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crystalclarinet -> What's with all these money hungry people? (11/15/2010 11:43:20 PM)

So as I normally take that look through profiles on the hope that maybe one day I might find one that appeals to my Dom and I... I begin to realize that more than half of the people on here are demanding money slaves... I mean maybe my perspective is different because I am an independent sub, but why on earth would a sub hand over their money to someone as willingly as these people expect you to... I mean someone better be married to me or at least seriously dating me before I'm shelling out more than dinner dates and Christmas gifts. Am I missing something? 



SpiritedRadiance -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/15/2010 11:45:19 PM)

The poor economy. 



browneyedbbwsub -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/16/2010 5:14:47 AM)

I was just going to say the same thing, blame the economy. We are all strapped...I guess Doms are too.



BonesFromAsh -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/16/2010 5:35:42 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crystalclarinet

Am I missing something? 


For some people, it's their kink. My opinion, though, is that for the vast majority it isn't.

Is it the economy? Nah, you're always going to have people looking for a quick fix and the easy way out. If it's a genuine kink for someone, cool...so long as they aren't taking money from their kid's college fund or something like that.

Me, personally...I'd be happy with a "Let me paint your kitchen-do some yard work-stack firewood-give you a deep tissue massage-fix you a nice meal" sort of slave, but I'm smart enough to know that comes with a price.

Reality/fantasy...which one wins in the end?



littlewonder -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/16/2010 3:24:24 PM)

imo if you have the balls to ask for it and someone has a kink/fetish to give it to you then so be it.




anniezz338 -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/17/2010 7:12:08 AM)

Maybe they are just hungry and need money to get something to eat :D



femdomlover72 -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/17/2010 3:30:06 PM)

i don't have a financial control fetish, but i have given my Mistress complete control of my finances. To me it is a way to offer complete submission to her, of course, i am a live in slave. I would only do this for someone I am closely attached to. I actually feel closer to her now that i have done it. A friend has told me that she is only taking advantage of me, but she makes at least 4 times what I make so I don't believe that. She has also spent considerable money on me.



FriendlyMuppet -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/17/2010 4:12:50 PM)

There are a lot on the boards, and for some reason they also contact people trying to somehow generate business. I don't mind the ones who advertise that that's what they do. I do get annoyed when someone writes me, interested in me, and then turns out to be someone just trying to drum up business for their financial slavery gig.

I suspect there really aren't that many submissives who are into it, but there are a lot of people out there who hope to rope one in to pay for whatever it is they want paid for. And then there are a lot of submissives to pretend to be wanting that because they suspect that if they hang in long enough, they might actually get a free session out of it. The back and forth of trying to cheat each other really seems tiring to me, but I guess there are people who are into that sort of thing.

Finding someone solid who is just interested in you as a person and a submissive is a bit harder. Not impossible, but harder, mainly because you have to filter through all of the dreck to find what you're really seeking. I have hopes that it's still findable these days and enough optimism to believe it's worthy of seeking out.



txurinal -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/20/2010 10:00:21 AM)

When i was a live in owned slave such as femdomlover72 my MASTERS had control of my finances and when we parted ways, thanks to THEIR management, i left financially better off than when i arrived. Not saying this is the norm as i only speak from personal experience. Again, i was living with THEM and not writing checks to a faceless person on the interet



servant4aDomme -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/21/2010 5:51:19 PM)

They are whores and they are losers. Nothing more and nothing less.

This has nothing to do with the state of the economy or some variant of "D/s play".......a whore will always be a whore (whether they be male whores or female whores).

How pathetic it must be to have to become a "financial domme" to support oneself..................I think applying oneself in school to become a CPA or some other type of endevor would have been a more dignifed way to live...........but then again that would have required some effort.

Financial Dommes can be fitted into two basic catagories:

Catagory #1 The Young Bimbo Financial Domme: she is about 20 years old, she dropped out of High School and has a kid (the guy is long gone - but she really thought his bad boy / abusive attitude was hot at the time), she is in the early stages of a drug or alcohol problem, she has a lot of experience as a stripper with some hooking on the side, she becomes a "Financial Domme" since it does not require her to take her clothes off or risk getting yet another STD. Her knowlege and backgroud of the D/s lifestyle and calculus are equivalent.

Catagory #2 The Old Battle Axe Financial Domme: 40++ years old, one or two broken marriages from abusive men in her wake, she is in recovery from a past drug or alcohol problem, she is living in an apartment with no hope of ever owning a home, she has no health insurance, she is morbidly obese..........she steals the photo of the "Young Bimbo Domme" and goes for the financial domme angle since she cannot stomach yet another live session with a married man who wants to pretend he is a slave for an hour. She knows something of the D/s lifestyle from years "in the life" but she still knows nothing of calculus.


I'll passed on both and used the money to buy a new 2010 Porsche 911S..........its spectacular.



crystalclarinet -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/22/2010 10:32:20 PM)

I guess my thought on it was this. I am here to meet people talk and make friends learn, grow, and share, I find it very hard to do when the majority of people in my area are simply looking for money. I love bdsm and all the places one can go with it. I wish I had more people to discuss my relationship with because the connection that I have with my Dom/boyfriend is deeper than any of my vanilla friends could ever comprehend... oh yeah and when discussing with them the fact that we might get a house pet one day... it just kind of escapes them. I guess I just let out my frustration on the issue and in addition to that... I was kind of curious if those people acutally had a fetish for it or they were just what they appear to be money hungry individuals. 



