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Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 9:13:04 AM

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When your sub/slave touches your body intimately, without permission from you?.

For example, when you are lying with her and she decides to rub your leg or back, or your crotch. Do you like that?.

i ask because i'm curious about this..

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 9:19:01 AM

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Sure no problem at all with that... I'm not one for "protocol 24/7", if my partner wants to give me a spontaneous caress, cuddle, snog then that's fine by me.

Now, if she'd been told to stand in the corner... that would be a different thing altogether.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 9:23:44 AM

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I am expected to.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 9:37:16 AM

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It depends on the role of the slave. If it is a sexual, romantic partner, its allowed mostly because We like Our partner to do it. If the slave isn't a romantic partner, then intimate sexual touching isn't usually allowed.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 9:48:00 AM

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Depends on the slave and their role, my female slave it is encouraged, for a potential male one we are seeking it is not their role and they would be immediately punished.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 10:02:31 AM

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Some do, some don't.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 10:04:16 AM

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Some do, some don't.

Easy enough to find out: ask.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 10:59:24 AM

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I like it. If I am not feeling sexual I may not appreciate a touch to my crotch or other trigger spots, but a caress to my hair or scalp (depending on if I'm freshly shaved) or to my leg or arm is always welcome.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 11:12:29 AM

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When your sub/slave touches your body intimately, without permission from you?.

For example, when you are lying with her and she decides to rub your leg or back, or your crotch. Do you like that?.

i ask because i'm curious about this..

As noted this will depend on the exact nature of the relationship. If I simply had a sub then yes, I would appreciate it. If it's a M/s...? Well, that's something else entirely but would still depend on the exact nuances of the roles that relationship is based on. If it's a strict M/s relationship, I would expect the slave to ask my permission before doing anything that was not an already defined/expected task. If it was more lax, then I would expect it to fall under the overall service to their Master and it would be perfectly allowable.

The devil is in the details as they say.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 4:49:56 PM

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 5:35:04 PM

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depends on his mood. Most times he encourages me touching him. Other times he'll let me know it's off limits.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 6:08:54 PM

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Assuming he isn't cheering for his favorite team or working, then yes. Obviously exceptions apply. We love each other and we are very touchy feely. If you need touch and picked a partner who dislikes it, then the problem lies with you not learning this early on.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 7:08:59 PM

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We don't have a formal dynamic in place for touching but I generally kind of wait to see that he's receptive to the idea and if so then I touch him. I kind of wait for him to go there first and then follow his lead.

I got in trouble once, I'd had a bad accident a few weeks prior and was touching him, trying to get some action - he felt that intimacy wasn't a good thing to do yet because he was worried about hurting me. I kept it up until he told me firmly to knock it off and we'd resume that type of thing when I healed some more.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/8/2010 7:55:16 PM

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Usually... when I touch Master without his prior permission, it turns into a fight over when my hands get to STOP touching him... harhar.

Seriously though, it all depends on what you want and what the person you're with wants. If you want random caresses or to give random caresses, find a guy/girl who wants the same in their relationship.

If I couldn't touch Master when I wanted to, I'd be driven mad. I'm a VERY touchy feely person. Fortunately for me he's just as much of a lover of caresses as I am, so it works out quite nicely for the both of us.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 12:18:07 AM

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When your sub/slave touches your body intimately, without permission from you?.

For example, when you are lying with her and she decides to rub your leg or back, or your crotch. Do you like that?.

i ask because i'm curious about this..

The rules are fairly simple....

Touching herself - she needs my permission to touch herself intimately/sexually.

Touching me - with notable exceptions (rules), she may otherwise touch me whenever she wants because that's what owning and trusting her entails. And frankly, I prefer a "touchy" submissive....

Exceptions:
1. No touching in public.
2. No touching when expressly forbidden to.
3. No touching if she has reason to feel I'm displeased with her.
4. No touching in an aggressive/dominant manner - with wriggle room for playfulness.
5. And to be thorough - no touching when she physically can't (bound, for eg) or when being actively dominated (unless so instructed).

And the good Dom bit is that I get to touch either of us whenever. Though I still wouldn't in public or if I was pissed at her.

Welcom to CM. :)

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 5:25:21 AM

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Care to clarify that no touching in public? Is that sexual touch or any touch? We hold hands in public. If it's icy I'm encouraged to grab his arm so I don't fall. Nonsexual but still touch.

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 11:06:10 AM

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Lol, basically I was answering the opening lines from the OP - "Masters, do you like it... When your sub/slave touches your body intimately". The general rules apply to those last two words. I won't deliberately touch her in such an intimate way as to attract negative attention from others and she's not to, either.

And yeah, reaching for my hand or arm or putting her hand on my thigh etc is all fine. Indeed, touching in a familiar way is still sweet and desirable etc no matter how old I get.... :)

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 11:33:22 AM

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good question...

at one point I was laying in bed with her and had always noticed she would never touch me...and looking wayyyyyyyy back it was the same way.

The solution was easy I just told her she could touch me anytime...for some reason she had been brought up with the idea women dont make the first *contact*

Well...it freed her up in a good way and there have been times I have thought I SHOULD never have told her that LOL

Round 3....

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 11:59:13 AM

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at one point I was laying in bed with her and had always noticed she would never touch me...and looking wayyyyyyyy back it was the same way.

Reminds me of a sub I once had who was so shy that no matter how much I reassured her, she couldn't bring herself to initiate intimate touch. Not even when lying naked in bed together.... Which actually frustrated me more for how it made my touching rules moot.

So there I was out in the shed glueing up a work of art out of 'O' ring cord, which piqued her curiosity. It's a cock ring with a shackle-hold, I said. Thinking I was going all male sub on her, she was almost in shock. I cracked up laughing and told her to relax.... Until further notice, we'll be sleeping with her wrist padlocked to my cock. Her face lit up with such a wondrous shade of bright blushing red - it was gorgeous...!

Sadly, her overt shyness frustrated me in too many other ways.... :(

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RE: Masters, do you like it... - 11/9/2010 2:59:58 PM

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she can do so if she is drawn to... if I am not in the mood then it is a simple matter to stop her.

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