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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 5:29:02 AM

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If they have missed the point they have little intelligence to debase.

Actually I think you are the one who is missing the point. But keep whining and blaming it on everyone else. That way when someone is interested in you, they can come to this thread and see how if they really want to go there or not. I am sure the condensending attitude will really turn them on.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 6:15:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: SPIT00N

if you end a 17 line posting incorporating an irrelevant anecdote about some guy's personal conversation by saying that you are going to say the same thing to me as you said to somebody in a separate thread then you should be more wary of yourself obsessively harping on your one-liners about others harping on about different issues and you should also stop looking at others and start wondering about just how much time YOU spend online!

OP,

It would seem that some of the responses touched a nerve with you. Your failure to see the opinions offered as germane to your issue is unfortunate...but your failure nonetheless.

Presentation is everything...a concept very relevant to this topic and one I'm not going to bother to try and explain to you.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 7:00:18 AM

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The age range is only in the search facility so you can search your age range. What I propose is that one should be obliged to state what range one is seeking, since the vast majority of people have one, in order to alert those considering contacting them that their effort might be futile. If compulsory that still would not debar anyone putting in an "any age" option but whatever anyones opinions why is it so hard to get into people's skulls on here that what I am not talking about the search engine but proposing is that age preference age preferences should be a compulsory field when filling in profiles?

There are two separate problems with this. One is that some people on this site aren't "seeking" at all. To that group, your idea doesn't benefit them. It's just more time that they waste by clicking another box. Where the idea would benefit you, it would be additional work for them. That doesn't sit well with Me because I firmly bellieve that people should use every moment of their time on the site that is in their own best interest. Not to have some obligatory sense of catering to others.

All of the options that you mention (height, weight, etc) are fields of information about themselves. It doesn't necessarily have to do with looking for other people. By insisting that it be mandatory that people list what they are searching for (i.e. age range) you are attempting to put some people into a box where they don't fit. In essence, wasting their time to save yours. A concept that doesn't work for Me because other people's time is just as valuable and they shouldn't have to sacrifice it.

Currently on the scroll, there is a link to the "wanting to make suggestions" option. There's nothing preventing you from giving your opinion in that way to see if the site wants to add the feature. They may very well go against the opinion of those of us on the thread who would prefer to keep things the way they are, but you could still run it by them.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 7:14:57 AM

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yeah...I only fuck my boyfriend. for free.

since you wanted to pull a quote from my response to your previous statement on another thread- you need to read what a prostitute is.

yet again:

Prostitute:

/ˈprɒs

tɪˌtut, -ˌtyut/

[pros-ti-toot, -tyoot] Show IPA noun, verb, -tut·ed, -tut·ing. –noun 1. a woman who engages in sexual intercourse for money; whore; harlot.
And here is the etymology of the word for further clarification for you:

prostitute
1520s, "to offer to indiscriminate sexual intercourse (usually in exchange for money)," from L. prostituere "to expose to prostitution, expose publicly," from pro- "before" + statuere "cause to stand, establish" (see stature). The noun sense of "harlot" is from 1610s, from L. prostituta "prostitute," fem. of prostitutus , pp. of prostituere . The notion of "sex for hire" is not inherent in the etymology, which rather suggests one "exposed to lust" or sex "indiscriminately offered." However, this is now almost the official European term for the institution, e.g. Ger. prostituierte , Rus. prostitutka , etc. Figurative sense (of abilities, etc.) is from 1590s. The noun meaning "a woman who offers her body indiscriminately" (usually for money) is from 1610s. Of men, in reference to homosexual acts, recorded from 1886 (in form prostitution ).
I do not fit that description.

And I turn plenty of people away who offer me a fist full of dollars. What many Professional people in BDSM experience is many people coming to them with any and all twisted fantasies, many illegal, in exchange for obscene amounts of money.

If I find somebody to be too old for me, I simply tell them in a message. End of story.

I'm not being condescending, or patronizing. I'm being realistic. If online isn't fairing well for you- try other methods.

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This clearly means that you are "for the time being" here not as a domme but as a prostitute to use the correct terminology and as such I'd be very surprised if you turn anyone away with a big fistful of dollars! Maybe your escorting on here puts you off stating an age range since doing so would be bad for business.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 7:22:02 AM

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People have suggested reasons why they think your idea is unnecessary or impractical. Don't be bitchy because they don't automatically support your ideas.

