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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/13/2010 1:12:58 PM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: dory007

agreed. no punishment, treat, gift will equal the motivation of love and being loved.





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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/13/2010 3:30:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Look OP, you're barely out of high school . Who was your favorite teacher? Why were you willing to buckle down and do the work to do well in his class yet being shot at dawn wouldn't have motivated you to do any work in someone else's class? I bet it wasn't about getting a gold star but instead about being treated as a person, someone taking an interest in you, and really believing in you. And for that, you did ten page papers when you were asked for five to seven pages. You did extra credit, you became interested in the subject because your teacher inspired you.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/13/2010 11:36:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I prefer a slap across the face and a boot pressing their head to the floor with love in my heart.



Yep the good girl gets me every time but what Icarys wrote as well can definitely remind me of exactly why I have chosen to submit to someone - yum


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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/13/2010 11:41:20 PM   
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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 9:29:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.


Tiffany's.

On a more serious note, what littlewonder said.  Be the man I fell in love with and can't help but to submit to.  Do that, and you've got whatever you want from me.

But Tiffany's would help, too. 


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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 2:56:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I personally don't need or want "stuff" as a motivator. I'm motivated by a desire/need to be pleasing. I'm motivated to submit and obey because he inspires that by being a good person, a responsible person. He knows that expecting me to do everything around the house would be unrealistic since I also work a full time job.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 4:14:02 PM   
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I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.


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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 4:24:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.


I prefer a slap across the face and a boot pressing their head to the floor with love in my heart.



To quote Annie Savoy: "Oh my."

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 4:27:13 PM   
Icarys


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Status: offline 		I know this is a reallllllllly crazy idea ....but what about being self-motivated. I know I know..It's so wild and out there of a concept and that it may just be totally out-dated in these times but hey..Just wanted to throw it out there.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 5:22:09 PM   
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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 6:07:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		My great motivator is to please my Sir.    Period>

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 6:30:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

"Good girl."


Yes to this and other varieties of just simple words expressing how pleased he is. Lots of different motivators, depending on what your and your subs bent is.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 8:33:11 PM   
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Hearing "Good girl" is a great motivator for me. Another great motivator is one-on-one time w/ Daddy, whether it's for cuddling or whatever. Good motivators for me are relationship-oriented, not materialistic. But then, I'm internally motivated to please Him anyway.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 9:07:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

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Hearing "Good girl" is a great motivator for me. Another great motivator is one-on-one time w/ Daddy, whether it's for cuddling or whatever. Good motivators for me are relationship-oriented, not materialistic. But then, I'm internally motivated to please Him anyway.

~sweetsub~


And that, to me, is what defines a sub.  I have a hard time thinking of any submissive as being motivated by material things instead of the partner's satisfaction.


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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 9:19:13 PM   
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I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.
I create a loving, nurturing environment. At that point, I need really do nothing else. She herself doesn't want to do anything which would disrupt that environment.

Put differently, love & respect.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 10:09:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

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Hearing "Good girl" is a great motivator for me. Another great motivator is one-on-one time w/ Daddy, whether it's for cuddling or whatever. Good motivators for me are relationship-oriented, not materialistic. But then, I'm internally motivated to please Him anyway.

~sweetsub~


And that, to me, is what defines a sub.  I have a hard time thinking of any submissive as being motivated by material things instead of the partner's satisfaction.


Thank You. HUGS

~sweetsub~

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/14/2010 10:16:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Motivation has been both one of the greatest things, and yet one of the most frustrating things in past relationships.

The most powerful moments in my memory are the moments where my life-actions and choices were driven by my Dominant. Not directly always, but often out of love: knowing She would not wish me to buy a bag of chips for example, or knowing She would be pleased that I picked up my apartment. It was a motivation borne out of love, out of knowing, with irrevocable certainty, that She loved me and cared for me... and what choices I made mattered to her.

Yet, in another relationship, a lack of motivation was strong for the same reasons. A lack of intimacy, of touch, the things that reassure me in emotionally knowing that I am Hers... without those things the relationship was... difficult. It was hard to drive myself to serve Her and do things She would want since I didn't know she would really give a damn. Lack of communication, and more importantly a lack of communicable intimacy, really hurt the relationship. It drove me to apathy, and that apathy drove Her away.

I hope that makes sense?

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/18/2010 7:30:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		The phrases "good boy", "Im proud of you" and "I love you" are the best motivators for me

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/18/2010 7:39:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Tiffany's.

On a more serious note, what littlewonder said.  Be the man I fell in love with and can't help but to submit to.  Do that, and you've got whatever you want from me.

But Tiffany's would help, too. 



Great minds Gorgeous! I think that store has ruined us both.

Namaste,

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/18/2010 8:34:10 PM   
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