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FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 1:22:26 AM)
Back to on-topic: One of the things that I occasionally see, in different forms is what I call the "don't write me because I'm beautiful ploy" Usually, it is a women with 20 pictures in her profile, with poses both lascivious and salacious and revealing clothing. But it doesn't have to involve photos. I wrote this in my journal just a couple of days ago: No names or nicks, but I've seen something similar on a fair number of women's profiles, and this morning I found one that just hit me as funny - in a sad unself-aware way that this woman see things. I'll disguise the words enough so that if she ever sees this, she won't even know it's her's: Written profile: I've not posted a picture because it seems like men can only relate to a woman through their physical characteristics - they forget that I'm more than just an attractive woman. [skipping down to the last paragraph] So I made up in my mind the type of Dom I want. He sees me as the beautiful woman that I am, my soft skin, rosy cheeks, and firm body .... I didn't know if I should laugh at her, or cry for her. FHky edited for syntax and format.

FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 1:30:41 AM)
Ok, here's another one that I have seen on more than one occasion that gets my attention for about 10 seconds. I call this one the "Seeking Mind Readers" ad. It's always a short profile, and few if anything in the "Interests" section. There is usually at least one sentence (of no more than three total) that says something on the order of: The ONE that I seek will know what I am and what I seek. I never knew that Kreskin was into the lifestyle. FHky

Wulfchyld -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:05:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY Back to on-topic: One of the things that I occasionally see, in different forms is what I call the "don't write me because I'm beautiful ploy" Usually, it is a women with 20 pictures in her profile, with poses both lascivious and salacious and revealing clothing. But it doesn't have to involve photos. I wrote this in my journal just a couple of days ago: No names or nicks, but I've seen something similar on a fair number of women's profiles, and this morning I found one that just hit me as funny - in a sad unself-aware way that this woman see things. I'll disguise the words enough so that if she ever sees this, she won't even know it's her's: Written profile: I've not posted a picture because it seems like men can only relate to a woman through their physical characteristics - they forget that I'm more than just an attractive woman. [skipping down to the last paragraph] So I made up in my mind the type of Dom I want. He sees me as the beautiful woman that I am, my soft skin, rosy cheeks, and firm body .... I didn't know if I should laugh at her, or cry for her. FHky edited for syntax and format. LMAO! You cry I’ll laugh. Why, oh why cant we just love them for their minds? Smiling mischievously Loki

FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:44:29 AM)
oh ... I wished I'd found this thread earlier, cause I have loads of 'em. Some of them that come to mind: 1. The "missing weight" ploy. 2. The "large ample breast" ploy. 3. The "I'll update my profile soon" subs. 4. The "artistic but unreadable" profile. 5. The "ey waunt ohly in-telgent mans" profile. 6. The "2 month" rule. 7. Lazy and/or inattentive sub profiles. 8. The "he will come" sub (closely related to the Mind Readers). Of course, since I'm a straight male dominant, these all apply to female submissives, but I've got to say, based on a survey of male dom profiles, female subs are way ahead of the guys in writing quality profiles. FHky

FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:55:32 AM)
Ok, let me explain the "2 month rule" Rather, let me give a suggestion (hint) to a female sub who wants to find a "real" dominant man. Put your profile up, with no comments, few (if any) interests, no journal entries, etc. Make it about as bland and useless as you can, except be SURE it lists you as a "female submissive". Wait two months. Open your email for the first time. Delete all emails. Note any that have emailed you at least twice, and block the profiles of the "doms" that did so. Consider blocking any of the "doms" who wrote you even once. Fill out profile, and NOW start looking. Just a suggestion. FHky

FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 3:54:18 AM)
Instant death in the sub sweepstakes: Lives for: Shopping. FHky

LaTigresse -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 5:16:33 AM)
Wonder what that says for a Domina that hates shopping..........

concretesub -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 6:14:59 AM)
Perhaps we should be thankful that Doms and subs so blatantly reveal themselves as unrealistic and/or stupid. This will keep us making mistakes with those that are at least good liars.

