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Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:11:17 PM   
aloneslavedelhi


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How to decide whether a submissive/slave should go for a Mature Domme or Young Domme ?
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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:19:59 PM   
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Flip a coin?
What age limits do you set for yourself outside of this lifestyle?
I'd think that would be a good starting point...yes?

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:22:40 PM   
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Stupid question - with all the different characteristics that Dommes have, why did you pick age as the criterion to consider?

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:24:15 PM   
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I think it depends on what type of Humiliation you are into. For me, the Younger Dommes seem to demand Financial support and enjoy humiliating older people (Both of which I happen to find a major turn-on!). :)

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:24:24 PM   
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And the coin says Heads and then tails also.
This is a general question for each individual in the lifestyle should they choose someone who is Mature or someone who is Young, is age an issue ?

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 6:33:04 PM   
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which are you attracted to? Which one plays a part in your life?

Only you can answer that.

Now if you're just looking for a prodomme or someone to just to play with I don't think it matters at all.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 7:02:32 PM   
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If I was looking, I'd prolly look for a Dom in the 22-35 age range, just because that tends to be the age range that I am most attracted to. Age doesn't have anything to do with how the Dom will be like (after all, you might have a 22 year old more mature than a nasty 33 year old, or vise versa, and the 22 year old might have started at 19, while the 35 year old had only picked up a book yesterday, experience is relative).

Age doesn't play into whether a person is Dom enough or not, just whether you are attracted to that person or not. So just look at the people you're attracted to. =)

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/14/2010 7:36:48 PM   
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BTW OP-GREAT PIC! I wish it were me in your place! :)

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/15/2010 11:04:57 PM   
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This is sort of personal preference more than anything.

Do you like older women? Do you like younger women?

Typically for me..im a switch. But I when I look for a domme, typically I gravitate towards maturity which is typically a few years older than me. When I look for a sub, it is usually someone around the same age as me. Again, these are typical. I wouldnt automatically dismiss someone based on age alone if that is the right person in other areas. It's just where I tend to natually gravitate.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 4:38:17 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Footstool73

BTW OP-GREAT PIC! I wish it were me in your place! :)


In his place? Do you mean on cm advertising for a real mistress, because I am pretty sure you could do that too. Or perhaps you thought that was a pic of him and his mistress in which case you might wonder why he would start a thread inquiring about age and does the chick in the pic know he is confused. Or for that matter, does she know her pic is on cm?


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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 5:46:12 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: aloneslavedelhi

How to decide whether a submissive/slave should go for a Mature Domme or Young Domme ?


Since your profile says you're 26, I guess that limits it down a bit to what you call mature...

As others have said, it might make more sense to find one you are attracted to and who's attracted to you and then deal with the age question if it arises.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 8:35:41 AM   
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I've posted this before, but speaking of "oldies but goodies".


Dommes Over Forty, Fire On The Cake

You can get away from her much easier, even
whilst wearing chains, ankle and hand cuffs.

Slipping out of those granny knots rekindles fond
memories of childhood Houdini play.

During stomping, a one inch orthopedic heel 
causes far less damage than a six inch pump.

Trips to the drug store begin to out number
trips to the dungeon and whipping post.

Bengay and Tiger Balm become too precious
a commodity to waste on a man.

Clip on earrings cause much less damage than do
pierced when applied to a man's tender flesh.

Golden showers become golden moments, more
than a trickle, less than a splash, it "Depends".

Canes often come included, allowing for the
purchase of that premium leather lined walker.

A man can use her old lady panties as a white
flag of surrender when he finally gives up.

Her dresses will fit the average male in a much
more fashion forward way during Feminization.

Rocking chairs make for the greatest strap-on
aid, "Just squat boy, it'll do the rest".

No feminine napkins laying around the house
for a man to accidentally set the table with.

Safe words like Bingo and Yahtzee bring an
immediate celebration and an end to the pain.

Shaken not stirred refers to her martini preference,
not the state of her man's head.

BDSM is defined as Bedtime Does Sound Marvelous.

Branding becomes hot names like Wang and Dior
on her outfit labels.

She forgets to lock the cage, allowing for those
late night trips to the fridge.

Electric play is limited to finding the light
switch in the middle of the night.

Celebrating her birth everyday with candles
keeps those heating bills to a bare minimum.

AND......... ......... ......... ......... ......

She knows where she has been, where she 
is going, and exactly how to get there.

When she looks in the mirror, determination,
wisdom and experience smile back.

Each softly creased line tells a story of a battle
won, each a path of strength that overcame.

She has tasted of her desires and has perfected
the delectable recipe of her wishes.

