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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/17/2010 5:56:08 AM

LadyConstanze

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I tend to be very polite

Indeed you do, Lady C - and I've noted the dates on which that's happened should anyone require confirmation of it.

You so are asking for it, you know I got your address somewhere, I might sell it to some ladies over the pond...

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/17/2010 4:20:11 PM

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My wife is very polite to me when she wants me to do things. Thats just how she is, she always says please and thank you. Would i like her to have a more "aggressive" demeanor? YES! But its not about what I want, its about what makes her comfortable and what she is ok with.

So its pretty much "thank you" when I bring her supper and "please" get me a napkin. Every once in a while she will put on a demanding tone as a little treat for me. And im completely happy with that.

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/17/2010 4:42:08 PM

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You can be firm but still polite, I always think I should not have to raise my voice, rather they should have to concentrate on hearing what I say.

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/18/2010 6:24:32 PM

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I spent 9 years in the military and god knows it comes in handy whe
n dealing with slaves and being more aggressiv e. It also depends upon the
Dynamics of the relationship you are in.

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/19/2010 10:40:19 AM

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Use I sentences. "I need you to do this now". "I want you to have this done by 4:00". I'm wondering if the problem isn't in the please and thank you but that there's no sense of time urgency. Because some things are fine if they're done tomorrow and some things need to be done immediately. Are you making that clear?

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/19/2010 2:28:47 PM

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Mmmistress,

I really do enjoy military discipline. Marines are most obedient sorts thus far however, not all slaves/submissives/servants have served in the military, para-military and or in the service orientated business.

I have the attitude, that when I am addressing a slave/servant/submissive - it is an order/command/request. This is the way the upper levels of command in the military, and they don't 'bark' orders like a drill sergeant. Most of that 'barking' has to do with voice projection so all hear and until these raw recruits become sensitive to the manual of arms, command/leadership ques--the 'drill sergeant' will be like 'white on rice' for anybody that screws up and causes problems in the smooth transitions from the sergeant. Too many lives depend on being obedient.

That said, the famous "The Look," can be a non-verbal means of being dead serious and don't get me annoyed. The parents usually use this look as to scare their kids straight in the 1950's.

How I use the slave's name is also a means to communicate my stage of domination. If I use his christian name it will be in public settings however if I use his first and middle name, beware. Mr. Doe is--you crossed the line. In private this can work as well. If all is well, I use my slave's pet name. The use of name can give the slave a 'heads up' on what level of tolerance you have for obedience.

Main thing is be consistant. Stick with your protocols. A Dominant has to be as consistant as their slave is expected to be, as the guidence, conduct and execution of commands/requests demands us (in a general sense) to not waiver until a change has been made, understood --long before the new changes become the new protocol. Making rules as you go drives slaves crazy as much as it drive me crazy.

Knowing expectations as well as consequences.

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RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using ... - 11/21/2010 3:05:51 PM

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This topic could have been posted by My beloved cadillacsub.

He has recently been sacrificing almost ALL of his non working hours here at My home building, repairing, fixing, creating, organizing and in general busting his balls for Me.

I am not in the habit of asking any man to 'please do this' or 'please do that'. I will use the word please when it is something of vital, interpersonal importance to Me.

If it is something as simple as hauling a load of something here or unloading it there, I might ask 'what would you think about doing 'thus and such', but I will rarely, if ever, ask 'please'.

If I DO use the word please, I expect the party listening to hear Me and take it to heart. As in 'please do not back over the ceramic pot at the edge of the driveway, I just planted it with pansies for winter.'

It's not that I'm ungrateful for the hours, expense or effort involved in his generous help and assistance rendered, quite the opposite. Taking the initiative to do something for Me fills My heart with sincere gratitude and it bonds Me ever more closely to the man who does so on My behalf.

When I suggest or prioritize a list of chores or mention something that I think would be a good idea, more often than not My beloved cadillacsub jumps at the opportunity and presents me with the 'fait accompli' in much better fashion that if I were to have done the task myself. Its kind of like saying 'Me hungry' and cave man jumps up, runs off, and in short order drags a deer carcass into the cave! I never ask him to 'please go kill us something for the spit, honey???'

All of that said, it came as a total surprise to Me when recently My beloved cadillacsub was a mite out of sorts. We were outside completing some chore when he quipped ".....PUHLEEEZE?????" after I had given some curt directive about something (I have actually forgotten now what it was that set him off).

I fumed in silence for awhile then forced a very gutteral "Puhleeeeeeeeeeze" out of my throat every single time we worked together on something.... as in 'set the hammer down on the tailgate of the truck "Puhleeeeeeeeeeze"!'

I was highly irritated at having been dictated to, in a very submissive way, that I really should be asking 'please' much more often than I do.

I have not yet modified my behavior, and it's highly unlikely that I will ask 'please' at every turn. But I will say this much for My cadillacsub: He got me thinking about the word 'please' much more often than I used to!

>> exits, laughing......

Texas Maam

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