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Turn offs - 11/6/2010 8:03:38 PM   
MagikMisstress


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Status: offline 		I was wondering what is your bigest turn offs.  What is the worst thing a subbmissive can do to make you walk away?
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RE: Turn offs - 11/6/2010 8:14:01 PM   
Tantriqu


Posts: 2026
Joined: 12/29/2006
Status: offline 		Domme dynamic: Topping from the bottom/smart-ass masochism.
Vanilla dynamic: Being late.
Sexual dynamic: Crossdressing [goodbye, wide-on!]

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RE: Turn offs - 11/6/2010 8:26:16 PM   
BlackTigerDragon


Posts: 180
Joined: 4/1/2010
Status: offline 		Who needs a turn off? I just strip nekkid, then look at myself in the mirror. Works like a charm! Better than grandmother in bikini.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/6/2010 8:35:29 PM   
jujubeeMB


Posts: 723
Joined: 1/8/2010
Status: offline 		My biggest turn-off is submissive guys. But then, I'm a submissive girl myself, so...that's not helpful to you at all

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RE: Turn offs - 11/6/2010 9:50:49 PM   
DarkSteven


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Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		Breaking a commitment to me.
Refusing to accept my dominance (for example, asking me to screen prospective Doms and then meeting one behind my back that she knew I would disapprove of).
Lying to me/misrepresenting to me.
Treating my time and my property with no respect.



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RE: Turn offs - 11/6/2010 10:38:52 PM   
GambleChance


Posts: 5
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline 		For me, a woman who smokes (this includes pot) is a huge turn off.

2. Fake profiles
3. Poor typing
4. Poor quality photos/images
5. People who have a "fake" laugh- as in forcing a laugh or giggle.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 12:56:24 AM   
Nineveh


Posts: 1299
Joined: 2/5/2008
Status: offline 		breaking the illusion that I am in control.  Yeah, I know it is an illusion, but if you point it out I'm not gonna be turned on any longer.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 1:55:01 AM   
subkatslut


Posts: 81
Joined: 9/14/2010
Status: offline 		Is it really an illusion? I'm a newbie so maybe I'm naive but even though I ultimately in the end have the choice to submit to something or not with the right dom I'll want to. If your dominance is merely an illusion I'm not going to be around to cater to that illusion just so you feel dominant. I respond to a dominant man not one who needs me to pretend I see him as dominant. Either you're in control or you're not and if you're not well then you're no longer the dominant person in the relationship in which case see post #4 in this thread.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 2:05:48 AM   
RavenMuse


Posts: 4030
Joined: 1/23/2006
Status: offline 		Lying to Me or otherwise breaking My trust in her..... Other things I may discipline and work on correcting but if the trust has gone there is no relationship worth having and trust can almost never be properly repaired.

Stepping away from the Dynamic..... removing consent is the only thing that will stop Me exercising the Authority and maintaining control... keep doing that and I WILL start to believe you are playing at it rather than feeling it else it isn't something that blows hot and cold. That happens, you are gone in 60 seconds flat. Playing games of that type is another kind of lie.... see above regarding lies.


< Message edited by RavenMuse -- 11/7/2010 2:09:56 AM >

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 4:36:32 AM   
allthatjaz


Posts: 2878
Joined: 8/20/2008
Status: offline 		Lack of communication, selfishness and telling me they enjoy something when they clearly don't.
I know that some subs feel that they need to be made to do things they don't like so as to achieve that real feeling of submission and that's cool but when someone says those dreaded words, 'I hated that but I did it for you', I just see it as an intended guilt trip

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 5:47:58 AM   
MercTech


Posts: 3706
Joined: 7/4/2006
Status: offline 		Refusal to offer any feedback when asked a question. If I ask something, I expect an answer not a game of "20 questions".

i.e. Any preference on where to go for dinner?
Anywhere you want.
Ok, there is a new chinese place, let's try it out.
Oh, I hate chinese.
Ok, mexican then.
I can't eat Mexican.
You see where this is going?