Her hands move with grace and swiftness, exacting
their intentions on weakened flesh.

Within her heart exists the power of compassion,
expectation, clear and absolute rule.

Knowledge is her steady companion, the keen
awareness on a road of foolish souls.

Her patience is a sweet bouquet of roses, it's
thorns digging deep when limits are tested.

She has no place or time for hesitation, as it
wastes away at her precious days.

Her requirements are gifts to those whom find
genuine obedience in their purpose.

She can look deep into the eyes of another,
break the resistance and melt the resolve.

It is her right to demand loyalty, devotion
and surrender, she owns that which is hers.

She knows how to turn a man inside out, then
will command him to clean up the mess.

She doesn't own a toy box, she possesses
an arsenal of Weapons of Mass Domination.

She can tie a knot around a man's mind without
ever lifting a finger to tighten the rope.

Her life is not one of play, she lives each
moment in the truth of her Dominant heart.

chia* (the pet)



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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 12:53:52 PM   
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While We realize you used "mature" so as not to use "old", it has caused an interesting thing in the thread. There is an assumption that a mature person can't be young and that an older person is always mature.

At any rate, We suggest looking for someone who matches in other areas and let the age thing work itself out... unless the age of your Dominant is a fetish, at which point you should look for THAT age.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 4:27:19 PM   
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It depends on what you are looking for and what turns you on. Mature means more knowledge and experience (usually)

Young means a better body (again usually) LOL

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/16/2010 5:43:10 PM   
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It truly depends on the person. I know dommes pushing 50 who act like they're little kids and dommes in their 20's who have a strong grasp of reality, own a home, understand work-life balance, encourage support, have a realistic financial mindset etc.

I find that the stereotype of maturity and honing in on more meaningful relationships with age (as compared to fleeting moments of youthful glory) tends to hold true... But stereotypes were made to make anyone who relies on them look like an ass. >.>

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/17/2010 4:43:20 PM   
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Don't. Wait until you meet the right Mistress. Who knows what her age will be? WHo knows what her height or race or hair color or any other variable? All the flavors are good. Just depends on the individual.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/17/2010 11:01:25 PM   
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I think its best to think small and take small steps. (1) Get a date. (2) See how the date goes. (3) Learn about yourself and the other person. (4) See what happens.

You don't get to the top of the mountain looking at the peak or wondering which mountain to climb -- you get there by making many small decisions at the bottom of the climb and gambling that they will pay off in ways you cannot foresee or predict.

Its less about what is outside yourself, and more about what's inside you.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/17/2010 11:06:43 PM   
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quote:

While We realize you used "mature" so as not to use "old", it has caused an interesting thing in the thread. There is an assumption that a mature person can't be young and that an older person is always mature.


Good point. This post in right in the strike zone.

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/18/2010 2:55:01 PM   
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Aloneslavedelhi,

Age in of itself does not always mean someone has BDSM/Lifestyle/D/s/M/s mileage.  Many a 50 year olds come in as raw beginners and many people assume that a little gray hair means they have kink experience.  The opposite side of the measure, some young in age individuals may have many more years of kink experience but, lack life's maturities. 

My personal opinion is finding someone with the emotional, mental and physical maturity and find someone that your gut feeling feels comfortable in submitting to and or dominating someone.

I would want to match someone regardless how dominant they are, to their wisdom.  Certainly, lifestyle mileage varies as well as opportunities and exposure.  Dominants who are willing to learn, admit when they make a mistake, know how to lead as in leadership but doing so, that isn't domineering or one sided.  Both the Dominant and submissive needs to be fed spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically.  And, it has to be said that some relationships will not last due to the differences in growth levels. 

How someone moves on from a past relationship is just as important as being in one. 

Watch the prospective dominant in action/play/scenes and ask around the community.  I would avoid the clowns, cut-ups, the people who want the public's attention and approval.  The focus in the scene should be on you and or the person in that scene.  I cringe when I see young dominants looking around to see who is watching them as they strike someone...often times there is a miss hit and an injury.

I highly advise picking quality over quantity of toys, their fetish wear and how much they speak the knowledge.  Anybody can be well read on BDSM tactics and techniques.  Choose people who back up what they say with quality and variety of applications of the whip, floggers, canes, single-tails, etc.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Mature Domme Vs Younge Dommes - 11/18/2010 6:57:36 PM   
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In my life, I prefer someone my own age.  I can relate better.  That goes for my current age of 51, and went for me when I was 21, or 31, or 41.  The life experiences are the same, and the life goals are close to the same.  A more mature person will generally seek a more mature person, and the kids deserve to suffer with the kids.

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