BonesFromAsh
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I also, frankly, get the impression that a lot of you have known each other – either in person or at least on line – for a long time. It seems to be a very tight-knit community and many of the threads are filled with innuendo, inside jokes and flirtation. If I were to jump in, I’d feel like the person at the party who no one really knows and who appears to be butting in.
Thanks, everyone, for reading. Lockit, thanks for starting the discussion.
Spy
The off topic banter that honestly belongs in "polls and random stupidity" or in private email has gone off the charts on collarme and I've commented on it before. If you have a group of people and want an open discussion and to feel welcoming to outsiders, you generally don't let 'inside jokes' and one liners (that have absolutely nothing to do with the OP) become the dominant theme on threads. Most threads that last several pages are either flame fests or just a bunch of one liners built on a few posters sharing inside jokes or flirting with each other. I can almost guarantee you this is a major reason you don't get many new posters.
For those that are more shy / nervous, they feel like they are not part of the in crowd and would be interrupting. For those that are not shy, they feel the inside jokes and banter are juvenile and indicate a lack of maturity (inability to stay on point and offer anything of value to the discussion, other than demonstrate their "in crowd" status) and they don't think they would get anything of value by participating.
Akasha
Very good point...and one that has held me back from starting threads in the past, both in this forum and others. Now, I just post what I want to ask and try to keep the thread as close to topic as possible. Sometimes there'll be a drift, which I think is natural just like any conversation, but I do like to at least try and keep the thread somewhere in the general direction of the original post.
Now, in reply to Lockit's original question.....
As for past thread glories...yes, I remember some very good and insightful post made, but have you looked at what was in between the brilliance? There's always going to be "wanker" posts...at this point, I usually ignore them. There's always going to be dissidents...thank goodness! I think many times when the intelligent status quo buckers post (not the pissy trolls, mind you), it helps to make the rest of the regular folks affirm their positions and hopefully clarify them...hopefully.
What would I like to see here? Well, I'd just like to see more participation. That's not going to happen without new threads (maybe about old topics coming from a fresher perspective) being created. I'd like to see people NOT be so reactive to troll posts. It's okay to not post a sarcastic reply to obvious phishing. I know I'm guilty of this at times and it's a thing I'm not happy to admit. This is a goal I have for myself too.
I don't indentify as a domme 100% of the time, as I'm just too switchy for that, and I'm not in any sort of relationship, D/s or otherwise, at the moment, but I still like to read/post here regardless and I still long for the days of threads like THIS and THIS not to mention THIS one.
Yeah, they were interesting, sometimes silly and argumentative, but there was some damn good stuff being discussed.
Just my $0.02...FWIW.
< Message edited by BonesFromAsh -- 11/12/2010 5:40:19 PM >
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