Not playing that game.

Stefan


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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 6:50:14 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		MercTech, that drives me nuts too.
I also hate it when a sub can never make a decision or a suggestion. The reason my previous relationship broke down was because my sub expected me to make every decision in life and if asked for a suggestion, would always say, 'Ohh I'd rather not and prefer it if you choose'. I chose everything, from restaurants, to cinemas to days out and I eventually came to the conclusion that my sub didn't have a mind of his own and without a mind I couldn't have a fulfilled relationship with him.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 12:53:30 PM   
MercTech


Posts: 3706
Joined: 7/4/2006
Status: offline 		My girl keeps coming to me for color choices in paint...
Me: blue
She comes up with paint swatches for 32 different shades of blue.
Me: blue like the sky sound good
She gets frustrated and stomps off to buy paint

I told her at the beginning she had a better eye for color than I do and to make the specific decisions within the decorating concept... in this case, make the living room look more open with sky blues and cloud faux finish on the ceiling.

Stefan

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 4:26:14 PM   
pwnerandpwned


Posts: 83
Joined: 4/13/2010
Status: offline 		I can't stand a girl who knowingly says/does something that will irritate/hurt/bother someone. Basically...someone who is ever unkind. Also: Bad teeth. Ick. :P

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RE: Turn offs - 11/7/2010 11:38:11 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline 		Smell.  It's not always that someone smells "bad", but they smell bad to me.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/8/2010 2:25:04 AM   
DMFParadox


Posts: 1405
Joined: 9/11/2007
Status: offline 		If she hasn't encountered an aerobics session in the past 3 years, smokes like a chimney, eats Hamburger Helper more than once a week and has an overdeveloped sense of entitlement. Any of those things individually is enough to get a no from me; sadly, I see them all in the same person at the same time far too often.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/8/2010 3:05:04 AM   
mons


Posts: 2400
Joined: 11/16/2005
Status: offline 		Hello everyone

Major turn off for me is a liar  a liar is not to be trusted!  Jealous submissives, it is a normal emotion, but when I  mention jealously i mean hardline down to the tummy jelaously!  The ones who will send nudes pictures of themselves  to me lol with other peopel and lol things!!!!!!!!

mons

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RE: Turn offs - 11/8/2010 4:42:26 AM   
BonesFromAsh


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Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: pwnerandpwned

Also: Bad teeth. Ick. :P


I knew it was my bad teeth that kept me from true submission.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/8/2010 5:16:06 AM   
fredllfixit


Posts: 13
Joined: 9/3/2009
Status: offline 		Turn-offs for me are:--

1) Failure to do what has been said by them.
2) Failure to do it when it has been said, without reasonable excuse in both cases.
3) Stealing money from me. This has been a relationship-killer.
4) Getting fat and lazy.
5) Playing all those silly (and obvious) mind games.
6) And this is the tragic and shallow one...assuming a good decision can be made about a potential partner after only one meeting.
7) Finally, the prospective partner who is only concerned with what he/she wants, and not one iota of concern for what you want. This is a relationship killer before it even starts.

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RE: Turn offs - 11/8/2010 5:30:17 AM   
fellowtraveler


Posts: 26
Joined: 3/11/2009
Status: offline 		Items 3 and below are negotiable, 1 & 2 are immediate cabfare home:

1: Stupid. Like the comedian says, "You just can't fix stupid"
2: Crazy. I am not talking here about a few minor neuroses or quirks, but if she has actual "labels" for her
particular brand of goofiness, its a sinking ship.
3: Mean-spiritedness. Makes me lose all respect. However, it is usually a matter of bad upbringing and can sometimes be changed.
4: Pettiness, selfishness, laziness. All are a problem, but can sometimes be fixed
5: Anyone who is proud of being fat, ignorant or uneducated. I am not saying that being fat or uneducated is a deal-breaker, as
long as she wants to change and is willing to go through the effort.

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