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MystressDream -> RE: A "hint" for Doms looking for subs... (12/9/2007 9:55:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea
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ORIGINAL: MystressDream
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ORIGINAL: heartcream
When a guy contacts me and asks me to tell him more about myself because he wants to 'get to know me', it makes me groan. My journal is jam packed with stuff about me and I really dont feel like repeating myself for some lone random stranger. He can join in with the other random strangers and read it in my journal if he wants to.
Well... this is a different twist. If you get disgusted with a man for asking you to tell him more about you because he would like to get to know you, then what is it he could say that you would respond to?
Most I see on here are looking for exactly what seems to annoy you. Someone who expresses an interest up front about getting to know them better instead of just demanding "submission".
So please tell me.... what would an initial email to you have to consist of to be considered polite and worth responding to?
Honestly, i totally understand what she's saying. No disrespect intended to you, MD, but did you view her profile? She's got PAGES of information should anyone *truly* want to know something about her. mine is not quite as extensive, but i get the same line all the time: "Tell me something about you..." And by the way, this usually comes from someone with absolutely ZERO on their profile. Why don't they just ask a few *specific* questions if they *really* want to know something? That way, i can tell within seconds whether they bothered to read my profile or journal, at all.
I read profiles of those who contact me. However, I will still ask them about themselves if I am interested in pursuing any possibilities with them. Now, I am being told that is also rude??? How in the hell do you propose someone start a conversation? Read a book about the person and start debating or discussing things there? Well, you know what? If I approach a sub or slave with a friendly greeting, and I get slammed for asking the wrong questions in that greeting, then to hell with them. It doesn't much matter. Most who will engage in conversation just flake out without a word anyway. Am I rather negative about online contacts? Yes, I am. I know there are many on these boards who have established beautiful relationships that started on here, and I am very happy for them. But, the vast majority whine about not finding that special "One", as they proceed to build more and more barriers towards that "One" from even starting a dialog with them.
I don't know. I guess I just give up on figuring out what people on here want or how they want it, or how it should be said, or how it shouldn't be said, or exactly what words to use to not bring down the wrath of the almighty flamers, or how to show respect, or how to show interest, or how to express and opinion without people taking it as a personal attack, or how to believe anything anyone says in emails, or anything else for that matter. If I have to work that hard just to start an email exchange, then I shudder to think how complicated carrying on a conversation in person would be.
Even as a Female Dominant... (and, of course everyone knows we have to beat the high quality subs/slaves away from our door with baseball bats) I give up on how to establish any kind of relationship on here. Too many conflicting principals. Too many mixed messages. Too many game players. Too many whining about not meeting someone.... yet so deceptive and/or disrespectful that I don't understand how they can expect anything good to come out of this.
I will continue to look at the MB just for kicks, and because occasionally there is an interesting thread to read. But, I give up on the other side of this site, and on trying to understand where some submissive/slaves are coming from.
Before the flame war commences, there ARE some really intelligent, mature and knowledgeable people on here... in all age groups and genders.
::: climbing off my soapbox and sitting back to watch the flaming begin :::
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