Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Looking for classification..


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Looking for classification.. Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 4:20:41 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		I have been curious about this for a while and figure I would ask the pros.
Am I a dom, or a sub or a switch if I am a cuck. but not a normal cuck. more like a 'pimp / hoe' type cuck.
The humiliation side just does not apply with me at all. I am a Marine and you couldn't hurt my feelings on a good day but I am completely fascinated by a woman's sexuality to the point that the mere thought of having a girl friend who has regular sexual relations with other guys drives me wild to the point of making my knees buckle. I want her to show off to me how much fun she is having.
I am confident that a huge portion of my attraction must be pheromone related because I dated a girl who squirted and I would go completely insane when it happened.
I am equally as happy bring a couple of guys to her as I am with coming home to find her in bed with other (assuming she planned to be caught for our enjoyment).
Am I dom, switch, sub?

Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:06:35 AM   
BonesFromAsh


Posts: 1362
Joined: 6/17/2010
Status: offline 		Why do you need a label?

(in reply to wuzamarine)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:09:06 AM   
SolangeRichards


Posts: 170
Joined: 5/8/2005
Status: offline 		I'm not trying to be a smart alec or sarcastic but isn't really up to you to define who you are?

Keep in mind that you have asked a group of people who have never met you and know very little overall about you to put a name on you. Now, once getting that name, would/could your entire future play out in a certain direction based on their answer?

What if the group wound up giving you a wrong answer?

I know you are looking for some help. Read your own question. Think about what you want, what you need, how you want your life to be. Your answers are there, and they always were...

(in reply to wuzamarine)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:15:23 AM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline 		Labels limit by definition. Be yourself.

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to SolangeRichards)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:17:48 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		The question is actually pretty legit because I am missing a code word somewhere. 'Guy seeks slut' is just not working at all....

(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:20:37 AM   
Tantriqu


Posts: 2026
Joined: 12/29/2006
Status: offline 		Possibly bi-? Many would-be cuckolds are bisexual, closetted or not.
If it were 'just' the female ejaculation that was arousing you, that's relatively simply done in the privacy of your own monogamous relationship with an agile tongue and a video cam.
That you want to watch other guys having sex and 'catch' them at it raises other questions.

(in reply to SolangeRichards)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:23:34 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		I can honestly say that is not the case.
I did minor bi things like prep him for her. I was turned on by how much she was turned on.
After and much later I tried it on my own. It did absolutely nothing for me.
So, I am not bi.
I can honestly say that my attraction and nirvana is her, not him.
It's the way a woman moves and her ora when she is being highly provocative and down right slutty that makes me coco for coco puffs.


< Message edited by wuzamarine -- 11/21/2010 5:26:18 AM >

(in reply to Tantriqu)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:26:19 AM   
BonesFromAsh


Posts: 1362
Joined: 6/17/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

The question is actually pretty legit because I am missing a code word somewhere. 'Guy seeks slut' is just not working at all....



Kinky....but even that label will be limiting.

(in reply to wuzamarine)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:41:05 AM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline 		How bout something like, "Indescribably way out of the box guy seeks free-thinking woman."

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to BonesFromAsh)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:44:37 AM   
BonesFromAsh


Posts: 1362
Joined: 6/17/2010
Status: offline 		Works for me!

Is there a box to check for that online, though?


(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:47:24 AM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline 		We need a box that simply says "open-minded."
Chortles


_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to BonesFromAsh)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:54:41 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		OMFG, that's excellent!
Let's go for two for two here.
Then when is the perspective for male vs female so completely different even though many or most of us are looking for the exact same thing.
Common ground on a title is one thing. I seem to be having an issue communicating the rest of it as well.

You did so well on the first one.   :)

(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 6:42:24 AM   
peppermint


Posts: 5169
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		Why do you feel that enjoying watching your girl friend with other guys has anything to do with being a dominant, submissive, or a switch?  Is it so bad to be a plain vanilla guy who enjoys kink?  

(in reply to wuzamarine)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 6:44:44 AM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		Based on everything you've said, I can't tell.

If you tell her that she's going to be screwing two guys you're bringing home tonight, you're a Dom.

If she tells you that she wants you to bring home two guys for her, you're a sub.

The question is, who's in control?


_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

(in reply to peppermint)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 8:03:27 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Just because you happen to like a particular kinky scenario, doesn't mean you are any of the above.  So far, the only accurate description that I would have for you would be voyeur.  There's nothing in your post about control, power, or authority so nothing else really applies.

As to many of us looking for the same thing, the truth is, we're not.  Matching kinks isn't as easy as you seem to be thinking.  For example, a woman who might be interested in the sexual scenario that you describe above, might want more than just that in her life.  For example, if these are the types of play that a cuckholdress would enjoy, she may also want the whole package of only doing it with a submissive who is the person in control of the whole relationship.  It may be a submissive who is only willing to do this under the authority of a strong Dominant man.  Many people want a whole dynamic, not just a relationship based on spicy sex.


_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 10:37:27 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		Not sure exactly.
You may be right. I may be 'unclassificationable'.
A category ALL my own. The Brad category!
:)
Another party I will be the only member of......

(in reply to peppermint)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 10:40:35 AM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		I love both equally of what you list.
I'm just mad whacked and confused I guess.
I honestly though I was a dom for a while but when ever I started fantasizing about coming home to a woman in bed with a couple of guys, I figured a dom category kind of slipped through the cracks... and for that exact reason because everything else I enjoy is basically dom things.

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 12:31:53 PM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		I think you have provided the most valuable information yet.
I think you may have a very valid point. If I have zeroed in then that becomes a closed door for other options (or the appearance of ) to other looking in.
Grrrrrr.... The more I ponder it, the more I realize your correct. Basically, chill the fuck out.

I see that 10 yr mark again..........

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 2:06:19 PM   
MzMinx


Posts: 277
Joined: 12/26/2005
Status: offline 		Try looking up terms like 'hot wife' ... if what you are seeking is a woman who is sexually arroused by multiple partners, rather than the act of controlling who and how she is sexually active ... or being motivated by her desires to lead

(in reply to wuzamarine)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 2:26:04 PM   
wuzamarine


Posts: 34
Joined: 5/20/2009
Status: offline 		Oh how I wish that were the case. That is basically what I seek and enjoy. My warm fuzzy. But those are taken by definition. Hot "wife". I am not looking to be a third wheel. It's not just the sex I am after. It's the environment. The goofy jokes that come about from doing crazy shit. It's the interaction that comes from sharing really interesting experiences. It's being in a relationship where you power down so many of the typically walls and curiosities because you are neck deep in the middle of it.
Sex is a huge factor, but not for the expected reasons.

(in reply to MzMinx)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Looking for classification.. Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125