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 8:59:55 PM)

Wow, thank you all for your comments! I was introduced to wearing a device several years ago by an online friend, and yes, I do rather like it. But I've never had a keyholder. My vanilla ex-wife didn't like the idea at all. Several dominant women that I've communicated with seem to think it's a must. I suppose what I was really wondering is whether the Domme really enjoys the feeling of power of being a keyholder. I guess the answer is that some do, and some are indifferent.

I suppose that I would like to find a woman who appreciates being a keyholder, but that really shouldn't be my requirement. As I have virtually no experience in the lifestyle, I might be guilty of trying to "top from the bottom" to think of this as a requirement.

Again, thank you all for sharing your thoughts.

John.



AZCuckieWannabe -> RE: Male chastity (4/27/2006 9:12:16 PM)

Thank you for the link. You are right - I am interested in it. I suppose I was just trying to get some kind of read as to whether this is a fantasy shared by dominant women. By your answer and the other posts, it's pretty clear that it's left to the individual.

Thanks again,

John.



ratiug -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 10:28:17 AM)

My wife is essentially vanilla and I would considermyself more of an Alpha male. We purchased (at my suggestion) and started playing with a CB2000 about 22 months ago . Ironically justified as a Fatheres day gift. We have been married for 24 years and have gone from having sex every day early in our marrige to about two or three times a week. Always when I wanted it. When I am kept in Chastity we have sex about once a week when the time is right for my wife. I become very submissive and attentive to her every whim and she loves it. She likes messages and for me to help with the housework and her list of chores.

So chastity play for us is like a light switch for me to become submissive to her. Without it I quickly revert to my default role of being an Alpha male.

For us that works and I spend about 3/4 of my time in a CB2000. BTW My time in Vs my time out is growing more and more in the direction of 24 by 7.
She is becomes more comfortable and determined to Dominating me.






understud -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 2:00:35 PM)

Respectfully; other than for play time, if i had submitted to another, and this demand was made  of me...it would be an indication that my word was meaningless. More than that; as i had pledged to them, they thought i had lied when doing it.  If others agree to lock and key chastity, good for them ..to each their own.  My word is the most secure chastity i can think of, if i have become theirs; no other bond  or chastity belt is needed. 
 
respectful always



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 8:57:26 PM)

I look at chastity as neither a sign of trust or distrust and more of a reminder of Who has the control. Nothing reminds one more of their place when My sub walks into the rest room and must sit down to attend to the most natural of bodily functions. By owning and controling such an essential part of their "manhood" it serves as reminder that they are owned fully. I've never come across a sub/slave/cuck that didn't agree to at least try it and find themselves loving it in the end. While perhaps not for everyone I do find it works quite well to remind one of their place at the most vanilla of situations.




understud -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 11:43:33 PM)

i understand your position; yet maintain i need no reminder if i pledge to the one i shall serve. if others enjoy such i am happy for them. my place is submissive, no other would ever enter my thoughts. of that i am certain; sometimes an iron will and just plain stubbornness is a blessing ...once joined i am resolved...i usually relieve myself in that position anyway...if my dominate suddenly decided i needed chastity after agreeing otherwise...hum...don't know what i would think...i would depend then on how strong my bond was...but if this was ever demanded of me out of hand, for no reason than they wished it done...i might for a time but would feel the bond as permanently weakened...what would happen after that...not my department my Dominate would have the (ball) in their court...thank you for replying, started me thinking on a different track...sometimes i get tunnel vision...



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 11:52:22 PM)

 understand your position; yet maintain i need no reminder if i pledge to the one i shall serve. if others enjoy such i am happy for them. my place is submissive, no other would ever enter my thoughts. of that i am certain; sometimes an iron will and just plain stubbornness is a blessing ...once joined i am resolved...i usually relieve myself in that position anyway...if my dominate suddenly decided i needed chastity after agreeing otherwise...hum...don't know what i would think...i would depend then on how strong my bond was...but if this was ever demanded of me out of hand, for no reason than they wished it done...i might for a time but would feel the bond as permanently weakened...what would happen after that...not my department my Dominate would have the (ball) in their court...thank you for replying, started me thinking on a different track...sometimes i get tunnel vision...

Quite understood your position as well. As stated, its not for everyone. Its a personal matter between Domme and sub. Then again I've never required it of one that didn't hold some curiosity in it.




understud -> RE: Male chastity (4/28/2006 11:58:22 PM)

no offence intended; this is a point of honor to me and i agree it could be most effective to remind others.  if  i can't communicate to my Dominate that i do know and keep my place, i'm probably not much of a submissive, and they probably deserve better...You do make me think, thank you Ma am...
respectfully



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Male chastity (4/29/2006 12:01:02 AM)

no offense taken understud. Glad I made you think.




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