GreedyTop -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/23/2010 12:10:04 AM)

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I was kind of curious if those people acutally had a fetish for it or they were just what they appear to be money hungry individuals. 



There are both.



brizzz -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/25/2010 11:19:01 PM)

@ CrystalClarinet: I understand where you're coming from. I has a master who is a lifestyle master in Sydney, Australia and in our 1st phone conversation he said to me 'you will give me your assets'.  Now, I found out that this master needs his slaves assets so that's why he wants them. I guess it's security in old age - although he is fairly old - 53 or so!





Kana -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/26/2010 12:27:33 AM)

I don't know about anything else, but I would never take money from a slave. Not for any great big ethical reasons, but for a much more important one-There's an old saying about he who has the cash makes the rules. She's dependent on me, not the other way around.
Toss money in and I think, for me, that it completely alters the power dynamic.
Take someones money and you take the strings that come with it...and there is always a string-it just might not be visible to either party at the moment.




Atropos19 -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/29/2010 9:07:09 PM)

I more or less agree with servant's assessment, at least as far as the younger girls are concerned.

Without naming names or getting too far into specifics, there's a girl on here from my local area (20's, former stripper w/ a kid and no hubby, etc.) who claims to be a Domme in search of slaves, but what she's really looking for are losers willing to pay for her rent, groceries, manni/petti, and so on for the minuscule hope of maybe, possibly, some day having the opportunity to f*** her.  I was taken in by her myself for a while, and all I was hoping for was the chance to maybe get a free domme session out of her, or even just take her shopping and watch her try on some sexy clothes.  I wasn't being ambitious.

Long story short... if your experience is like mine, you'll find that girls like this know very little about the lifestyle/scene, and are not interested in learning, either.  This girl would promise me the moon in order to get me to do something for her (whether giving her a ride somewhere, paying for a manicure, whatever), and not a single bit of it EVER materialized.  I was promised a private striptease at her apartment.  Never happened.  She said I could go out to a club with her and some of her friends.  NEVER HAPPENED.  Whenever it came time for her to deliver on her end of the bargain in any way, shape, or form, she always had some excuse why she couldn't.  And some other errand she needed me to run, of course.

Now I know she's the Domme and she's supposed to be in charge, but come on.  There needs to be *some* kind of give and take in a situation like this, and with these girls, there's just not.  They will constantly demand your time and money and never give you anything in return.  So buyer beware.  :)



pyroaquatic -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (11/30/2010 9:55:35 PM)

Honestly?

I have nothing to give because I have given it all away. I've been tossed out because my pockets turned up lint.

What really gets me are those individuals who become enraged once they figure out I have nothing.

"YOU BROKE PIECE OF SHIT GO AWAY" Ironically it is their attitude on ATM slaves that have placed me where I am.

I don't care any more though. Money is nothing for I feel rather valuable on my own.

The few material possessions I 'own' are a razor blade, needle, cloth, thread and a bowl. And a computer and a stuffed frog.

I am still standing outside of the gates of the temple because of the computer and the frog.

wow.

i really hate money. i let it go to bills and food. i am glad to give it away (TO THE RIGHT PERSON).

Kink, whatever. don't try to force it on me. or deceive me for it.

Ignore them. They are not worth your time.

:D



Elisabella -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (12/1/2010 12:01:19 AM)

-FR-

I think it's hot. Not as much "give and take" as a pro Domme, where the sub is buying the Domme's time, but there's something really hot about telling a guy "No, you're not buying my time, you're giving me money because I'm better than you and we both know it."

Totally hot mental domination IMO. Definitely sets the 'status' of the Domme far over the sub.



Awareness -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (12/1/2010 12:28:14 AM)

  Financial dommes are whores.  They're basically exchanging an interpersonal experience for money.

The men who fall for this are weak insipid types with no self-respect.  I know female slaves who aren't this mindbogglingly stupid - and so the question becomes whether you feel there's something intrinsically immoral about exploiting the weak.

In other words, what your sense of personal ethics is like.  I find it ironic that female slaves and subs want to discuss chivalry in one breath, while remaining silent upon the topic of how their fellow submissives who happen to be men are exploited like pathetic chattel.



Elisabella -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (12/1/2010 12:42:33 AM)

I'm not sure if that was a FR or a reply to me, but I will just say I find it hilarious that you have an issue with slaves being "exploited like chattel."

Consensual is consensual. Really if I had the choice between giving someone $200 or being kicked in the genitals or hung from fish hooks, I'd hand over the cash quick style. But I get that some people might be into that. So long as it's an upfront money-slave type thing and not a lie or a scam, where's the exploitation?



GreedyTop -> RE: What's with all these money hungry people? (12/1/2010 12:51:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Elisabella

I'm not sure if that was a FR or a reply to me, but I will just say I find it hilarious that you have an issue with slaves being "exploited like chattel."

Consensual is consensual. Really if I had the choice between giving someone $200 or being kicked in the genitals or hung from fish hooks, I'd hand over the cash quick style. But I get that some people might be into that. So long as it's an upfront money-slave type thing and not a lie or a scam, where's the exploitation?


This.  While it is not my thing, I won't judge those that it works for.



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