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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 9:42:28 AM

littleone35

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Just keep being the wonderful man i fell in love with. The words I love you are also good.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 12:07:10 PM

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"Good girl."

Yep, what he said!

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 8:33:03 PM

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physical contact. A caress, a kiss, a stroke of her hand.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 8:57:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

"Good girl."

i would have to say those are two of the most powerful words i've ever heard. The feeling i get is worth doing what he asks of me and pleasing him.

You know that feeling when you snuggle up with your Master and you feel like everything is perfect, you feel completely safe and at peace? That's my motivator.

However, i don't think that if two people are suited for one another that any motivators are necessary. The connection, respect, trust, fondness, love etc. that they have for each other is enough. If i'm with someone and i'm thinking "If i do this, what's in it for me?" i'm not with the right person. i should do it because i adore him and want to please him, not because i want him to buy me a present or take me out to dinner afterwards.

i want to be able to say: "It was a challenge, but i really enjoyed doing "X" for you. It was an opportunity for growth and i appreciate that."

Instead of: "Okay, i did "X" now, what're you gonna buy/do for me?"

But then, to each their own.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 9:01:03 PM

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"Thank you little one"

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/19/2010 11:13:00 PM

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Has anyone mentioned chocolate?

In no partiuclar order:

Chocolate
Praise
Discipline
Chocolate
Internal angst
Sex
Chocolate
Smiles
Petting
Hugs
Chocolate
Kisses
Orgasms

etc...

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/20/2010 6:58:06 PM

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Positive reinforcement praises.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/20/2010 9:25:32 PM

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carrots > sticks

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/21/2010 12:39:35 PM

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What do you find is a great motivator that a Dominant can use?

Self-restraint.
Self-respect.
Self-knowledge.
Self-discipline.

Control the man inside yourself, and women will want you to control them, too.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/21/2010 2:51:05 PM

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Hearing "Good girl" is a great motivator for me. Another great motivator is one-on-one time w/ Daddy, whether it's for cuddling or whatever. Good motivators for me are relationship-oriented, not materialistic. But then, I'm internally motivated to please Him anyway.

And that, to me, is what defines a sub. I have a hard time thinking of any submissive as being motivated by material things instead of the partner's satisfaction.

Yeah, if he took me shopping to motivate me, I would look at him as if he'd lost his mind. "Good girl" is perfect motivation, and every other little thing that lets me know that he's happy with me. In certain other circumstances, a little fear can be a good motivator, but showing me that I'm loved and safe and controlled is by far the best motivation.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/21/2010 7:08:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.

Greetings Samhain09,

I've found the biggest motivator for me has little to do with their character or special things the individual says and does. His presence sets the tone and has the power to take me high or bring me crashing to my knees. It has an affect that's cathartic on one level and a dark energy who's sensuality feeds my wantonness and makes me woefully lascivious. Knowing what I am and treating me as such is what gets me. All the other demonstrations are merely icing on the cake.

Namaste,

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/23/2010 2:46:09 PM

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Take her out someplace nice, perhaps a gallery opening or live theater. Remind her of her place. A little black dress, a little too short. A velvet choker. Spike-heeled ankle boots. Cute, but edgy.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/23/2010 8:46:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

carrots > sticks

Hmm... I suck at math, but I have to try this:

carrots > sticks except if carrots = sticks?

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ORIGINAL: Porcelaine

a dark energy who's sensuality feeds my wantonness and makes me woefully lascivious.

That's a ... remarkably "crisp" carrot. (fans self) :p

But to me, nothing beats the "awakening effect" of the shaft of a long, hard stick, perhaps dripping a bit of my blood from its tip.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/24/2010 7:55:26 PM

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You hit the nail right on the head! Simple statements like "good girl" or "good boy" can really go far in moitvating a sub/slave to do his/her best for their Master/Mistress. I know previously there was nothing more exhiliarating than to hear words like spoken to praise My efforts.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 12:42:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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What do you find is a great motivator that a Dominant can use?

Self-restraint.
Self-respect.
Self-knowledge.
Self-discipline.

Control the man inside yourself, and women will want you to control them, too.

You said it.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 4:37:30 AM

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How can it be that no one has mentioned cattle prods yet?

Sigh. Softies.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 7:04:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Has anyone mentioned chocolate?

In no partiuclar order:

Chocolate
Praise
Discipline
Chocolate
Internal angst
Sex
Chocolate
Smiles
Petting
Hugs
Chocolate
Kisses
Orgasms

etc...

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I agree with the chocolate. More importantly, particularly if it is a surprise. A sub told to kneel, naked, with her mouse open and boon chocolate reward!

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 9:06:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

How can it be that no one has mentioned soft comfy floggers yet?

Sigh. Softies.

Well, truth be told, it's actually a conspiracy between all submissives and slaves to reprogram the dominant mind into believing that nothing like a soft comfy flogger exists, has ever existed, or will ever exist, even in one's imagination, by never, ever mentioning the topic in public. But since you did mention the subject, then by all means, bring out the scary, terrible soft comfy floggers. They are great motivators...and we will learn great things from them!

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 9:16:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

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ORIGINAL: Kana

How can it be that no one has mentioned soft comfy floggers yet?

Sigh. Softies.

Well, truth be told, it's actually a conspiracy between all submissives and slaves to reprogram the dominant mind into believing that nothing like a soft comfy flogger exists, has ever existed, or will ever exist, even in one's imagination, by never, ever mentioning the topic in public. But since you did mention the subject, then by all means, bring out the scary, terrible soft comfy floggers. They are great motivators...and we will learn great things from them!

*Laughs*
All floggers, by definition, are soft and comfy.
Now a cane, that'll do some real eye-opening.

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RE: What do you find is a great motivator that a Domina... - 11/25/2010 9:45:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I personally think it can range from taking the sub shopping to sex to favorite food.

Greetings Samhain09,

I've found the biggest motivator for me has little to do with their character or special things the individual says and does. His presence sets the tone and has the power to take me high or bring me crashing to my knees. It has an affect that's cathartic on one level and a dark energy who's sensuality feeds my wantonness and makes me woefully lascivious. Knowing what I am and treating me as such is what gets me. All the other demonstrations are merely icing on the cake.

Namaste,

~porcelaine

What she said. I was going to say being in love is all the motivation I need and being with someone who actually "gets" me, which is how one can achieve what porcelaine said above.

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