I understand your frustration - emailing people here can be very hit-or-miss. However, it's always going to be hit-or-miss. We simply don't have enough checkboxes to match people up perfectly, and people often don't know what they want regardless.

You've posted your ad. People who find it very intriguing will write you, or at least view your few profile. If you want to further your chances by writing to others, you open yourself up to rejection. You seem to specifically want someone younger than you, but MOST young people aren't looking for casual partners significantly older than themselves. Perhaps, instead of demanding that they edit their profiles to rule you out, you could limit yourself to those who specify that they're open to older partners?

If not, be happy that they offer their rejections with grace.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 9:15:12 AM

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I have had my age range in my profile before....the problem is that very few people actaully READ the damn thing!

I just deleted a message from a 27 year old......way too young, even tho he was adamant about not playing games......I don't care, it's still to close to the age of my son. And while I'm 50, I certainly don't feel or act like it, so men my age tend to not be compatible because very few of them are afficianodos of amusement parks, roller coasters, zoos, etc. And I also state in my profile that you have to be local to me....not halfway across the country! The problem again cmoes from the reading of it!

And the last time I checked, you CAN set the search for an age range, and your bulk mail settings can be set the same way.

And like it or not, based on your responses her to folks who have responded, I wouldn't talk to you much anyway, not because of your age, but because of the overly defensive and somewhat snotty tone of your responses here.......you may be 58, but your responses sound like some of the things we'd hear from an 18 year old....no offense intended to the younger set! People are going to have their preferences, like it or not, and quite frankly, if they take the time to respond kindly, you should feel lucky....most of us just delete the messages unanswered.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 11:06:03 AM

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but your responses sound like some of the things we'd hear from an 18 year old....no offense intended to the younger set!

No offense taken as far as I am concerned.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 12:20:21 PM

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but your responses sound like some of the things we'd hear from an 18 year old....no offense intended to the younger set!

No offense taken as far as I am concerned.

I didn't think there would be, I sort of meant it tongue in cheek, but it's hard to get that across sometimes in this media. I figured the ones that might be offended are the little Drama Queens running around......

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 12:42:21 PM

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There are posts in this thread that I could remove for personal attacks and yet if I removed them, the thread is hacked up and post that don't need to be removed for a TOS offense, would be for quoting or responding to the removed post. Everything will remain unless I have to return.

From this point on, please refrain from making personal attacks/insults or name calling. Any TOS offence after this point will be removed. Try to remain on topic and not make your post personal.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 1:46:46 PM

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The age range is only in the search facility so you can search your age range. What I propose is that one should be obliged to state what range one is seeking, since the vast majority of people have one, in order to alert those considering contacting them that their effort might be futile. If compulsory that still would not debar anyone putting in an "any age" option but whatever anyones opinions why is it so hard to get into people's skulls on here that what I am not talking about the search engine but proposing is that age preference age preferences should be a compulsory field when filling in profiles?

I think it is rather ludicrous that you think one should be obliged to state an age range because it would be better for you.

One issue is you have an attraction to younger types. That is not a problem, per se, but you should be obliged to understand that many of those much younger than you, don't fancy those your age.

The actual issue is that the perameters of your fetish are very specific and not one that is shared by many people.
Your specificity includes age.

I understand your frustration at not being able to find people to meet your desires.

You have been here for 5 days. You are getting negative responses.

Arguing with us isn't going to fix that.

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RE: Age Sought On Profiles - 10/31/2010 2:48:06 PM

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Also, if age range should not be compulsory for the reasons any of you state then why should the "sexuality" and "orientation" fields be, if it should not be voluntary then why should we have voluntary fields for the weight, height and kind of people we are seeking to say nothing of the scores of questions on outside lifestyle etc like does anyone really think an interest in mathematics, wood-working, golf or knitting is a turn on or turn off.

As you said above, fields like height, weight, city, and what/ if one is seeking are voluntary. The only required fields are the 'bare bones' of gender, orientation, sexuality, age, and rough location. Were the PTB to add a field for age range sought, it would surely be voluntary since many are here for the forums and are not seeking at all, and many others are open to all age ranges. The only way it would even make sense is for other fields to also be made mandatory, and that is something I would not support. The people who are not seeking and come here for the forums or to keep in touch with friends have just as much right to use this site as those that are seeking, after all.

There have been many suggestions made, and they run the gamut (the good, the bad and the ugly, lol). This one isn't bad as a voluntary field, but IMO isn't even in the ballpark for a required field.

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