Reasonable -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 8:55:59 AM)
The ones that amuse me are the contradictory sorts "I want TOTAL tpe (but it has to be entirely on my terms, and those are,goes on for three pages) "I'm a pain slut-but if you hurt me,I'm calling the cops buddy!" "I'm totally worthless, a pig yadda yadda-but I'll only submit to a PERFECT Master."

orfunboi -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 9:00:18 AM)
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MasterRenegade77 -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 1:41:51 PM)
ROTKLMFKAO Thinks I should cut & paste that Litany to My Profile... Oh Hell no I don't get any responses as it is!!! ^5s ya WS

CERCKL -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 1:47:24 PM)
quote: ROTKLMFKAO Thinks I should cut & paste that Litany to My Profile... Oh Hell no I don't get any responses as it is!!! That's how I know I've done my profile well...I never get unsolicited emails. Almost all who email me are those I have met and sometimes been sarcastic with on the boards....hmmmm, boards.... C

MasterRenegade77 -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 1:54:40 PM)
^5s

FirmhandKY -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:29:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Wonder what that says for a Domina that hates shopping.......... That you have your subs do your shopping for you? FHky

knotnilla -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:44:11 PM)
WAIT WAIT WAIT! There are subs that actually put their weight on their profile? Seriously? RED! HARD LIMIT! You can't even beat that information out of me. I will however send a pic so you can please guess my weight in your spare time...

darq -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:45:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Don't tell me how you're a service slave and have a pic of yourself in fetish wear, naked or trying to look sexy. Service isn't about how you look while doing it so much as it's about how well you do it. Now I'm tempted to have someone take a pic of me in my ratty sweatpants that are two sizes too big for me, my Walt Disney t shirt with the bleach stains and the holes near the bottom hem, my hair uncombed and just kinda crammed up into a haphazard pony tail, maybe add a bandana for effect, with no make up and bleary eyes from lack of sleep while I scrub a toilet. Gawd. Its possible to be service oriented and to be aware of your looks ... at the same time. Shocking but true.

darq -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 2:53:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY oh ... I wished I'd found this thread earlier, cause I have loads of 'em. Some of them that come to mind: 1. The "missing weight" ploy. I don't post my weight .. Simply because I dont actually know. It doesn't really matter to me ... So why should it matter to anyone else? 2. The "large ample breast" ploy. *But ... I do have ... Large ample breasts.* 3. The "I'll update my profile soon" subs. Omg I update mine like several times a week ... lol 4. The "artistic but unreadable" profile. N/A 5. The "ey waunt ohly in-telgent mans" profile. N/A 6. The "2 month" rule. *Not sure what that is ...* 7. Lazy and/or inattentive sub profiles. *Do they actually come right out and admit to being lazy?* 8. The "he will come" sub (closely related to the Mind Readers). **Oh oh! I've had this profile before! I hate* searching ... lol ... I also hate approaching Doms I don't know because I never know what to say. So yeah, I let them approach me ...*** Of course, since I'm a straight male dominant, these all apply to female submissives, but I've got to say, based on a survey of male dom profiles, female subs are way ahead of the guys in writing quality profiles. FHky I just had to comment ... Couldn't help myself. :)

knotnilla -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 3:14:06 PM)
Okay. I just read this whole thread. I don't understand the position that subs can't have a list of expectations in their profile. If I am not interested in submitting to say, married men, or switches, if I don't want a Dom who lives for electrical play... then, shouldn't we get all of that right out on the table? D/s relationships share some basic fundamentals with vanilla relationships. Compatability is important. One would hope that Doms would want to be in a relationship with their sub in which both people's core needs are met and both people are content. I don't get the attitude of "just do it if I order you too whether you like it or not" before a relationship is established based on common desired outcomes. And most Doms ask about past relationships, and experience as well as how the relationships ended. I don't lead with that info in my profile, but I do tend to answer questions honestly when I am in an intial getting to know you phase with a Dom. Oh and if you can't deal with a smartass, bitchy, whiney slave then I will require about four days in the cage each month. sorry in advance.

Chaingang -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 5:57:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: knotnilla D/s relationships share some basic fundamentals with vanilla relationships. Is that really the position you wish to take, "knotnilla"? Irony: Incongruity between what might be expected and what actually occurs. [8\|]

knotnilla -> RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for Doms... (4/29/2006 6:03:06 PM)
um yes? The basic building blocks of relationships are the same in both D/s and vanilla relationships...trust, communication, honesty, and shared desires. What part of that do you disagree with?

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